Any way to find my BIOLOGICAL parents!?!?

Question

i was born in vegas nevada and adopted to oklahoma at birth

my parents now do not wish at ALL to share the info on my birth mother. If they knew i was even curious they'd be upset...i tried asking them for it a few years ago and there was no way of getting it through their head im just curious. they see no reason for me wanting to find them.

ANY HELP here!?!?!

Answer 1

your parents are mean

Answer 2

I'm so sorry your parents are afraid to share the information with you.  If you are 18 I think you have legal rights to the information, but I am not sure where to tell you to start.  I would sit down with your parents and let them know that you do not mean to hurt them and they should not be afraid that they are going to "lose" you to them - you just want to know who they are.

Answer 3

im very sorry to me that sounds totally unfair i think you need to sit down with them and tell them "listen i know you may not want me to know but i have just as much of right or even more of a right then you do to know who my biological parent is and i want to know because you are being totally unfair and unreasonable" i really hope you find out if all else fails if you know your real last name see if you can find your families geneaology book! online or at a library or somthing.

Answer 4

EVERY adopted child/adult has the right to know where he/she came from...if you are of age, seek out the court in the county, state the adoption was finalized.  Write a letter to the judge asking to open the records.  It cannot hurt your situation...I allowed my son to seek out his birthmother when he was 14...I helped him find out where she was located.  We did not approach her until he was sixteen.  Prior to meeting his birthmother, we visited with his great-grandmother and have visited each year since.  Not only did my son find his birthmother, I now have an extended family.

Answer 5

First you will have to find the adoption agency that set it up, most likely in Vegas. Then you would have to check with them to see if they will find your file and open it without a court order. In the mean time see if you can look at a copy of your birth certificate and any other paper work you can get your hands on. Don't for get that the name you got might not be the one you where born with. There is a lot more you can do but this should keep you busy for a year or so.

Answer 6

Do check out the links Gershom gave you.

Also here are some other places to check -

Add your details to the registries here

http://www.isrr.net/

http://registry.adoption.com/

Check here for search help - and links to FREE search angels -

http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org/

And check here for any support - it's the best online forum for adoptees I've found -

http://www.adultadoptees.org/

All the very best with your search.

Answer 7

Dear Roxy,

I iwsh I could help ya out...but am sorry...i'm not familiar with these stuff! Perhaps, all I could tell ya is about DNA related stuff...the scientific approach...coz am a Biotechnologist!

Hope your quest for finding the truth is fruitful...

Answer 8

Another suggestion would be to do a search online for both "nevada" and "oklahoma" adoption registries. You can register online and give your information. Many birth mothers post on these sites, and you should be able to browse all of the posts-you never know, they could be looking for you. The best identifying piece of info to use on these sites is your date of birth, since you have no other info.

Hugs and the best of luck to you. It's a shame that those who are adopted are the ones who are often denied pieces of their identity. I'm a search right now myself, and it's hard-even though i have a name, and a general idea of where the birth mother came from.........

Answer 9

I found a community website that networks adoptees searching for their parents at http://www.findmybiologicalparents.com

Answer 10

http://adopteerights.net/nulliusfilius/?...

Here is a list of the laws and especially important a group of wonderful oklahoma adoptees and first mothers found at the bottom of that page. I know one of them personally and she is awesome!!

Please go here:http://groups.yahoo.com/group/OKlaPOSTAd...

and seek "peach" and tell her Gershom sent you for help.

The first link will take you to the laws for your state.

You will need to look at OK for laws, since that is where your adoption was finalized.

Good luck!

Answer 11

I must vigorously disagree with those who claim you have a _right_ to know your birthmother.  You do not know the circumstances surrounding your adoption.  This may have been a rather painful period in the mother's life that she thought was well behind her, and now you are just selfishly dredging it up for your own curiosity.  Perhaps begin the process, but if the records are sealed, or you meet resistance, please respect that.  I speak from the standpoint of one whose family was caused pain by a relentless adoptee.  Sometimes it is best to leave sleeping dogs lie.

Answer 12

i have a cousin in the same situation. she has asked a long time ago and it upset her mom bad because she dosen't want her to think of any other woman as her mom and fears losing her. both not going to happen. i feel sorry 4 her. it's not an easy situation.

Answer 13

have a long serious talk with your parents and tell them how you feel. Then again they may not be teallng you because they don't want you to be disappointed. I know this can be a sensitive, personal subject and im trying to sound mean but how do you their alive?