Any mothers out there ? if so please help.?

Question

My daughters four and she has really bad night terrors and they cause her to wet the bed. at night she won't go to bed without world war 3.she wont even tell me what the dreams are about. im really worried. is there anyhthing i can do to help her feel safe in her own home again ? please help x*x

Answer 1

well if she is afraid of monsters or anything like that then take a spray bottle and fill it with water of something that smells good and tell her it is monster spray spray it all over her room under her bed in the closet etc you can even tape a picture of a monster with an x over its face on it if you want it to be more beliveable

Answer 2

Nightmares or Night terrors.

With Night terrors the child will generally not remember the dream with the exception of a general feeling of panic and fear.

Night terrors the child will tend to scream, moan, gasp, flail ect but not actually be awake or responsive though their eyes may be open.  Then can last 10 to 30 minutes.

For night terrors there are a few things you can do to help but general the child will outgrow them.  

First make sure you child is getting enough sleep.  Too little sleep is a major contributing factor.

Reduce sugar and elimate any caffiene ie cola, chocolate, ice tea ect.  

Make sure the child is eating and drink last at least an hour before bed time and at very regular times.

With a night terror different then with a night mare, don't try to wake the child as it tends to result in an altered state of consciousness rather than wakefulness at which point they may hurt themselves or others inadvertantly.  Stay close during the night terror to make sure your child stays safe while riding it out.

For true night terrors it is often recommended that the child be allowed to sleep with the light on if they habitually come part ways awake.  This helps with a sense of orientation.

If these nightterror have been going on for a long times here's something copied from AboutKidsHealth.

"Dr. B. Lask of London has found a new way to eliminate this distressing sleep pattern in 90% of children. For several nights, note how many minutes elapse from the time your child falls asleep to the onset of the night terror. Then begin awaking your child every night 15 minutes before the expected time of the night terror. Remind your child to "wake up fast." Keep your child fully awake and out of bed for 5 minutes. Continue these prompted awakenings for 7 nights in a row. If the night terrors return when you stop awakening your child, repeat this 7-night training program."

I'd recommend using this opportunity for a potty break too.

One last thing.  Ask your relatives for help as night terrors are often hereditary and their experiences may be helpfull.

Silly little things to comfort:

We have a whole series of bed time kisses:

One to keep the scaries away.

One to keep monsters away.

One for night night

One for I love you.

What do you do if you see a monster?  

Tell it: MONSTER GO AWAY! (monsters have to listen)

Oh no there's a crocodile.  Eat it with peanut butter!

Wait that's a nice crocodile.  Feed it some fish.

Alligator pie, If I don't get some I think I'm going to cry.

It's a shark! Quick throw sticky bubble gum at it!

Basically though these things are imaginary to our son that doesn't mean he doesn't find them frightening. We find it works best to allow him to engage in the scarey play and guide his roll play to be empowering.

Answer 3

my cousin just turned 5 she lived with us a large part of her life. and since her dad took her back shes had terrible nightmears, resulting her to wet the bed as well.

She recently moved back, so were dealing with this one night at a time.

We started off with no eating or drinking after 7:30, bed time is at8:30. and a bath before bed.

Just be consitante and reassure her that your not leaving. Youll be there if she wakes up having a nightmear.

maybe you could get her to draw about what she saw in her dream. or write it  i know shes only four haha. but a way for her to get it out of herself.

good luck

Answer 4

I use to do the same thing. I had crazy nightmares and thought I saw some scary thing in my bedroom at night. I still remember them.

You can get her a night light...and pray with her before she goes to bed. This comforted me. Also tell her that Angels are always protecting her...and she has no reason to be afraid when they are around. :-)