Any of you adopted?

Question

how do you feel about it?

Answer 1

Yes, I am a adoptive mother as well as a foster mother!!  I feel a great amount of respect for a birthmother who can put their unborn child's needs befor their own.  If it wasn't for our birthmother's we would have never had a family !!  God Bless them!!!

Answer 2

Im adopted.  I feel great about it. On most days I dont even think about it.

Answer 3

my sits   has 2 beautifully girls from kenia and they are the most adorable girl i ever seen

Answer 4

i was adopted when i was a baby, only a couple of months old so i dont' remember anything.

but i went through some trauma growing up, i had a great need to know things that i know will be really hard for me to find out now.  i have trouble dealing with it sometimes because i feel like a part of me is missing and i will never be able to know it.  i wonder what life would've been like if i was still with my biological family.  i feel that in terms of nature and nuture, sometimes nature is something that can possibly be more powerful than how you were raised because there are some ways that i behave that are very much like the culture i have been adopted from.  and even though i have never lived there, i carry some of these things with me.  i think it's very interesting.

Answer 5

i had a time when i was about 13 or 14 that i really struggled with it.  i think that was because i was the only person in my school that was adopted. and that is such a rough age anyway, but i pulled through it.

i am perfectly comfortable with being adopted. i knew growing up there was a reason and i had a very stable home. overall i do feel it was a blessing for me. i have met my birthmother, i never felt the need to ask her why. she finally just told me one day.  i think she thought she needed to explain. it was just what i had expected. too young, immature and financially unstable. she is a brave woman and i respect her.

i do know some that really take it to a bad place, they blame birthmothers for everything from fat thighs to choices they made that got them arrested. i actually had one guy (not knowing i was also adopted) tell me it wasnt his fault he had been arrested so many times, he was adopted, that was all his problems. i laughed right in his face. how pathetic is that?

blaming someone else because he commited breaking and entering, drunk driving and physical assult.

being adopted does not represent who i am, it simply identifies where i came from. i have thanked my birthmother several times and i love having her in my life, but she is not and will never be 'mom' to me. i have a mom and dad already.

not to mention it comes in handy when my hillbilly, nasty cousin is around, i always joke that i am not genetically connected to him. *thank god!* i love him, but i am certainly happy i dont share a gene pool with him.

Answer 6

I’m not adopted, but four of my aunts and uncles are.  In my family it is not a big deal, just the way it is.  My Grandparents were wonderful people that gave a loving, accepting home to their natural, adopted and foster children.  I never knew there was even a difference, but the facts were never hidden, and everyone is treated exactly the same.  In my family everyone is encouraged to be their own person, and so what if we all look different.

Most have a relationship with their birth parents, and it has been encouraged.

If you are thinking about adopting, go for it!  If you are thinking about giving a baby up for adoption, then again go for it!  If you are adopted, give your parents a big hug and thank them for being great parents that choose you, and if you have a relationship with your birth parents hug them too for giving you a better life.

Answer 7

I'm adopted. I felt it was great. I got to have a life I would never of had if I stayed with my birthmom. I got adopted by a family who loved me enough to put up with me. I always liked having two families.

Answer 8

I love it! I was adopted at birth, and I feel so special. To me it means that my mom and dad wanted me enough to go through so much trouble to get me.

This is one of my faveorite "quotes"

One day a young girl in kindergardten or first grade was asked by her teacher to explain explain adoption to the class because she was adopted. The little girl said:

"It just means that I grew in my mommy's heart instead ofher tummy!"

I love that and think that is exactly true! My mom and I are best friends and even look so much alike!

In short, being adopted is one of my traits I'm most proud of!

Answer 9

I am adopted and I am not really sure how I feel.  Most days, it doesn't cross my mind, but from time to time wonder what lives my biological relatives are living and if they ever think about me (the typical stuff, I think).  

Please tell me if anyone has been/is in a similar situation as this:

My fiance and I are both adopted, but he and I have VERY different views on the subject.  We are thinking about starting a family and I want to search for information on family medical history as well as just knowing more about where I came from.  My fiance thinks it's a waste of time and has this "who cares" attitude about the whole thing.  He pulls the "are you happy?" routine and when I say yes, he says "who cares where you came from."  I want to do genetic testing to see if we are carriers for any "major" diseases, disorders, etc.  He says "does it matter? we are going to love our kids no matter what" and I know we will, but we need to make sure that we can financially support a child who may need more medical attention than the average child.

Answer 10

my best friend is adopted, and she loves it. she has never wondered who her birth parents are or wanted to meet them. she says, "if they didnt want me or couldnt keep me at birth, there's no point in trying to meet them. they gave me up for a reason and im happy with my family."

Answer 11

i was not adopted. were u?

Answer 12

Yes,i was at 6 weeks old.I had a huge problem with it in my teens.Now i really appreciate what a wonderful family i grew up in.

