Any ideas, adoptees...?

Question

does anyone know where i can start to work on finding my birth mother. i do not have her name, i do however know my birth last name, king. i know the hospital i was born ing, Wake med in Raleigh, NC, and obvisouly my birthdate. does anyone know of any way i can work on finding her? at least her name or some information? my mom once told me that my social security card has her name listed as my mother. how could i get a hold of that if it is true?

Answer 1

I was also adopted.

first contact the agency you were adopted thru, and make contact.  If your mother has contacted them then you may be in contact with her very soon.  I tried to make contact with my mother in 1989, and in 1994 she made contact with the agency about me.  When you make contact you are allowing permission for your family member to contact you, and visa versa.

second:  When contacting the agency be a nice as possible to the person who is on  the other end of the line.  They may find favor in you and give you a tad of information that could lead you to finding your BM.

third: This may sound crazy but The Mormon Library.  I know a little nutty, but I knew a PI and he always started there when he would look for someone.  A girlfriend of mine had him find her birth mom with about the same info as you, and he found her thru their library.  Here is a goggle page with leads that may help.

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&rls=c...

I hope I have helped, if not just to give you a few ideas and more info.

Answer 2

Also another great website for all members of the adoption triad is forums.adoption.com.  They have great support, people who help with searching, just a huge place to learn a ton about finding information and making contact. =)

Answer 3

Hi! Maybe this can help :)

also don't forget http://www.isrr.net

Nonidentifying information is available to:

The adoptive parent

The adult adopted person

A minor adopted person who is a parent or an expectant parent

The exchange of identifying information may be consented to by:

The natural parent

A guardian placing the child

The adoptive parents

Access to Nonidentifying Information

Citation: Gen. Stat. §§ 48-9-103; 48-3-205

Any person listed above may request a copy of any document prepared pursuant to § 48-3-205 and any additional nonidentifying health-related information about the adopted person’s original family. The information that is provided at the time of the adoptive placement includes:

The date of the child’s birth and any other reasonably available nonidentifying information.

The age of the natural parents at the time of the child’s birth

The heritage of the natural parents including nationality, ethnic background, and race

Education completed by the natural parents at the time of the child’s birth

The general physical appearance of the natural parents

All reasonably available nonidentifying information about the health and genetic history of the child, the natural parents, and other members of the natural parents’ families

Nonidentifying information about the adopted person’s present circumstances may be disclosed to a natural parent, an adult sibling, or the guardian of a minor sibling.

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Mutual Access to Identifying Information

Citation: Gen. Stat. § 48-9-109

In agency placements, a parent or guardian placing a child for adoption and the adopting parents may authorize an agency to release information to each other that could reasonably be expected to lead directly to the identity of an adopted person, an adoptive parent, or a natural parent. The consent to the release of identifying information

shall be in writing and signed prior to the adoption by any placing parent or guardian and the adopting parents and acknowledged under oath. Any consent to release identifying information shall be filed with the adoption petition.

Access to Original Birth Certificate

Citation: Gen. Stat. § 48-9-106

The original birth certificate is available upon order of the court, as authorized by § 48-9-105.

Where the Information Can Be Located

State Registrar

Search & Reform

http://adoptionreform-nc.org/

Answer 4

Hi La'Sarah,

Gershom gave some excellent advice there!

As for the Social Security information, it would not hurt to apply for a copy of your APPLICATION for your social security card.  The card itself only has your name on it.  The application will have parents' names too.  Check out link below.  Looks like you can do that online.    

Do register with International Soundex Reunion Registry, link below.  It's free.

Don't forget to get your non-identifying info from the adoption agency.

For online support for adoptees, join us at http://www.adultadoptees.org

Hope some of this helps too.  Best of luck in your search!

julie j

reunited adoptee

Answer 5

As far as Social Security Cards, they don't have one's parents' names on them.  If your first mother filled out the form for you to get a card, she would have signed that form.  But, the card will have your name and SS# on it.  

You could contact Social Security and see if you can get a copy of the original request form for your card.  

I have a paid subscription for Ancestry.com.  North Carolina has a birth index that is accessible via Ancestry.com.  I don't know if it can lead to anything, but possibly some information can be gathered by plugging your birth date and county into it.    If you're okay with me running a check for you to see what comes up, I'll do that.  I would just need to know your birth date since you already listed the other info I'd use.  If you'd like, you can email me the date from my profile page or just list it here.

Also, be sure to get your non-identifying information via the instruction Gershom gave you.  My non-id included my first parents' first names, which was extremely helpful in my search.

ETA:

The North Carolina birth index gives FULL names of the parents...so, if you're in there under your original birth, both of your first parents' names could be listed!!

I live in California.  Our index only lists the mothers maiden last  name.

Answer 6

Cant add much to the excellent advice already given here

Run your info through this site for possible matches

http://registry.adoption.com/

Oh and this one too - they also list people who aren't sure of dob's (like siblings, aunts etc that may be looking for you)

http://www.metroreunionregistry.org/inde...