Anyone else tired of the Asian girls who try to find self-worth and assurance through white men?

Question

I am an asian guy and i'm turned off by asian girls. why you might ask because:

I keep seeing questions asked by asian girls here asking stuff like: why don't white guys like me? but as they go into detail they reveal that they aren't asian really. they say i'm really a white person trapped in an asian person's body. they sound like they wish they weren't asian. it seems like they are unsure of themselves. It makes it seem like their acceptance by white guys will make them feel more connected or something. Also they try too hard to prove to everyone that they aren't a stereotypical asian. they claim to be twinkies or bananas well some don't. What it seems like to me is that they are uncomfortable in their own skin, they don't want others to think of them as foreigners so they try their hardest to not associate themselves with asian culture or people. i'm not jealous of asian girls if you think that. i'm find with interracial dating my sister is married to a white guy, and he's like my best friend. sometimes it's preference. but other times it seems like it's more like they are trying to prove something. That's what turns me off towards asian girls. They denounce their heritage and try too hard to fit in. I don't want to offend people but just look at the questions they ask. It doesn't sound like a question but more like asking people for assurance.

*again not all asian girls are like this, i'm just turned off by those who do think this way. am i the only one who feels this way?

Answer 1

agreed.

Answer 2

you should add a table of contents and some chapter headings for that book you just wrote.

Answer 3

There are some who just really don't care about colour when dating. others like the ones you discribed are just self hatin' and think dating white boys, wearing hollister, dying their hair blonde will make them more white. I have noticed that between latinos, blacks, and asians, most of the time it's the asian girls that try to hard to be white. I don't understand why they are so inscure, they come from countries with rich history and hertiage and throw it all away for bland american culture. h**l, I'm far from being white and I'm a foreighner myself but I don't feel the need to fit in with white kids, rather just balance both my cultures. I think they need to so the same.

Answer 4

Thank you for posting this, I always wanted to ask what people thought of this. I'm Asian American and believe me, I have seen this many times. Some Asian girls date White guys just to go up a class or gain some sort of face, no matter how ugly the guy is as long as he is White.

I think the Asian girls who act desperate like this have been made fun of in the past for their appearance, culture, race, and etc. So this causes them to distant from their culture, family, other Asians, and themselves so they can fit in...

I am definitely tired of this, they are making stereotypes a lot worse by proving it. Non of my Asian girl cousins are like this because we value the culture of our family.  

Answer 5

I will start off by expalining how I know so much about Asian culture.  I lived mostly in Asia for many years, and I speak Japanese, have traveled to Asian countries where Chinese is the main language, and also have visited Korea many times.  You did not openly explain if you were born in the US or whether you are just a visitor commenting on what you have seen in the US.  First, I have noticed all that you referred to, and I have to say that I really do not believe that what Asian girls and grown, even 'mature' women do, is about trying to be white.  However, they are trying to act as people do in a white society.  But, you as an Asian man, by your own admission, must understand that Asian cultures are all men's worlds.  Things are changing but not so quickly.  In Japan the changes are mostly in the home among married couples, that is among young couples between ages 25 and 35.  The husband is helping more with housework, shopping and caring for the kids.  Now, let's get to the main issue, the reason why Asian women are trying to marry white guys.  The main reason is that they, Asian women, want to leave their Asian country of birth because they are not afforded the attention there as they might get in other countries.  Naturally, I have to also admit that I do know first-hand that many such Asian women have made some horrible mistakes about marrying white guys to later learn that they are not whom or what they originally claimed.  So, basically in a nut shell, it is about the Asian women wanting to be what is, in Asian countries, called internalional or international person.  Their mistake is that they think any white guy can give them interlationalism; perhaps that is not a real word, forgive me but I am sure that anyone knows what I am getting at.  It is the same with, e.g; Japanese actresses, mostly actresses, who think that they have to come to Los Angeles in order that their own fans in their home country will accept them in a bigger way.  So they come to L.A. and return to Tokyo metropolitan and act as if they have just returned from Mars, and now they want their entire country to accept them as a great worldwide international person, and they are not.  Hence they think the only thing left is to marry a white guy.  I hope this expalins my view and I an not being racist. What I have related here comes from personal experiences. BTW, I am a white guy.

Answer 6

I'm tired of seeing asian girls with colored contacts and bleached light hair. It's so fake.. and it's because they want to look white.

I do agree with what you are saying though, I would be too.

Answer 7

true i don't get it. if asian females have been made fun of in america by white people, shouldn't they hate them and not try to be one?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L8C5ZnQA0... [example] my relatives and i are not like that at all, but i know of one asian who does that.

Answer 8

you are not the only one

Answer 9

yeah i have notice all other races that dye their head blonde usaully still date their own race like africans and mexicans

while in asians is like thumbs down when u see their hair blonde...cuz u know what happend- i only actually saw one asain so far that died their hair blonde and was with another asian

Answer 10

trust me same here. i pure asian and i 'll never dye my hair or get colour contacts i am who i am. i  couldn't care less about those girls.

Answer 11

i dont kno ...  BUT I KNOW ONE THING I WISH TO BE ASIAN...

COZ THEN ITS EASY TO TALK WITH ASIAN GIRLS..AND I LL BE LIKE  PART OF THEIR GROUP...

Answer 12

Oh man ! I just stay the h**l away from those types. They don't worth my time.

Answer 13

I'm Asian. I hate people who do that, not just the Asians. I don't understand why Asians would want to do that. We have different and unique cultures that Westerners go crazy for. It sparks interest. I'm trying to be as less Americanized as I can. I can sympathize though. The way Asian parents treat their children wreaks havoc on their self-esteem so I can see why they do that.

Answer 14

Wow...sounds like you're just being bitter and judgmental.  Focus more on your own life and less on theirs.