Any house wives out there?

Question

So, since my hus is gone for a little bit for the service, I want to know some stuff, and now seems like an ideal time to think it over, since I have some time on my hands...

What are the most important things about being a GOOD house wife? Like short cuts ot keep your marriage strong and healthy with keeping love along with the stress of bills and average everyday stuff we all have to face? How is the best way to handle stress with family, in laws, bills, insecurities and just average humanity?

What is the best way to keep yourself in shape and looking good for your husband while managing perhaps a career, children(though, I have no children yet, I am a newly wedd but they are soon to come)?

What is the best way to keep your day organized and doing the whole wife thing and being happy? If your just a housewife what are the best ways of keeping yourself busy and happy instead of bored and anxious?

come on! you know you wanna help! lol Thanks ladies...(or men with good advice)

Answer 1

Not a house wife  but have been married twice and have learned a a lot,   The most important thing to remember is to keep the lines of communication open and that means from him also,  Making decisions without talking about them is bad, especially if it dips into your income ,  Getting a hobby is a good thing ,, as long as that hobby doesn't take all of your time and your money,  Go back to shool and get apart time job, This does two things,, keeps you in the social arena and gives you something to talk about with your husband.  Keep in mind though that your husband has to come first and He MUST feel the same about you,, You MUST come first with him,,   Just a couple things that I have learned  

Answer 2

Okay. I'm not a housewife. I couldn't even play one on TV. I do know about excellence, though. It's like anything else you might do. Treat your job like it's worth doing like a professional. That means you study it. You try to be more efficient and more adept all the time. You never quit learning. Otherwise, you end the day drug out and wore out, and you will look it. Don't let it do to you anything you would not want your husband's job to do to him. For that matter, insist that his job not do it to him. You will spend more of your waking hours alone doing you job than you will spend with your spouse. So will your husband. You don't want him unloading the bad day all over you when he comes home. Don't unload the whole bad day on him. Oh, yeah. You talk about the day, but you do it with humor. (Okay. It will be hard to find humor one day when one kid's spewing from one end, and the other's spewing from the other, and the washer spit up, too. That's where you discover another thing to be good at.)

All time bottom line. Talk together and listen. When something bothers you, say it bothers you. And say it before it gets bigger, but don't say it while you're mad. The absolute most common last words in a marriage are, "I never knew."