Anyone Else's House A Disaster? Depression (and pregnancy) has sucked the energy out of me, help! ?

Question

I am 35 weeks along and I have ZERO energy left. Between that and the fact that me and dh are fighting all the time lately I have no energy to clean. I'm just sick of it. So much for my "nesting" instinct. I'm just too depressed to clean and wonder if anyone else feels this way. To top it off my husbands friend was over last night and went on about what a supermom his wife was "She works and still cooks and cleans the house!" he exclaimed proudly. I felt like such c**p. I feel like I'm a failure already and I haven't even gotten started. Being so down lately I just can't seem to muster the energy to do much of anything. I'm not a lazy person by nature but lately I am REALLY lazy. How can I get my energy back. I think depression is sucking what energy I have left out of me. It doesn't help that I am going through my second pregnancy back to back. I also have a 10 1/2 month old daughter to care for.

Answer 1

I think that depression will definetely drain you of energy and being pregnant adds to it.  Try www.flylady.com for some wonderful tips to help make your housekeeping a little easier.

Answer 2

Oh do I feel for you! I can't even imagine how hard it is to be that pregnant and have another baby to care for. Keeping house is a full time job, between the shopping, laundry, cooking, clean up of the meal, cleaning bathrooms, scrubbing floors, it is too much. Do you have someone, anyone who can help you out? Maybe a sister, friend, cousin, anything. I always said if you want to know how I feel on the inside take a look at my house. It reflects what's going on in my spirit. When I went through depression I couldn't clean, I don't know why, I couldn't move. I would just stare at the mess and living in a mess makes you even more depressed. I think you should just do what you can to get by right now, after the baby is born you will start gathering your energy again, put the babies down to sleep and go at it. I wish you the best.

Answer 3

Depression is a DEFINITE energy sucker. My house has been a disaster ever since my mom passed away earlier this year. My father does nothing whatsoever and I try to atleast keep up with normal daily tasks but I just don't have the motivation. It seems like when I start I manage to get about 1 room clean and organized...by the time I get around to doing another that one is all wrecked again.

why do you and your husband argue so much? If only there were some way to eliminate some of that stress I think it could help you. if only you could explain this to him and get him to understand that his behavior is so detrimental and draining...and get him to help! having someone even just to do a few simple things can really make a big difference in taking the mess from "overwhelming disaster" to "messy but tolerable." If he won't help you call a close friend or family member. just make a list of everything you'd like to get done and try to get it done slowly..one thing in morning, one thing in afternoon, and one thing in night. sometimes if you really force yourself against the laziness to just spend 5 mins doing something, you might find that it perks up your spirit and gives you a boost to be able to do more.

also try to make sure you are eating well and getting enough sleep..I know that's hard to do when depressed as well. when I can get myself to relax at night and not go to bed stressed and really late, sometimes in the morning I wake up and actually have a burst of energy to accomplish some things.

I'm sorry I can't give a real answer, but its just a day to day thing..I haven't figured out how to solve my own depression, but I am having the occasional good day here or there now..