Anyone ever reconciled with an ex that you have children?

Question

Should I feel bad about not getting back with my ex who cheated and left me while I was pregnant and a yr later I found some one 10x better and more deserving of my love and he loves my son too...

I keep the door open for him to see the child and thats it...no furthr contact...

So have u ever reconciled ...how did that go?

Answer 1

He cheated and left while I was pregnant too.  I didn't meet anybody 10x better and still would never dream of reconciling.  It's been 5 years since I've seen him and I can honestly say the thought of him never crosses my mind.  When I first had the baby, I would think, "I wish he were here to see this", "I wish he were here to help me", "I wonder what he's doing right now".  Now, it feels like I made my son all by myself and I wouldn't have it any other way.  Father? What father? He has no father.

Answer 2

Yes, with the same set of facts.  Well, he is the same jerk he was before.  He just makes more money now.

Answer 3

Every relationship is different. You went with this guy. You say that you have found someone 10x better, so you do the math.

Answer 4

No.....after 22 years of marriage and 4 kids my ex took a hike..it was in our best interests not for him to return.....in the meantime and after 8-9 years into my single parenthood I met a wonderful man who now is my husband (my kids were all adults by then) we will be celebrating our second wedding anniversary soon.....the kids choose not to have any contact with him because he totally wrote them off (makes no effort to see them, etc.)

Answer 5

Yes than I divorced him, he never quit cheating....and he continued to abuse me....nothing changed....

Answer 6

never!   but I did sleep with them.  

Answer 7

yes i did, but our separation was not due to cheating as yours was.

I would not reconsider after what you've gone through. Do yourself a favor and, FOR YOURSELF, not your son, (i say that, because it is better your son not see you and your husband not getting along) and if you are not happy (and more than likely you wont be), you cant make a happy life for your son.

Move on and be happy. My feelings of cheating, is once they do it, they'll do it again.