Any mom's struggling with teenager girls? How do you deal with it?

Question

I have 2 teenaged girls....13 and 16. They are causing me much stress. Anyone else having this problem?

Answer 1

absolutley i pray for help!! : my girls are twins and boy do they hit hard when they want something yesterday they kept asking me if they could go to the movies for a double date so i said yes but then they wanted some money and drinks and seems i already said yes they argued with me that it isn't fair i would let them go because they didn't have the money to pay , also school can be hard for them they fight for individuality but because they are so alike its hard some times its so hard to be a mom of teenage girls

ADVICE : i just try to stay out of their way when they  are moody

take things away from them when they are playing up

and dont give in to them

they will eventually learn and it will be hard but then they will learn how to respect also i chat to them individually every night on my own so they can chat to me about any thing they like or ask for help (dont force them to talk)

good luck x

Answer 2

I forgot the author, but you WANT to read

"Stay Out of My Life But First Could You Drive Me and Cheryl To the Mall?"

It shows you what the handle looks like & how to grasp and hold it tight.

"Fasten your seat belts, we're in for a bumpy ride"

Tiger(s) by the tail, huh?!

Answer 3

I've not got girls but I have got boys (16,14,12) and I know they can be a handful sometimes. I've found the best way is to be their friend. My boys will come to me about absolutely anything and they know they can ask me anything. I don't know how parents can have a relationship with their children when they don't know anything about them. Just show them they can talk to you about everything, and that you're interested in their lives not poking about.

Answer 4

I am NOT A MOM (wnna make that clear)

Im actually fifteen years old. I just want to give some advice. My parents have been amazing at keeping my brother and me on track. IO love them with all my heart for this. They do this by ebing strict with both of us, the old fashion way (yes the wooden spoon if we are really bad). No back talking, no rude remarks, no acting oversmart, etc. School is also a top priority. My brother and I are expected to stay on the high honor roll and they do all to help me keep my grades up. Nop T.V or computer on the weekdays.

I think if its causing you a lot fo stress, just come down hard on them. Yeah theyll pout and groan and whatever, but theyl thank you. Another thing, dont spoil them a lot. Make them want and work for what they want. It always works for me.

Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 5

Anyone with teenagers is probably going through the same things as you are - although it feels that you are alone sometimes.

My dad bought me a book when my twins were 12......... they are 16 now.

Yes, Your Teen is Crazy!: Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind by Michael J. Bradley (Paperback - Feb 25, 2003)

They have it on amazon.com new and  used. It helped alot!  

Answer 6

Teenage Girls... Im a teenage girl, and dont think I cause my mom stress. But Im home-schooled so, I dont really get into trouble.

All teens cause stress.

your question wasnt real specific though

Answer 7

Just think back to when you were that age, and remember that it's hard for them, too. Being a teenager is confusing. You hear conflicting advice from parents and friends as well as television and magazines. Plus all those raging hormones! It's easy (especially for girls, I think) to want to control all these things that they can't control. This makes them frustrated, and then they lash out at their poor mothers.

Just try to be compassionate, but don't forget that kids need parents, not parents that act like best friends. Good luck! (I'm sure they'll appreciate you in about 10 years.)

Answer 8

Buy yourself a paddle and USE it.

Answer 9

alot of girls have s*x at the age of 12 and are loose by the age of 16. the parents never know. you should be even more stressed out then you already are. and some parents arent having that problem because they are oblivious.  

Answer 10

I have 3 children...my Daughters are 13 next month and 17...my Son is 14 1/2...you don't really give an indication as to what sort of Stress your Girls are causing you,, so I am assuming it is just the run of the mill Teen-Age Girl Angst...they ALL do this...SOME more than others..I believe I am Fortunate,I have raised TWO Pretty Awesome Girls...BUT they DO have their MOMENTS....such as my oldest went to a Party and drank a couple of weeks ago...WE worked it out but I am disappointed in her decision to be irresponsible that night (at least she didn't drive...and for that I am ETERNALLY Grateful) She has made a couple of other POOR choices in her lifetime...but for the MOST PART I couldn't be Prouder of HER...My youngest  is a FUNNY,WITTY...Smart-Mouth, she too has her moments...but nothing I can't handle...I'm sure as SHE gets older it will become a little tougher since she seems to be a bit more Hard-Headed than her Sis', BUT I will find a way to deal and ENJOY them as I always have...Remember Mom...it is NOT easy for them to grow up in today's Society...Pressure from ALL Angles and Sides...Be there for them..let them know THEY are your most PRECIOUS TREASURE...Things WILL work Out..I PROMISE~~Aloha and Blessings~~Michelle~~

Answer 11

i am a teenage girl! and just try to remember back wen  u were a teen and wanted to do the things they wanna do! have patience for them cuzz being a teen is rlly stressful they prob.ly dont tell u half of the things that go on in their lives. watch the secret lifew of the american teenager for experience!

Answer 12

Teenagers cause stress for all teenager parents.  Next question.

Answer 13

Well when I'm 20 now, but when I was a teen and lived at home, I know I was a real brat to my mom. I'm glad she didn't try to harshly discipline me because I probably wouldn't have listened anyway. But I know that if you try to understand them and how they feel about things, they will see you are trying to help them and aren't trying to be the bad guy. Instead of trying to flat out tell them no about something, try to compromise. Like for instance if they wanted to go to their friends' house until midnight, I'd say something like, "No, you're not staying out that late. But if you can start helping me out around the house (or whatever you'd like them to do more of), maybe I'll think about letting you have a later curfew". Compromising always helps :) Good luck!

Answer 14

ALWAYS!!!! she hate my bf she wouldnt let me go to the movies wit him. When she fanily sed yess I found my uncle and cousin in the sam theater . Shes so0o0o0 sneky. I told her that is she won't give me my space then Im goin to interupp her and she bf soo she stopped and now were married and have 2 twins!