Any suggestion for my marriage?

Question

I'm going to propose to a Chinese woman. We love each other very much. I know little madarin, but she speaks English well. I wonder if there is anything I should pay attention to before marriage. Any suggestion would be appreciated. thanks!

Answer 1

You know I really don't think so. Just follow you heart.

Answer 2

well thats good you do. well im not kidding. i felt bad back then. my ex gf and i we were neighbors we had over 100 arguments. that lots of work. try not to argue much.  

Answer 3

be careful,,,, many people marry for VISA to the other country.

and you won't ever know until the day the run off  

Answer 4

Prenuptual agreement

Her family's expectations

Where you want to live

Are you sure you want the same things in your future? (ie. kids etc)

etc

etc

Answer 5

You have to be prepared to have a good relationship with your in-laws, asian families are very close and they respect their elders more, to make your in-laws happy, take them to eat out often and offer to pay the bill.

Answer 6

Try to learn about her culture and show her that even if there is little that you know that you are at least trying to have an interest in where she came from. Also, share things about american culture with her that may be different from Chinese culture. Pay attention to how their children are raised, expectations from family-especially father, how are her brothers and sisters (if she has any) and are they accepting you into their family as a whole? You want to make sure your family accepts her, and make sure she knows what your family will expect of her as well. In marriage, it is a 80/20 thing. Marriage is rarely ever 50/50. One person always seems to be giving more. You know what though, that is okay because it seems like the one giving more is always doing something above and beyond what they actually thought they were capable of doing. In marriage, we have fun, we cry, we fuss, but we stay together and support the other when they are weak. We love the other when they need love, and they love us back as well. Remember to show her you care even when you do not know what you care about, tell her she is the prettiest girl in the world when she wakes up on bad hair days, and just cuddle her without s*x sometimes without her having to ask to be held. One more thing-the woman is always right =)

Take care and congratulations on taking that step!!

Answer 7

one of my relatives and two of my acquaintances have married to Chinese women for years. All of them look very happy and love their wives. Chinese women are very nice, smart , hard working and family oriented. But I as a stranger can't tell you what to do. Listen to your hart.

Answer 8

Hi, I been engaged over 2 years and still do not want to get married yet. You have to see the bad and the good of your spouse. The bad try to fix it. the good continue loving her and being there for her and everything possible to make it last and be sure if u want to marry. I love my fiance very much no matter what.Just before you get married try to watch and see what doesn't work in he relationship that u guys can fix. It's always suppose to be 50/50 in a marriage  

Answer 9

I would be aware of cultural differences and be sure the differences are things you can accept and live with. Get to know her family because you are marrying them as well. Pre-Marital counseling may bring out some issues you both need to consider.