Answer 13

yes im adopted and i cant speak for everybody else i have mixed feelings about it sometimes i wondered why my birth mother gave me up and i would be mad about it cause i felt like she just gave me up because she didnt love me and whats worse, it was a closed adoption that even hurt more. i feel that i should have the right to know who my birth parents are because i have 3 sons and heaven forbid if anything happens that one of them come down with a certain sickness that is hereditary what can my adoptive family do for me in a situation like that? i love my adoptive parents to death but im always going to feel that void i have for my birth mother and to know that i have younger siblings and a whole other side of the family that i dont even about it just not right

Answer 14

Me and my sister are adopted from two different families and we are both happy about it.  I read that some adoptees have found their biological parents and are happy to have both sets, but I myself have chosen not to look, I have a mom, dad and a sister that I am happy with.

Answer 15

I am. My parent's weren't the best, but who's are? I'm sure my birth parents would have been worse, or maybe not. The one thing my parents did that was right was tell me at a young age. That way I grew up knowing it, and it was never a big deal to me.

    I've wondered occasionally, but not enough to bother taking action.

Answer 16

I am a 50 year old female who was adopted at six weeks.  All I can say is.....how wonderful a life I was given.  I would like to be able to tell my biological parents "thanks" for such an unselfish act in giving me up, I couldn't have had a better life than the one I was given.

Answer 17

I was adopted and it depends what kinda parents you got.Like if I still lived with the ppl who took care of me then maybe i wouldnt have a great life like right now.See i didnt even know my birth mom or dad only these ppl that took care of me.I was put up by adoption by them bc they didnt have enough like money to take care of me and stuff.Then my mom right now adopted me and i figured out if i wasnt adopted then i wouldnt have a great life like right now.And yeah every now and then i wish i knew who my parents were but hey if they loved you then they would have tried to keep you.But something tells me if your real parents gave you away theres a reason why they want you to be happier then you would have been with them.

Answer 18

Yes I was, I am proud of it and have never been ashamed to admit it. I am also very lucky to have had the parents who raised me as their own and have never felt any need (more than occasional, idle curiosity) to find my birth parents

Answer 19

i was adopted were you? and i feel like **** every day because i know were the all live and i met my birthmother and a sister and i got another sister and a brother and they dont even know im alive just horrible every day sorry

Answer 20

I was adopted when I was 8.  I lived with my biological mother till I was five.  Knew her, saw her, and loved her.  Unfortantly she was a drug addict.  She was unable to take care of me and my siblings.  So she signed her rights away and left.  For the longest time, i have felt hurt and mad at her, but now that I am an adult, I know she just did the one thing she knew she could to make sure we were ok.  Unfortuantley she died back in 1995, before I could find her and tell her that I forgave her for what she did.  And it breaks my heart to this day.  I was lucky and the family that adopted me adopted my sister 6 years later.  All of my siblings got split up.  I recently found my brother Johnny two in a half years ago.  But I still have another sister out there that I havent been able to find.  She is 19 years old and her name is Kimber Nicole Lang.  the ironic thing about al this is that my mother and sister lived in Iowa(where I am from) during the time she died.  they only lived 2 hours away fro me the whole time.  it hurts knowing that they lived that close to me and I knew got to see them or get to know them.  Now my mom is gone and I cant find my sister, but I have found my b iological family.  Alll my aunts and uncles of my mom and They all remember me and my sister(the one that got adopted by the same family).  So i have alot of mixed feelings and wish i had some answers to some things.  But eventually I will  I have faith that i will

Answer 21

I was in Colombia  (Colombian)

When I was 6 days old...I'm fine with it, I think I'm very lucky I have home, a family, education, and a whole lot of possibilities!

My brother is also adopted too ....

I'll be honest ...personality wise I'm very different to the rest of my family...

My dad has bipolar and my life has been a h**l of a journey, however....

I'm 22 now, these days my life is what I make it.

no complaints! =)

Answer 22

I was adopted, i feel like no ones there for you, you parents give you up for no reason, and they hand you to strangers

Answer 23

I was adopted by my aunt when I was born. My birthmom wasn't ready for a 3rd child and my aunt (legal mom) couldn't have kids. Yay me! My life is alot better than what it would have been if I wasn't adopted. I also recently (last month) gave my 3rd child up for adoption and she was adopted by my cousins (pretty much the same situation). People kept telling me it would be the hardest decision I would ever make, honestly it was the easiest. I knew she was going to a great family and she would get the attention and care that she needs. I have a 4 year old and a 2 1/2 year old and they occupy most of my time. So along w/ finances I was worried I wouldn't be able to offer my time evenly to all of my kids. So I knew it was the best decision I could make.

Very happy about it, about all of it.

Answer 24

Yes I am and very proud of it.I have had a chance to know my bio Mother and am so grateful that she thought of me first and gave me a life I would have never had, had she been selfish. So to her I say Thank You and May God Bless. To my adopted parents ( now deceased) I had a wonderful life always loved and cared for, They chose me so therefore I was special and they always let me know that.

Answer 25

Me not but 2 of my friends are

Answer 26

I am and I feel fine about it.  I'm with the family god wanted me to be with. I've never had any desire to find my biological parents. Nor have i ever felt out of place in my family, felt i was missing something.  I respect my birthmother for having me. In The little I know of her,  I was far better off and have had a better life, then I would have had had I stayed with her.  I don’t feel like birthmother gave me to strangers actual I was adopted through foster care. I was too young to know anything my family has had me since I was 3 weeks old, thus they are not the strangers but my birthfamily would be the strangers.