Anyone else notice this shaming tactic often use by women?

Question

A man doing anything that takes attention away from women and/or is not gaining any money/fame/items (which can then be given to women) is considered to be acting childish by women.

Examples:

Gaming (video games, back yard sports, ect...)

Partying with the guys

Kicking back and doing nothing

Action based stunts such as dirt biking.

So, I ask, have you noticed this?

What have you been called childish for when really you are just having fun that does not include women?

What other examples could you add to this list?

Answer 1

Women think that men deserve no free time. In their warped little minds, men must work 24/7 to provide and protect women, while the ladies sit their fat @sses.

Answer 2

Well, I don't think doing anything like your descriptions is childish. I don't think a man should spend 12 hours a day playing video games because he must have a job and household to run if he is grown, other than that, party up!  

Oh, but just a smidge of advice.....if you don't like working with women and you don't like playing with women and you don't like going out with women....you're probably a homosexual. Which is FINE, but you should see about admitting it.

Answer 3

Haven't noticed women shaming men or women and calling them childish for what you mentioned-you sound a bit paranoid or you're around the wrong women.

I play video games-kick back-have rock climbed and still canoe and sea kayak and party with my friends once in a while. You think these activities are limited to males? lol

Answer 4

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GjfAP6l_R...

Read the ratings also and yet the song plays on.  Quite ironic now isn't it.

Answer 5

Adults take care of their responsibilities. If you take care of bringing in income, like your woman, home maintenance, like your woman, 50% of the childcare, cooking and housework like your woman, and spend an average of 8 hours a week with the one you agreed to love honor and cherish then, and only then, are you free to do those thing without a guilt trip, because if you arent contributing that much, then she has to pick up the slack while u r being a slacker. That's just childish and unfair.

Answer 6

I'm not familiar with this shaming tactic. I believed that the shaming tactics (routinely mentioned on here) were of the: parents basement/virgin/never had a girlfriend variety.

I do what I like in my own time and no-one interferes. If my other half thinks it's childish, well that's her opinion. it doesn't stop me doing it. I think some of the things she does are foolish, but everyones entitled to their own diversions.

Answer 7

Because our lives are supposed to revolve around them. God forbid we have any fun whatsoever.

When we turn the situation around...men are either being immature or emotionally abusive regarding the things she finds fun.

Damned if we do, damned if we don't.

Answer 8

who the h**l are you going out with?

i party with the girls, get drunk, mess around, sit and do nothing whenever i have the chance.

Answer 9

Yeah, I've noticed, but the shaming comes from older women.  Women of generation X and girls don't think that way. Really, guys are teased/shamed more because our society expects men to be all macho and take it. Something like that.

I don't think those things on your list are childish. Some of us do those things, too, so why can't guys just be themselves?

I suppose people think those things are childish because they are general wastes of time. Everyone, man or woman, is expected to be productive all of the time, but men, who have traditionally been the earners and providers for most of history, have a harder time of it.

More examples for men:

-drinking beer

-eating junk food

-watching sports

Examples for women:

-shopping

-going to the spa

-talking with her girlfriends

-drinking

-crying/being emotional

and the like, but I admit they aren't shamed for that

Answer 10

I gotta support you here. My love is a pretty hardcore video gamer. So am I. I will never understand why some people (yes, mostly women) look down on supposedly "childish" hobbies. They're fun! What's wrong with fun? A guy who can't have fun is going to be a total stick in the mud - does any woman really want that? My advice to girls who feel left out of their husband's hobbies is to give it a try and join him! You might even enjoy yourself.

Answer 11

i think that if a man sits there for days on end playing video games and not paying attention to his family ie; his wife his kids etc, not taking responsibility then yes i would sit there and say "hey get off your BUTT and do some stuff around here" i don't think any of these things are childish but as women we do need attention and we need to know that men are listening to us when we are talking to them. and they need to own up to their responsibilities.

Answer 12

I'm a female and it certainly seems as though girls don't want guys to have fun, but i think girls find those things you listed as boring rather than childish, it's not really that girls don't want guys to have fun but more like they don't want to sit around doing nothing when your having fun? It might be better to warn your girlfriend that you are going to be doing something "childish" and that way she could go do some girl thing with her mates. It could work. Good luck...

