Anyone else find it funny how...

Question

over the past, say, 20 years parents have gotten on this kick about not spanking your children, not raising your voice with them, just telling the screaming kicking two year old that "this is unacceptable"...

and then those same parents (as their children are sneaking out of time-out) are complaining about "kids these days!" and "why are all these girls going out getting pregnant? they have no self control!" HELLO! Kids can't learn self-control unless they are TAUGHT it.

Answer 1

It is NEVER acceptable to beat your children, the same aggression and violence that you use to discipline them could ultimately as they start getting older, be displayed on you, trust me. However, it is completely okay to yell at your children and explain to them the consequences of their actions.

Answer 2

I have spanked my kids but that is after I tried time out, standing in time out, sending them to their room, then my last resort is spanking them.  Now that they are older and can try and be part of the decisions for their punishments I ask them how they want to be punished.  They choose the spanking all the time, it is quick ( I only smack them once or twice) and they can get on with their day.

Answer 3

way to tell it like it is! I agree wholeheartedly.

I dont think you can negotiate or reason with a young child Nor should you have too. you are the parent you make the rules.

they will get older and get a chance to try and reason with you.

Spanking is not child abuse people!!!

I spank and my child does not fear me, He knows that there are consequences to every action. And he doesnt have to guess what they are.

Answer 4

EXACTLY!!!

Answer 5

I think youve got that backwards. The pendulum has actually been steadily swinging the other way.

Frankly I hear parents who DO spank complaining more about their kids.

I do get spanked and I really dont have a problem with it. Its better than getting grounded or having stuff taken away or the ultimate getting kicked out.

Answer 6

For one a swat on the butt is NOT a beating. A beating is using an object or fists to cause severe physical harm.

dictionary say that to spank is to "To slap on the buttocks with a flat object or with the open hand, as for punishment. "

And to beat is to "to strike violently or forcefully and repeatedly. "

I HAVE NEVER BEAT MY CHILDREN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And I resent that someone could compare the two. I had beatings as a child and I will spank my kids. But it rarely hurts them and if it does it's only for a minute or two.

Again. I have been beat and it is no way to discipline your child but a swift swat on the butt for my son yelling at me or my daughter getting into the candy isn't abuse. So to the person above who said that a swat is beating your child is VERY WRONG AND MISINFORMED. And I deeply resent that and it angers me very much.

As to the fact that children who receive spanking as a child will grow up to be better behaved children and adults. I think that's wrong. As I stated above I received beatings as a child and I also received a well deserved spanking as a child. So did my other three siblings. My sister and I turned out just fine. But my two brothers are into drugs and alcohol, and have been in and out of jail for several years. You have to give a child love and attention along with appropriate discipline. If not then you do have misbehaved, disrespectful brats. All kids need love and stability. Including discipline that they can count on. For some children a "talking too" works. For others a swift kick in the butt is needed. :)

And yelling at your children is not okay. I unfortunately do raise my voice and I hate it when I do. NO CHILD OR PERSON RESPONDS TO YELLING. If you anyone including a child being yelled at, they will shut down. They will tune you out and not listen. Personally if someone yells at me I cry, and so do children. It is never okay to yell at a child. Since when is yelling not aggression?

Answer 7

I agree. I don't understand why they don't get it some people say they don't want their kids to be afraid of them but what are they going to do when they don't respect you? they are nuts if they think that timeout is the only form of discipline they should be using. what are they going to do when they are cursing at them and getting into trouble. I was spanked as a child even a teen and let me tell you honestly I know now as a parent why kids will do anything to see how much they can get a way with and sometimes a spanking is called for. I also work with pregnant teen girls and alot of them always ask the best way to discipline their kids when they get older or when they are born and I legally can't tell them to spank their kids but I do say do what your parents did with you. I have even said to some of my friends who just became parents if you think your parents did a good job raising you and you like the way you came out why would you do anything differently from them right down to spankings. stop trying to be your kids friend people.

Answer 8

I don't hit my kids but i do raise my voice sometimes.  I want respect not fear from my kids and you know what my kids do actually listen to me and respect me but my sister who spanks her kids and tries to "put the fear in them" gets no respect from her boys, they walk all over her.  If we as parents can't control ourselves and we turn to violence to handle them then they will in turn learn to not control themselves and become violent themselves.