Anyone had there child adopted?

Question

had my baby adopted by social services it was awful.

looking for nice friendly people to comment.

just checking if anyone been through the same

Answer 1

no I haven't had one of my children adopted, however my sister did adopt her son and she's so grateful for the family for choosing her to adopt and have a son she herself couldn't have.  I can't imagine the pain of what a broken heart feels like when you give your child away to someone else.  Pray that they will give your child everything you couldn't and then work on getting yourself back on the right track so you too can experience the joy of a child.   Does social services offer you any therapist or councilor?  Can your church help?  Prayers to you.  Good luck.

Answer 2

Hi this happened to my sister - please add me as your friend and I can give her your email address and her email to you.

It would be great for you both to talk

Answer 3

yes l had my son put up for adoption. lt was very sad when l had to do this.

Answer 4

it is a very difficult thing

Answer 5

my eldest brother had been adopted but he is 23 now it was through my mum not being able to cope on her own with him and having serious bad post natal depression,

i am sure the parents are good and they bring up your child well, your lil angel will come back one day and will meet you,

maybe it was for the best, maybe your position your in is not suitable for baby, whatever the reason dont hold yourself to blame, these things happen for a reason and maybe it was best for you and baby,

i understand the feelings you must be going through, please except my comfort (hugs) you will feel better about it soon, better your life and try again if you really want a child just ensure a better time next time and you will be fine, your lil one is being cared for andthis gives you a second chance, take care in whatever you do and good luck, ask for written contact or access mind the child when old enough to understand will be told that the adoptee is mum so if you like tell them your auntie ..... and when they will understand truely explain what happened and why, remember you will always be mum,

Answer 6

No, i have never had a child adopted, but i admire you for doing it rather than taking the alternative choise.

Answer 7

nobody wd want mine........believe me....ive tried........they keep coming back.......

Answer 8

I'm sorry this happened to you.   I hope the family that adopted your baby are good, caring people.

Answer 9

I'm sorry you had such a negative experience.  

I can't relate, though, as my experience was pretty positive.  I guess it depends who handles the adoption.

Answer 10

nope not been through this myself but im not one of the cynics that condemn people who they dont even know,i truly believe there are loads that get their child adopted via social services that never should,i know a guy who did a few years back and never should of,all he needed was a little help,perhaps this country should wise up and help their own as much as they seem to want help every one else abroad.all the best.

Answer 11

i havent but i must say you are a very brave person who loves their child so much that you have given him/her away so they could ahve a better life...You are brave and loving..I wish i could give you a Hug my friend.

Answer 12

I think people have there own reasons for giving a child up for adoption. You will always get people who will say its wrong but they are not you and in your circumstances. You have your own reasons and do not need to seek approval off anyone. You have to live with the choices you have made.

I hope you find happiness in life.

Answer 13

Hi,sorry you have had a bad time. i was adopted had a good life with good parents. Found my birth mother 12 years ago.The good thing these days is they do send you photos & if the people who adopt your child agree they will meet with you. My friend adopted quads  & she sends updates to mother via social services & she met mother & promised to tell the children as they grew up.Take Care

Answer 14

yes i have. hope i helped.

Answer 15

Yes I have. It was awful, for me. It was however the best thing I could have done for her. I spent 28 years wondering if she was okay, it she was loved, and even if she was alive. After 28 years she found me. She is Rachael on this site. We have  had a wonderful relationship since the first time we spoke. She had great parents, was raised very well, and never harbored any animosity toward me for giving her up.

It isn't an easy road, there are lots of lousy days, and there are no guarantees. Some people get lucky through open adoption or reunion. Some do not.

If you do not have an open adoption you may want to consider signing one of the registries to be reunited when the child comes of age.

Answer 16

I am an adoptee of social services  (aparents were fostering me bfore they adopted me)

And I know I never want to go through taht with my baby. when I have one which is a LONG WAYS AWAY!

Answer 17

I am sorry for your loss, these are some websites that might be able to offer you better support than the answers you're getting here.

https://www.adoptioncrossroads.org

https://www.antiadoption.org

https://www.originsusa.org

Answer 18

No i havent but I am an adoptee. I do think that if your circumstance were hard, then you have done well and have been very brave putting your child up for adoption.

It's more stable for the child rather than fostering. I am sure the child will have a wonderfull upbringing as I know that social services are very choosy in england about who they let adopt a child.

Well done for being so brave and I wish you well in your life. x

Answer 19

It is the most horrible thing:)could go through and the other horrible thing is when they grow up and hate you anyway when you kept them.  You can't win either way, just know that it was the best thing for the child whatever your circumstances.  You will miss them forever and you can't get rid of that hurt, but don't worry, god is always watching over the babies for us, just take care of yourself, you did do a good thing.:)

Answer 20

I have given birth to three children so I know what a powerful experience this is.   I just cannot imagine what it must be like to give up your child. I just can't.  I was adopted as an infant and I want you to know that even though I have not ever met my birth mother, I love and respect her very much.  I have never felt anger towards her, and maybe someday I will have the opportunity to meet her.  

It is very natural for you to grieve the loss of your child.  There are groups that can help you through this.   I hope you are able to meet up with other moms who have been through this so you won't feel alone.

best wishes

If you need help finding a support group please e-mail me.

Answer 21

I am adopted and my life is fine and i am sure your baby is going to be in a happy home and she/he will be fine.  But who ever adops your baby don't let them keep it a secret

Answer 22

No but I have adopted.

Answer 23

OMG thats AWFUL!!! and heart breaking i am sorry

woow i would have adopteded i want a baby

don't worry you will viste your baby and keep seening him/her

and you will get over it