Anybody not put the baby's dad on the birth certificate? Or?

Question

Has anyone not put the father on the birth certificate OR had his rights signed off? What happened? My baby's dad wont even talk to me since he disappeared when I got pregnant. He wanted me to get rid of the baby, he wants nothing to do with it, I know that he's never going to be there for him. We've talked 1 time in the last 12 weeks, I'm now 26 weeks along.

I'm depressed over it but I know it's for the best, I think I want to leave him off the birth certificate... I'm not sure if a judge will let us have his rights signed off.

I know my son will have a great father someday, but this man, will not be him.

What happened in your situation? Did the father ever try to come back? I dont want him on the Birth Certificate.

I'm really feeling down right now...

Answer 1

leave him off, when they ask just tell them you dont know. it will save you time and stress of trying to get him to sign away parental rights later when you do meet the right man.

the only way, i think, that they can make you put his name on there is if you say you do know who the father is.

dont be depressed, you made the right choice by taking resposibility for another person - alone. Good luck! and email me if you ever need anyone to talk to.

Answer 2

My son's father is not on his birth certificate. When I told him I was pregnant, he told me to get rid of it and we haven't talked since. My son is now 15 months old and has never met his father.

If you choose not t put the dad on the birth certificate, he will have no parental rights unless he wants them. If he does, he will have to have a paternity test and then the court will decide if he gets visitation and has to pay child support, etc. If that ever does happen, just say that the dad abandoned you and your child when you were pregnant. No judge likes a deadbeat dad and will most likely give you full custody and control over if and when dad can visit.

Oh, FYI, if you apply for public assistance, they usually require that you apply for child support. Which means that the dad will be forced to pay you and sometimes they do things like seek custody out of spite.

Good Luck. Being a single mom isn't easy, but it is worth it and no matter what happens, you can make it work.

Answer 3

I don't have personal expierence in this situation, but I don't think anyone can make you put his name on the birth certificate. And I'm not sure about a judge letting go of his rights. Maybe if they declare him a deadbeat dad. Sorry about this situation!!

Answer 4

I would just put non applicable down for the father and act like you don't know who the babies father is. He doesn't want to be involved.  Even if he decided to become involve he would have to prove paternity of the child.  Do what is best for you and your son.  Don't let him bring you down your son deserves better than someone who won't even stand by your side through this.  I wouldn't not give him any credit for being absent.  You have so manythings to deal with right now .  Focus on the positive.  

Answer 5

If you don't put his name on the birth certificate and if you take all his rights away, then he won't have to pay child support. If you are wanting child support (which I would pursue) then there has to be documentation that this man is the father.

I understand you are feeling low, and are very angry. I would be too. And also, no a judge can not just sign away a persons rights. Your ex would have to agree to it....

Answer 6

You can only put his name on the birth certificate if he's there to okay it which he doesn't sound like he will be. If you are wanting child support you'll have to bring him to court and they'll do a DNA test then he'll have to pay. If you can afford the baby without him I say if he has no interest in being around let him go then you dont have to worry about him deciding he wants visitation then you have to trust your child with him. Get him to sign away his rights that way you don't have 18 years of worrying some loser is going to show up back in your life to claim your child.

Answer 7

No a judge will not terminate his rights, it is in the best interest of your child to get child support.  Even if you don't "need" it right now things can change.

I have a friend whose husband was CONVICTED of sexually abusing one of her kids and they courts would not terminate his rights because the kids need financial support.  Of course he won't be allowed visitation even after he is out of jail.

Answer 8

i can tell you what happen to by daughter she did not put the the father's name down because he was out of my granddaughter's life until she was four.now that's when the court step's in he had to get a dna to proof that he was the father then he  had to show that he had been in the child's life and help with supporting her. so  she had the right to ask for him to sign his rights's off she also had someone too adopted my granddaughter so that's how it end with him signing off his rights. so to end this if you don't believe from the bottom of your heart that he will be a great father just don't beg him to be there for you and your child.but i do believe a child needs a father that i know.

good luck sweetie.  

Answer 9

I used to do birth certificates at my previous job and you don't have to put him on there and from what you've said i'd leave him off and leave him out of my life and not talk to him anymore.  

Answer 10

Don't put him on it but if the judge says yes then you have too.

Answer 11

putting him on the birth certificate is ur choice. a judge dont make u put the dad on there thats dumb.. here in TX its that way at least. i put the dad on the birth cert and to this day it was very big mistake. were split up and when i put him on child support he automotically got joint custody over our son cuz he signed birth cert so i was upset about that. now im trying to fight for sole custody. also now im with a wonderful guy and were expecting another baby. i wish so much that i gave my first son my last name that way if i ever married i could change his last name to the stepdads. and the stepdad loves him so i know he would be all for him to have his last name. but since i gave him his biological dads last name AND i put him on the birth cert then i cant ever change his last name unless his dad gave me his concent. and wut dad would let the mother give their child another guys last name, right? so big mistake for him to sign the birth cert in my opinion

Answer 12

That's a great question.  I don't think you need to fill anything in on the birth certificate.  Im not sure what state you are in but I would call your local health department or womans health department and ask that question.  

I would hit him up for child support.  You did the right thing by keeping your baby, and the second you see their little face you will know immediately that you did the right thing.  But raising a baby is expensive and you might need the help.  

Answer 13

my fiance's 1st daughters mother didn't put him on the b.c. Partly bc she didnt know if she was his. But after the test was done and child support was issued, she couldn't be on his insurance bc they didnt have the same last name and he wasnt on the b.c. so if you dont want child support its ok. And to have his rights terminated you'll have to prove he's an unfit father OR ask him to do so. Chances are he'll probably do so. Cheer up, this is best for you and your son.

BTW my fiance DOES want to be in his daughters life so its a lil diff.