Any one else been adopted and found their birth family.?

Question

i just have. and a just wanted to know if their was any more sucsess stories. it has filled in the gap that was missing. its still in the early stages. can any one share a little bit of their experience with me?

Answer 1

I found my bparents...and lots of answers to lots of questions.  I quickly realized that I don't like them very much and we now have no contact.  However, the rest of the family is great.  I have lots of contact with them.  

Go slow.  Don't believe everything they tell you.  Don't make yourself vulnerable in ways that aren't really necessary...they may be your blood relatives, but they are also total strangers.  Ask lots of questions--and make notes about the answers.  So much new information is overwhelming at times.

Answer 2

Great advice from both!  Good luck..don't push..be thankful she loved you enough to place you with the family you have.

Answer 3

I found my first mom last summer.  Overall, it's been a very positive experience for me.  "Filling in gaps," as you put it, seems a very apt description of the experience.

That doesn't mean that there have been any difficulties along the way.  Trying to relate to someone who seems to fit so well, but who's been missing for decades seems a tricky business.  

I would second Possum's recommendation to come to the forum...  Lots of good people there to talk to...

http://www.adultadoptees.org/forum/index...

Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Hiya Gaz!

Congrats on finding them - I have also.

My reunion has been extremely slow - and even frustrating at times - but I am SO glad to have found the answers to the questions that I have been asking for so very long.

Filling the gap - great description!

I have also found a bio sis - who was also adopted out before me - and we are so very alike - we have a great relationship.

Here are some links to many adoptees that are blogging out their in internet land - all in various stages of search and reunion -

http://www.adultadoptees.org/forum/index...

And here is a link to the BEST adoptee support forum I've found on the internet - by adoptees - for adoptees -

http://www.adultadoptees.org/forum/index...

Definately take things really slow. These things tend to go through stages - as time goes on - and taking things slow means that it usually lasts a lot longer - hopefully for the rest of your lives!

I wish you all the very very best.

Answer 5

I've been in reunion with my daughter for almost 9 years now. It has been most difficult finding time to spend together and I honestly think that is why our reunion is so successful. We talk almost every day but only get to see each other about 1 or 2 times a year. We dont' judge each other about anything. We are both adults now and have an adult friendship. It hasn't been hard for me to have a relationship with her but going back to the not so wonderful times in my life in order to answer some of those questions you refer to wasn't always easy either. Give lots of respect to the effort being made to answer your questions and gooo slowwww. I cried for months on and off. Mostly tears of relief but an emotional experience none the less. Some people really can't relive those days, as disapointing as this might be for you respect it and maybe in time you will get those answers. It was a very emotional journey for both of us, but soooo worth it.

Answer 6

yea.

both my  cuzins were.

they did

Answer 7

I was adopted when I was very young... I never really longed to look for my birth mother other than to find out what she looked like or her medical history, and maybe some answers to questions...  I don't know.. it's great that you have found here.. congratulations... take it slow though... I am sure you have plenty questions you want answered...