Any ideas on how i can turn my life around?

Question

lots of things have gone wrong since i became poorly 7 months ago, i'm still ill and the doctors have given up trying to find out whats causing it, 4 or 5 days a week i have to stay in bed cos of feeling so poorly (terrible stomach pains/digestive and bowel problems) . college is screwed because i was off sick and all the work i did before now counts for nothing, i cant get a job when i'm like this either. my parents are looking after me and i hate sponging off my mum who's running into money problems cos of me, i feel so guilty, i dont think i could get any kind of benefits to help her tho cos my illness hasnt been diagnosed. my mum and dad are also on the verge of divorce, so being here is h**l. i've lost contact with a lot of friends and my boyfriend doesnt seem to want to spend time with me anymore, and a lady who is like a 2nd mother to me is dying of cancer...its like every aspect of my life is a mess right now and i dont know how i can go about trying to make things better when i'm ill (i cant see me being right any time soon) I wish i could improve a few aspects of my life at least cos it would help, i feel so depressed. has anyone got any ideas of how I can turn things around? thanks x

Answer 1

The first thing I would do in your situation is find another doctor. If the new doctor does not diagnose what is wrong then find another and another until you find the one that will help you. You cannot stress yourself out over the troubles your parents are having. Stress will make you feel worse. Where do you live? Do they have any sort of help for low income people? Maybe find a job online that you can do when you feel good.

Most of all you have to find the right doctor.

Answer 2

Don't feel depressed, instead get control.  Only you can make the difference.  

1.  Look for another doctor.  Do research yourself on the web (WebMD) regarding your symptoms.  Find a doctor who will truly help you and don't stop until you find the right one.

2.  Ask your doctor for a letter for your college.  Most colleges will credit you if you've been ill and can show proof.  Do on-line courses, one at a time until your done.  Don't give up.

3.  Your parents are your parents, not you.  You can't control their relationship so don't try to.  Same as your boyfriend.  Be there to listen but don't take sides.

4.  As for your friend who is dying, I'm sorry to hear that, very sad to lose a friend.  Tell her now how much you value her friendship and share those special moments with her now.

Last but not least:  MUST DO'S

1.  Grab a piece of paper and write down 2 things your like about yourself or have accomplished.  Everyday, write one more positive thing about yourself until you can list 30.

2.  Never, under any circumstance from this moment on, say or think anything negative about yourself.  Don't let anyone else put you downor say negative things to you.  The mind is a powerful thing.

Your future will be bright, happy, healthy and prosperous.

  

Answer 3

I don't know if you have any faith in the Lord or even know him. But you can seek him where you are. The Lord never gives us more than we can handle and can take all things and work them out for good. It is his strength that gets us through not our own. God Bless and prayers!