Anybody else disturbed by this?

Question

Prime example of why we need adoption:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ApSiaxcrBk8SCdxkqlLe6HB37hR.;_ylv=3?qid=20071118045600AAFpasi

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AlTznH0W.dGc.kpxffyc79xq.Bd.;_ylv=3?qid=20071118043837AA08uVJ

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqFv.C_VpbvnX4ehtEP8YgNq.Bd.;_ylv=3?qid=20071118045407AAYcio2

Answer 1

It's a sad sad world we live in. I'm hoping it was just some idiot trying to get a reaction from us. Pathetic little creature.

Answer 2

some people are just SICK!

its hard to believe that people seriously treat kids so badly.

they are there for a reason.

Answer 3

I will say that it seems Jolene does not have much patience for kids. That is never a good combination. Her children need to readjust to being with her, its understandable if they had been with their foster mother for several months, that that’s who they would want right now. Despite weekly visits, it was not her who was there for them 24/7.  It will take time for them to get with their new routine.  I don’t understand why she expected them to just readjust like that.  No one is a prefect parent whether they are a biological parent or an adoptive parent, Foster parent or all.

You know Cowboy fostering doesn’t always equal that will get the child(ren). You can get the kid for a short time or even a long time. Most people looking to adopt through foster care go through the Fos to adopt program. Where a person actual gets placed with a child(ren) that have a very high change of being available for adoption. Sure there are risks but there are risks in adoption as a whole. Like that poor girls who posted earlier about her Aunt and Uncle possible losing the baby they’ve had for 5months.

Answer 4

I read those questions and I'd bet their are real.

As for you suggesting that all adoptive parents are so wonderful that is NOT true.  Sure, a lot of them are good but trust me some are very bad.  I was abused all through my childhood by my adoptive parents.  I doubt they gave me a better life than my natural mother could have.  Don't be so biased, adoption is good but not for every one.

Answer 5

Pssst... loads of natural parents SUCK! Double pssst... so do loads of adoptive parents.

Answer 6

I believe there is a part of your brain missing that allows you to have patience for others that have not had the opportunity of having good parents. It is villainous to suggest adoption for one reason, you do not know what adoption is like in reality for the KIDS. Here, let me give you your part of brain back that says you can go have your time out and journal what services should help parents like  that to not lose their kids but become better parents...

Try getting mad at GW Bush for having armies kill innocents in overseas. That's a real argument.

Answer 7

Good Lord, how upsetting. That's sickening.

Answer 8

Some people are SO not qualified to be parents!

Answer 9

Well the first one is certainly disturbing.  That person probably wasn't parented very well when they were a child.  The last two are more sad then disturbing.  That mother just is looking for help and want her children to know who she is.  I actually just noticed that all three posts were from the same person, this is seriously disturbing.  No wonder her children want to go "home".  I want to know how she got her children back in the first place.  Is our systems that messed up that they take children from good homes just so the state doesn't have to pay money for the foster care.

Answer 10

i must admit, this is deplorable...yet, these are often not the kids people seek to adopt.  which is sad.

Answer 11

Well if that first question listed is true, that would explain why she got her kids taken away in the first place. I think that she should be re-investigated.

Answer 12

Sounds very sad that her kids were allowed to go back to someone so naive and uneducated. She is clearly very selfish and her poor kids have and are suffering form her idiocy. Pathetic

Answer 13

Yes, I am disturbed at your lack of empathy, and violation of the TOS of Yahoo answers by deliberately attacking another user.

If we can take this poster at face-value she is in a difficult situation and your response is to go on the attack.

She could use support and parenting classes,  that is no reason to rip her children away from her which would be very painful for the children involved.

I don't have any fantasies about my natural mother, I have known her for much of my life, nor do I have any fantasies that there are these super perfect adoptive parents out there, having known adoptive parents all my life.

Answer 14

This is a prime example of the old saying "Anyone can be parents but not every one can be a mom and dad". She needs to act like a mom to be recognized as one. I wish I could find out who she is and report these posts to her social worker. These poor boys are going to have one h**l of a bad life. She needs to get off the d**n computer and be a mom.

Answer 15

not at all

Answer 16

You got that right.

Answer 17

Why, yes who wouldn't find it distrubing!! She obviously needs more parenting classess if she at one time had her kids taken away from her. She also probably needs some counseling because she is dealing with a wide range of emtions. Hopefully someone can direct her to get some help in coping. I mean i want her kids to be safe, but if she can get help, i say start there first. Then if that does not work then placing the kids back into foster care or up for adoption should be the last option.

Answer 18

This is one of those times where I just sigh and have NO IDEA of what to say...

Answer 19

you missed one

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 20

My goodness. I hope it is someone just looking for attention. It's probably just a 14 year old girl looking for attention.

Answer 21

it's so not fair. my best friend has been trying to conceive for years and can't / people like this sneeze out babies and feel like they're such an inconvenience and interruption to their busy day of sitting on Y!A............

Answer 22

There are good and bad natural parents

There are good and bad adoptive parents

Answer 23

ok i understand being disturbed by the first one but the other two about foster care...how dare you judge that woman?! you dont know her situation or the circumstances around her kids being placed in a foster home and you dont know what she had to go through to get them back. obviously she loves them and cares enough to fight for them or she would have just given up and let them stay in foster care like many others do. even if she did something wrong, everyone deserves a second chance and you are not the one to judge otherwise. the fact that the kids no longer call her mom and miss their foster mom is very normal but hopefull with enough love and patience and time everything will work its way back to normal and they will be a happy family again. you should give her words or encouragement and suggest methods of bonding instead of putting her down. she is trying and she rightfully just wants to be known as what she is, their MOM!

Answer 24

Right on my man. Give them to someone who cares.

Answer 25

Your right it might be trolling. Since all three are posted by the same person. My answer to her is if she is so concerned about her kids calling her mommy. Then she needs to be concerned that they are ill.

Adoption is important.  But what people have to go through to adopt is tough.  And I think that there would be more loving families to adopt is they allowed same s*x adoption.

Answer 26

Just block this person and skip their questions. I think s/he is a troll.

Answer 27

yeah she sounds lousy in a way....especially the one about when the kids are sick. wow! poor kids

I have no clue what to say.

Unless its one of those teenagers who have nthing better to do then post fake questions.butif it is real.....she just got her kids back and she already dosent want to take care of them when there sick???

Answer 28

well she's complaning on how her kids don't want her..maybe if she wouldn't be annoyed by them when they are sick and just leave them there and show that she DOES care (which I don't think she does).  Those kids need to stay away from her...she is expecting too much by giving NADA in return!

Answer 29

Im more disturbed that someone would wave the screen name cowboy fan... lol

Answer 30

I agree, those posts are disturbing and also a prime reason why adoption is a GOOD thing for children!

Answer 31

I think this woman needs help, there is a reason why her children were in Foster care that we are not privy too. I hope she can get her life together very soon before her children are damaged permanently. We all try to do the best for our children.