Any ideas suggestions?

Question

As we can not have children my sister in law has offered to have a baby for us

we have a lawyer we can use and are willing to

but is it legal and ok to do that

Answer 1

Sure, it's surrogacy!  I would get a lawyer and have the papers drawn up just in case.  I am not saying that you SIL will do anything awful...but cover yourselves.

Answer 2

It is legal, but it might become a sticky situation down the road.  I'm not sure I'd use my brother's wife to carry our baby.

Answer 3

It is legal so definitely get a lawyer. But the same process must be followed as with adopting an unknown child. each state has their own rules.  Homestudies, classes and other rules are just some examples.

Answer 4

Surrogacy.....yes it is legal and has been done before.  just make sure you do have a lawyer involved and make sure your sister in law understands that the baby will be yours....she could become attached during the pregnancy.

Answer 5

Check out...

www.surromomsonline.com

www.everythingsurrogacy.com

You will find lot's of information. And other's who are doing the samething for family. They even have sample contracts.

Good-Luck :)

Answer 6

Surrogacy is different from adoption.  Your local fertility specialist may be able to give you more information about surrogacy as I'm assuming you would need to go that route if you are planning to just have her carry "your" child.  

However, if you mean that she would plan to get pregnant with her own child and then place the child with you - that would be adoption.  

I'm not sure from your question though which you are referring to.  I'm sorry that I cannot be of more assistance without more details.

Answer 7

It is legal, but some states have specific laws governing various factors of surrogacy, differentiate between traditional surrigacy and gestational surrigacy, etc.  so having an attorney was a good idea.

Answer 8

First Wow!  You have a wonderful sister in law.  Second it is completely legal.  Of course you will still have to adopt the baby once he/she is born.  Talk with your sister-in-law and make sure she understands everything about being a surrogate.  Also discuss what you will tell the child when the child is older.  Don't try to hide it from the child because someone is bound to slip or he/she will over hear it is better to be honest.  Tell him/her that their Aunt ------ carried him/her for you because you couldn't.  And that they are very lucky to have such a wonderful Aunt in their lives.   Good Luck to all of you as you begin this exciting journey

Answer 9

Yes as the others said with all the right papers in place it is just fine. But I would really think hard about using a family member as your surrogate.. even if she will hand the baby over when he/she is bron she may wish to remain more involved in the baby's life than you would like...or if there is every tension in the family she *might* throw the fact that she gave you a baby back in your face. Not saying YOUR SIL is like this just saying think about the worst that could happen and consider if you would want to go through that with family.