Question:

Anybody have success stories on kids who were not potty trained until they were three or four.?

by  |  earlier

0 LIKES UnLike

Okay my daughter is three years old and is not potty trained. I do not need any tips on how to get her potty trained because i have heard them all. I want to hear from people who were not able to get their kids potty trained until they were 3 or 4 and how it finally happened. I keep hearing about parents who are able to potty train their kids before they are two and one woman who says she puts her 3 week old on the potty. People have told me that parents who let their kids go this long are lazy. I do not believe in punishing my child because she has an accident or taking toys away which i have been told to do. I want to hear from parents who are in the same situation as me or have been. My daughter is very stubborn and most of the time refuses to use it. Also what kind of comments did you get from people about your child being to old for a diaper and how did you handle it?

 Tags:

   Report

7 ANSWERS


  1. What happened was our son was dry through the night at about 3 1/2 and so we switched him to underwear, but again, not until he had a dry diaper when he woke up in the morning. What's more, if he was put back into a diaper, he would go potty VERY inconsistently in the toilet and in the diaper. But if he was in his "big boy underwear" he would use the toilet consistently. I think in a way, the diaper is like "pavlov's dog", that experiment. Diaper equals going potty right then and there in one's pants, and it's almost not a conscious thing. However, when that diaper comes off, it is like he has to think about it. Now he's 4 and is doing great. :)

    When we got comments I would simply tell people that my son is his own person and that at this point, HE is not ready because he wasn't yet dry through the night and you CAN'T force a child past their individual ability, and there is no sense in trying to... and that applies to every part of their developement. If worse comes to worse and people get opinionated to you, you can always tell them, "Well, since you seem to feel you can handle it better, he's all yours! Let me know when you have him potty trained!" I know that seems harsh, but people have NO business butting in on things like that UNLESS you are asking for advice.

    As far as what people said to us, it was the typical, "How's he doing... is he potty trained yet?" "When do you think he'll be potty trained?!" "You need to get him potty trained, otherwise you'll have THREE in diapers!!!!" (as if I wasn't aware of that fact!)... I know people MEAN well, but good intentions are the pathway to h**l.


  2. I wasn't ready to train my daughter until she was over 3 years old.  Basically, I just put her in underwear, and offered small rewards with a big reward at the end of training.    I also, started with a kid potty and I know this sounds awful, but put it in front of the TV and had her sit on it until she pee peed.  Than I was able to give her an award.  I let her use the potty in front of the TV for maybe two days than moved it into the bathroom.  I didn't go anywhere and I made sure I kept track of when she was going pee pee.  I kept encouraging her even when she had accidents and I didn't get mad.  By the fourth day she was doing pretty good and going in the bathroom.  About one week later I had her trained on the regular toilet.  

    It was about diligence.  On my part, not hers.  

    I felt pressured by my family the most there are three cousins born within 6 mo. of each other.  My SIL had her daughter trained before she was 2 1/2 my sister struggled with her son so he was a little past three. My Mom thinks that underwear is a good present to give the kids on their second birthday, etc. I had to come to the conclusion that I am my daughter's parent and I am raising her the way I want to through instinct and knowing mine and my daughters needs.  That is what you need to keep in mind.  My daughter was easy to potty train once I was ready and knew she was ready.  Was it easy, no but she is so thrilled with her accomplishment that I know I did it at the right time and with the right attitude.  

  3. I feel for ya. My son also seemed to have no interest in the potty. The worst remarks came from my MIL who would say "Is he trained yet?" almost every time that we spoke. I learned to just "nope" and leave it at that with no other details. I also got tired of the "Why don't you try this..." Believe me, I tried EVERYTHING. I did let it go a little bit though cause as he was turning 3 I was Pregnant with his sister, and I had heard he could falter with a new baby in the house, which I didn't want to deal with. I had a few friends who's kids, around age 3 1/2 just decided they were ready to go potty and did. I kept hoping that would be my son too, but as 3 1/2 came and went I realized he would stay in pull-ups forever. I read a story on the internet of another fed up mom and decided to try her strategy. With my son we came up with a day the next month that would be "no more pull up day" and wrote it on his calender. Every night we would mark the days off and talk how close the day was coming. It was on a friday and I prepared for a LONG weekend. It was - I was not going to give up this time. Day 1 actually went better than day 2, where he had accidents all day long. I just kept putting him in underwear though. I would say it was a good 5 days, but then he seemed to 'get it', and that he didn't like the feeling of being wet. Now #2 on the other hand was another stoyr - it took another 2 months of trying things in that area. But that's another story - LOL.  I think the only reason he finally got trained is because I had had enough, and stuck out the days that it took for his stubberness to not win over.  Good Luck.  

  4. okay,

    this may not be your EVERYDAY success story

    but at least im giving you the feeling that "HEY, i dont have the worst kids"

    well, i have twin little siblings they are ALMOST 5 this october

    and although they have been wearing their undies for about a year now, they need diapers at night, in case they spill, WHICH, unfortunately for me since im the oldest,

    IS about every night

    EVEN  worse they do it in our pool, and i dont feel confortable swimming when they are with me and NOT UNTIL our cleaner changes the water

    i dont even think you have to worry about your three year old.

    JUST thank god, he/she isnt like the twins

    and i think if you dont push her too hard, she'll get it all by herself.

    thats how they all do it:]

    hope i made you a lil more grateful

    -from a 15 yr old sibling of twin DIAPER nightly wearing almost 5 yr olds

  5. If you have to literally take your child to the potty to have them use it (meaning the 3 week old) then they aren't potty-trained, they are parent trained which is totally different.  Anyways the average age is 3 1/2 years old for being potty-trained and Dr's aren't concerned until they hit kindergarten.  My oldest son was almost 4 when he was completely potty trained and when he was ready, really ready it happened fast.  With my second son it was just recently and he still has accidents if he can't get to a bathroom fast enough but his trained to go on his own and makes it about 98% of the time and he is 3 1/2 years old.  He goes to headstart and the teacher told me there that about 90% of the students they get aren't trained until about 3 1/2 to 4 years old.  

  6. I used to have a little girl named Ellie in my summer preschool class. She was 3 (1/2) and had yet to master potty training! (She was also stubborn, and sounds alot like your little girl)

    She was going to start a real preschool in the fall, and the school did not except children wearing diapers. Her mother was desperate.. and had tried everything from rewards to sticker charts=]

    Ellie wore pull-ups (which she called big girl diapers, of course.. that's what they are anyway ha ha) which didn't work AT ALL! So, she got to go to the store and pick out some "real panties!" Her mom let her wear her panties, and her pullup over them. So, if she had an accident, she could feel it, without the mess! It worked after a few weeks!

    After she had mastered potty training, she gave her diapers to the baby room, so the babies could use them=)

    It's really not that big of a deal to not be pottytrained at 3. When I was little, it was odd for 2 year olds to even start potty training! At 3, she will be able to understand the concept better, and she is probably ready once she starts=)

  7. no.

Question Stats

Latest activity: earlier.
This question has 7 answers.

BECOME A GUIDE

Share your knowledge and help people by answering questions.