Anyone else scared to be a first time mom?

Question

So, I'm almost 13 weeks pregnant with my first child and this week I have suddenly become afraid of being a first time mom! Seeing screaming kids in shopping carts, and projectile vomiting from other places, p**p squishing out of diapers... makes me wonder if I can actually handle being a mother! I'm a naturally laid-back person, who is pretty calm and children seem to calm down around me because of how calm I am. But people make parenting sound so difficult and as if it ruins your life, your love life, and any free time that you might have with your spouse is out the window never to be seen until they go to college or move out...

Can anyone out there encourage me? Anyone going through the same thing?

Answer 1

Yes... I do agree that you WILL be just fine!!! It's normal to have these feelings... I am sure every first time mom has them their first pregnancy. I was super nervous and I have 6 neices and nephews... I have been around babies all my life... I guess it's just the fear of the unknown... and that you are the responsible one for this new child. Honestly that's a huge responsibility and I can understand why you are afraid!! However.... it's a natural thing.... you will learn as you go. You will eventually get into a routine and you won't remember what life was like before you had your baby. Sure.... they are constantly crying, pooping, peeing, puking, not sleeping... however, those stages actually only last a short while and not to mention, the rewards of having a child absolutely outweigh the "challenges" ;) They are so sweet and so much fun.... when you see that first smile, you will understand what it's all about.

Just try to stay the calm and relaxed person you are and you will do fabulously! Congratulations on your pregnancy... I am so jealous! ;)

Answer 2

I am only 5 weeks preggo for the first time and I am scared myself. I was an only child and so the thought of having children at one time was repulsive. I am very excited, but also worry about having to be a working mom as staying home is not an option. I guess we just have to believe in ourselves and realize that what we're seeing is someone else's child acting up or having issues. When it is our own, we are strong people and our natural instincts will kick in.

Answer 3

its normal to feel this way i was the same way when i was pregnant with my son he is 2 years old now. you will be find i love being a mom it great most of the time sometime i do get stress out.

Answer 4

My daughter - my first - will be 17 months soon and yes it has been one of the most scary, fun, loving, anxious, tiresome rollercoaster rides. Being a mom is a personal experience - yes people will give you advice, often times unwanted, about how it will ruin this and that, babies do nothing but cry and p**p, etc but in the end its how  you manage your new responsibility as mom and wife/gf. I think it's hard to predict what you wont do and what you will do since the baby isnt here, but believe me worrying so much beforehand only makes things more stressful and I am a firm believer that babies sense these emotions in utero. So being pregnant and being a mom are huge transitions in life but I do believe you should know that this is a huge blessing that you have so make the best of it all and filter out all the negativity. You'll be fine...Peace

Answer 5

i just found out today im 4 weeks pregnant and im 21..just got married last feb..and im scared too...but just think of how cute they will be and just so precious like little angels...dont realy think of the bad stuff im sure you will be great because u r so calm..good luck to you and congrats

Answer 6

I, like you, became terrified about half way through my first pregnancy...wondering "what the h**l was I thinking" ...having the same worries as you...And I have to tell you...IT IS an adjustment...for sure, your social life won't be the same...but it ALSO IS the absolute best thing I ever did.  It's an amazing experience, and I never knew how much love I had in me until after my baby was born.  

And even though our relationship is "different"...in a lot of ways it's better.  We have to plan "date nights" and it's not as easy to just go and do whatever we want to do whenever we want to do it...but we have so much fun anyway doing different things with baby...

And sometimes when we just have to get away, we'll have my mom watch babycakes for an evening and we'll go and have some grown up time...but I wouldn't trade it for the world.

There will be projectile vomiting.

There will be p**p.

There will be snots.

There will be oceans of pee.

There will be green beens shoved in noses and a million other horrifying things...and you'll get through it...usually with a chuckle and a smile.  I promise!

I too am very laid back and that really seems to help...like I said earlier...people can be stupid...they may not handle things the same way you would or in a way that would work for your family...BUT YOU WILL.  It's a little nervewracking at first...but you'll find your groove and then you'll love every minute of it.  Even the snots and the poops.  

h**l there's gonna be a day when you're so happy to see a p**p squishing out of a diaper that you'll wonder what the h**l is wrong with you....

Perspective is everything...when your child hasn't pooped in 4 days, and you're worried about constipation and hydration and all these other things that will trouble your heart later...you'll be thrilled to see the p**p!

I promise you'll be fine.  The best thing you can do now, is have faith in yourself, and do as much reading as possible, cause lord knows you won't have the time later, and the more you read now, the better armed with information you'll be later.

Good Luck Mamma!

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By the way, my son is now 22 motnhs old, is STILL breastfeeding and I've been a fulltime working mommy since he was 3 months old.  I would have never thought I could have done all that before I got pregnant...but you'll amaze yourself.  You'll be able to do everything you need to, to keep your little family going.  And your baby will never cease to amaze you...

Parenthood just might be the best thing ever.  Had I known then, what I know now, I would have started ten years ago.

Good Luck to all the mommies here!

Answer 7

Got 3 kids and i love having kids, no matter how many poopies i clean and no matter how many times they scream their lungs out in public.. its just a part of being a parent and i think no woman would be complete without being a mother.. it completes u.. no matter how hard it is. makes u happy too.. it has its ups and downs..