Answer 13

It depends on how much time is spent on such activities.  If my husband were spending all his free time gaming, dirt biking, or partying, then yes, I'd think that was childish.  If he only spent, say, an hour or so a day on such things, it wouldn't bother me at all.

My husband plays Flight Simulator quite a bit, and I don't mind.

Answer 14

No, I think this is a very blinkered view. It would only be an issue if the man in the relationship were doing all these things while his partner were working/raising the kids and he was still living the free and single life.

Answer 15

Not childish at all, everyone has their own hobbies, and everyone, men and women, need their space.

Answer 16

Yeah, you're right.  I got something against video games.  But, it's not so much that he plays them, it's when he gets absorbed in them for hours.  I got the same thing against TV in general though.  I feel it dumbs me down and I periodically cut out the cable, like I just did a few months ago.  I kinda miss Rachel Ray's 30 min meals though.

Answer 17

You must still be living with mom If your are being nagged. I agree that constant & consistant nagging makes someone not want to do anything. The more nagging the more irresponsible we become. For shame.

Answer 18

Oh yeah I've noticed it, accept I sit around on my *** all the time, and watch horror movies.

Answer 19

ah childish...?

not at all..

i would make a deal with him..

if i can beat him at something..

then he has to do as i say for a week.

im afraid though the only things i may have a chance in beating him is drinking or video games.

but i only really play rpg games..and i hardly drink...

seems he would be able to beat me pretty easily..huh..

heh heh...

Answer 20

Here is an example of men using a shaming tactic on themselves:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=ksYZeZk04r0&f...

A little too much vodka that particular morning.

Answer 21

I think it depends on the woman, to be honest. And it doesn't necessarily not involve women. Whenever my boyfriend does stuff like that I pretty much always join in. I LOVE action packed stunts, gaming, and kicking back. And partying with the guys isn't that childish; I do it with the girls.

I don't think they're childish, as such...but if they're taking over his life then it's selfish. I want attention too, which is why I generally include myself.

Childish things are pranks, crossing the line when it's not just 'fun' anymore, but plain 'stupid'. If I want him to give ME attention, and he just keeps playing on the console, then I think it's childish because he needs to grow up a bit in some situations.

But on the whole, those aren't really things I'd consider childish. I think those are more 'boys will be boys' stuff. Childish, for me, is stuff that they should have grown out of, like yelling 'girls have cooties' and picking their nose.

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Answer 22

Emotionally healthy women do not do this, and emotionally unhealthy men do similar things to their female partners.

LOL@katy louise who said it better above.

Answer 23

"shaming tactic often use by women"

Used by what women?  I know no women who feel that way, nor have any of my friends ever expressed such opinions about their husbands.

If you are encountering such opposition, perhaps you should remain single, or date younger women.

Answer 24

Gaming (video games, back yard sports, ect...)- I do this

Partying with the guys- I do this

Kicking back and doing nothing- I do this

Action based stunts such as dirt biking- I do this

I know very few women who find any of those things "childish." If that is all you do then yeah I can understand someone (man or woman) calling you immature but in moderation, you are just having fun and I don't know of anyone who would fault you for that.

I don't know, maybe the women you're exposed to are uptight?

Answer 25

I don't feel this way.  I think that a man is suppose to spend time with his own s*x.  I personally like video games and play them with my husband at times and watch him play with his friends on the games I don't play.  Everyone should be able to kick back and relax.  Women have an equivilent to everything you listed:

Gaming - Talking on the phone, shopping

Partying - going with girlfriends to the spa

Kicking back - kicking back

Action Stunts - Enterior Decorating

Our things may be different, maybe more docile, but we all do things that make us happy.  I think its unfair to call men immature because they enjoy these things.  It makes for happier and healthier men.  What man wants to be under a woman all day?  We don't want to be under you guys all day.

Answer 26

You are childish if you believe everything that a woman tells you. without analizing it first. Its like saying "yes mom".

@All Women

Its it reasonable to critize a person for having fun? I can understand if the person is just a lazy bum, but if a guy works, do you think that is childish to entertain himself? If that is that case, does that means that you are childish when you entertain yourself without your man? I really doubt so.

Answer 27

No; acting like a kid from time to time is good for the soul; enjoy it while you can.