Anyone else having problems with in-laws?

Question

I've been married for almost 6 years now and my in-laws still treat me like I'm not even part of the family. They lie to me and talk behind my back. When me and my husband were going together, his family tried breaking us apart. They never liked me from the very beginning. I didn't do anything for them to treat me this way. At least not that I know of. They won't talk to me about why they are acting like they are towards me. Does anyone else have this problem with there in-laws? How do you handle it?

Answer 1

I've been married for 11 yrs and trust me I don't care what they think about me, been there doing that right now, i call it love um from a distance, [when i'm around them I'm glad to see them, but make no special effort to be close or keep in contact] when they see you don't care they usually stop all that mess... i also make sure i look good when I'm around them head to toe , that usually gives me the confidence i need

Answer 2

First of all your spouse should be standing up for you.  If hes letting them treat you like the do, he should go live with them.  My mother in law hated me also becuz im black and my spouse is white. We got married in nm.  She did not come. Only his sister and brothers came. When we came back. She never came over but always want him to come over. His family would come over and we have bbq/dinners. One day his mom had a flat on the highway and called him to come help. I told him to go. He finally told his mom.  Mom I love you but I love Berri she is my wife.  If you cant deal with that I wont be coming around any more. She came to our house after that. She was like your house so clean I dont know what she was thinking. At least she came.  So i have invited them for dinner and they have came over all of them.  Things are better.  Only becuz my husband stood up for me.

Answer 3

Just because they are your in-laws does not mean that you have to be friends with them.  Put some distance between you.  Only spend holidays etc that really have to be done with them.  The rest of the time forget them. Some people are just hateful and mean and there is no explaination for the way the act. I know a family like that....all the women are backbiters and drama queens.  Just avoid them.

Answer 4

I mostly keep away from in laws.  If my husband goes to visit he goes alone.  I don't bother trying to make family like me.   Be they my relatives or his.

Answer 5

You married your husband. You didn't marry them. They're just being a**holes. Don't worry about why they're acting like that. Your concern is your husband. That's something that they have to deal with themselves. His family really needs to mind their business. The problem is, they want to run you guys marriage and you probably won't let them. Good Girl. Hold them dogs off.

Answer 6

when I was married my husbands mom didn't like me.  She even told me when I was pregnant with my son that she didn't care if the me and the baby died as  long as she had her son she would love life.  Usually I would let what she say roll off my back but that was the day I offered to open a can of kick a**.

I just started not attending their family functions. Your husband is going to have to make a stand or there will be many more years of the family mistreating you.   I wish you a lot of luck with your monster-in-laws.

Answer 7

i did. my father in law even tried setting my wife up on a date with a guy in his office, right in front of me.

i stopped him from seeing my kids after that. he wasn't allowed at my house, my kids were not allowed anywhere near his. after almost two years of not seeing them he got the message and came to see me at my job.

he still hates me and i still hate him but he knows his daughter is MY wife and MY kids are MY kids. he has no say in our lives.

Answer 8

Firstly be thankful they are only in-laws.

dont concern yourself with them and the petti behaviour.  Rise above it and count to 10 alot.  Spend as little time as possible with them and look after your own family instead of worrying about the outer circle you can do nothing to change.

so in short find a way to live with it without ringing there good for nothing little necks  :-)

Good luck