Anyone dated someone in the Military and gone a lot?

Question

This is mostly centered towards girls, but if there are guys I'd love to hear your answers too. How did it work out? Was it worth it?

Answer 1

I married my wife after she graduated college and I was serving in the Army.  We had some tough times when I was mobilized and deployed to several places, as was expected, since she knew what my career was before we were married.  Getting back together after being separated made the long terms apart really worth it at times.  The only real difficult time was when she was notified by the Army that I was KIA and they stopped my pay (Another person with the same name had been killed.).  It was sorted out after I showed up in person.  We went through 7 moves to different places and she never complained about it.  I'm happy to say that she stuck with me and we have been married for over 30 years, including my Honorable Discharge from the Army.  It isn't a type of life for everyone, so if you can't handle the difficulty of being married to a military person, you should find someone else.

Answer 2

im dating someone right now. He's gone all the time and we dont know when cuz his schedule is always random and he obviously cant change it. Im so proud of him for it. its healthy for our relationship it makes the times we see each other way way sweeter and more special! i try to stay positive to not make him feel bad for having to leave. we havent had a fight yet! the first time he went off for a month i decorated this little cookie jar with hearts all on it and inside jokes and stuff (cookie jar is also an inside joke) and filled it totally full of letters for him to read everyday he was gone. he loved it! he writes to me everytime he is gone and i love that. i think its incredibly romantic i wouldnt ask for anything more. most ppl thrive off of AIM or something but handwritten letters are priceless! and yes its completely worth it!! he is the sweetest guy EVER and he has a great respect for me and everyone else around because of it! :)