Any tips on making a marriage at a young age work?

Question

To anyone who are older and married, what age did you get married? How long have you been married? And what are the best tips to making a marriage work, especially when you're young?

Answer 1

Well  I am 23 and i got married when i was twenty..everyone said not to because i was too young and there would be many problems...but let me tell you that problems everyone has them.. no matter what age..it's part of life and relationships...no one has a perfect relationship..i guarantee you that..just know that things do get hard and complicated at times..but together i am sure you can overcome all that..good luck..hope it was some kinda help...

Answer 2

Go to strip clubs together!

:)

Answer 3

Communication, consideration and respect are the best tips for a successful marriage between a young and old couple.  

Answer 4

I am 20 and my fiance is 23 and we are getting married in 6 months.

first of all you cant "make" a marriage work. If you are having problems now, before you get married then you need to work those out before you tie the knot, b/c they are not going to get any better/easier after you get married!

A marriage either works or it doesnt, dont force it to try and make it work b/c then you will not be happy. If its small petty stuff then that will always be there and yall just have to learn how to deal with them or discuss them as adults!

good luck!

Answer 5

good luck.  on my 2nd marriage.  married the first time at age 19.  was married for 14 years.  she cheated, we divorced.  ----  Good luck!!!!

Answer 6

my parents got married @ 22 & 28. They tell each other everything. (I'm backing up what everyone has said about communication.) Now they've been married for a while!

If you have trouble being completely open with the guy, then he's not for you.

Also keep this in mind: if you had any long-term goals before meeting the person, don't give them up just to marry the person. either get married and continue to reach for those goals or put off getting married until you reach your goals.   i.e. don't drop out of college to get married, because later you will regret it and going back to college may be difficult if you have kids.

Answer 7

Respect eachother, share household duties equally, have s*x regularly that you both enjoy and do spend time apart aswell, with friends, its not good to be stuck in eachothers pockets 24/7

Answer 8

Communication!!!  It is first and foremost the most needed characteristic of a healthy marriage.  It's right up there with respect and love!

Answer 9

First and for-most you have to go into a marriage knowing it's going to work and be willing to commit on making it work.  It's not easy & quite frankly one of the hardest things in this day and age to accomplish.  Fact is that times have changed and people are just giving up to easy.  I got married right at the age of 18 & on the the 13th of this month we celebrated 8 years of marriage "HARD WORK" .

And don't listen to the people who say it can't work!  My parents were married at the age of 19 and 30 years later they are still going strong.

regardless of if you get married at 18 or 40 all you can do love each other unselfishly and be willing to work through just about anything even when you just want to give up!!!  Best of luck to you....

Answer 10

i got married at 18 and we've been married 36 years come Monday.  My advise is to always be honest, telling each other how you are feeling and never go to bed mad.  

Answer 11

Married at 23, which some people do not find that young but once we were in the marriage we both realized that we should have waited.  We've now been married 5 years but took a lot of work.  Almost divorced twice and did a weekend marriage counseling therapy.  It takes so much work to make a marriage last and when you marry young you realize how immature you still are.  Now, I know why people wait until their late 20's early 30's to marry.  Keep the communication lines open at all times and lots of s*x.

Answer 12

My grandparents got married at 17 & 20. There secret was life long commitement to each other, when the going got tough, they stuck it out together for BETTER OR WORSE, in SICKNESS or in HEALTH, they did things they loved together, there was equal respect, basically they loved each other for over 60 years no matter what happend they had each other to count on

Answer 13

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Answer 14

Get over the pressure to be like the serials on tv.

If you married because you enjoyed each other, than it should fit that you share, do things together.

Hanging out with friends not including the spouse is a no no.

After 47 years I still enjoy looking at her across the table.

Her smile is uplifting.

Her temper is something else.  I still haven't figured it out.

The grandkids love her, so do I

Answer 15

How young do you mean?  Many people think I got married too young, and that was at the age of 22.

I think it's important to realize that married life is not a fairy tale.  There's no fairy godmothers... You have to work hard at every day.  You need to be open and honest.  You need to have respect for each other.  You need to realize you will not always agree on every little thing and compromise is necessary.  Avoid hurtful speech. Think before you say something you may regret.  You cannot take back words, and sometimes the pain lingers long after the argument has been had.  Never sleep in separate rooms.  If you are arguing, stay up and talk it out - and go to bed together.  Never hesitate to say you're sorry.  Admit your failings and work on them.  Do not be overly critical.  Do not criticize or talk bad about your spouse in front of other people.  Say "I love you" every day, and show it!

Those are the more important ones I can think of.. though there are many more.

Answer 16

I got married at 20 my husband was 21.  I think the reason our marriage is so strong is b/c we dated for 3years.  We really got to know each other.  We have the same views on every (money, kids, God etc...)  Also keep every single vow you take, and you won't have a problem.  Always remember to be grateful for each other.  Talk about the big things and small things.  Remember after you get married you are one.  We share everything.

Answer 17

The best way to make a marriage work when you are young is to wait until you are older. LOL

Answer 18

If you are truely serious, then I recommend you buy two books. "10 stupid things girls do to mess up their lives." & "Proper care and feeding of Husbands." by Dr. Laura (see below)

Patience is the #1 key in a good marriage. Good Luck.

Answer 19

I got married at 21.  Key to my marriage has been communication.  Keep the phone line open and be completely honest.