Anybody out there been through this and able to move on?

Question

I am finding it hard to move on after husband admitted about his affair. Can anybody out there advice me as to how should I move on. Affair has ended but I find it hard to look forward. Husband do not want me to talk about it and promised to move on from here, telling me that we have to look forward and not to think about the past as he do not want to be reminded about his mistakes. Going for couple counseling soon as he ask for it.Advice please.

Answer 1

How do you feel about it? And just look at it that he came back to you not her.

Answer 2

my wife did.

walk away, dont linger if u cant move on. i believe u wont do tat if not u wont be asking dis question. is hard on u everytime u tink abt ur hubbys affair but wat is done cant be undone. u cant turn back d clock. everybody make mistakes. is ur call, no pt holding up a marriage tat u cant even hold on to d LOVE.

since he is d 1 admitting d affair and asking for counseling, i believe he is sincerely repending. give love another chance, let time and only time can heal ur wound though memories of his doinds can nv be erased. it will still come back as and wen. turn away wen it happens.

take care and good luck...

Answer 3

What he doesn't understand is you need to talk about it. You feel lied to, angry, hurt, ashamed, disappointed, furious, rage, resentment and you are infuriated and talking about the affair is the only way you will move past it. He made a mistake and you have forgiven him, but that doesn't mean it hasn't affected you. You need to know why he did this. Can he explain it to you? Was it a one time thing or has he done this before? You are a brave women. Your husband is a lucky man. Good luck to you both.