Any single women adopted children?

Question

How was your dating life after you adopted as a single parent?

Answer 1

Im not a single parent, but I wonder if a single man would accept an adopted child  easier than your birth child, because another man isnt involved. I know many dont want to deal with the custody drama, and the other man still being around so I wonder if it would be much more accepted? Sorry that didnt answer you question.

Answer 2

I agree with Robin.  Also my perspective has totally changed.  I always think, will he be a good role model; father  for my son?

Answer 3

when i get older i do not wanna adopt i think it all depends

Answer 4

Single women can't adopt. adoption requires an adopted mother and father. not just one. child services and hte adoption agency want ot be sure htat the child will have 2 parents to care for it and they will be a family. they wont give a child to a single parent bc they just want there children to have families which includes a mother, father, and siblings(if possible).

Answer 5

Why limit your question to single women who've ADOPTED?  Any single mom can tell you what dating with children is like. It matters not if your children were adopted, or born or hatched or left on your door step in the middle of the night during the summer solstice.  

Single parent dating is difficult, challenging, complicated. And much easier to accomplish when you at least have an ex to share the kids with so on HIS (or HER) weekend, you can go out all you want without your dating/love life damaging or GF "scarring' your child(ren) for LIFE.  

Do you want to be a PARENT, or do you want to play the field.  And I'm not talking soccer here...although that is a GREAT place to pick up newly divorced dads!  Keep that in mind!  (wink wink)

Anyway, being a parent is a FULL TIME, FULL BODY CONTACT, mind eating, all absorbing COMMITMENT, stronger than the MARRIAGE kind.  Being a parent should be your FIRST priority & primary consideration.  Dating should be a FAR, FAR distant oh....126th? Maybe?

Good luck...(to your kids, that is...)

ETA: I did date quite a bit as a single parent, BTW. Mostly on the weekends my kids were with their dad. They did meet some of my BF's. But ALWAYS, my kids came first. There are a LOT of selfish people out there. I expected I'd be single the rest of my life, or at least until my children were grown; b/c I wasn't willing to push my kids to the background for my own sake or the sake of my "love life".  

Eventually I found a guy as unbending as I am about HIS kids. Without ever having to talk about it, we both KNEW and agreed that our kids came first.  HE was WORTH dating, loving, marrying...and he IS a wonderful, loving husband, dad, step-dad, friend, love, now grandpa to OUR grandkids.  

So...thumbs down away! Don't care what you say. I can only tell you from my own EXPERIENCE of being a single parent for 13 years  & knowing what some men expect/ask for.  

My kids ALWAYS came first!

Good luck...

KUDOS to you Kristy! You're so RIGHT ON!

Girliegirl~your so right. It doesn't require 2 parents to raise a child successfully. HOWEVER, parenting is difficult enough WITH 2 parents!  It's 3 times harder as a single parent! Still possible & rewarding, but not the "ideal" for either parent or child. (Trust me! As a parent you can use the added emotional & financial support!)

Tho, I do believe it's better than a home with 2 miserable, fighting parents.

Answer 6

I know that this doesn't answer your question but to the person who answered above me, single women can most certainly adopt children. Thankfully society has realized that it does not require two parents to successfully raise children.