Anyone here had/has social anxiety?

Question

I swear it must have seen school that caused it.

Obviously a big school full of people you would think that it would make your more confident but i stopped going to school, fell out with allot of people now im a social freak :( i hate it.

I also act like i dont need friends (but i do).

It sucks, im 15 and i dont even want a boyfriend, about a year ago i loved boys! now i cba.

I like hair, make-up, rock music, tv, partys (dont go to any :\), im also starting a new school in september, in a matter of weks!

Im so scared, what if people dont like me?

I kinda rub off a geek factor. :\

I hardly go out and if i do its with my family. I want to get over this and start living my life.

:(

Anyone here had/has social anxiety?, how are you coping/how did you get over it?

Thanks

x

Answer 1

When I was 12-13 I had social anxiety pretty bad. I only felt comfortable around my mom, dad, and best friend. I was fine if I was just at home with any of them, but even going to Kroger would make me get a stomach ache and feel light headed. My first day of 8th grade I was so nervous I puked (lemme tell you, that was an embarrassing way to start the year...)

But I found that the more I FORCED myself into social situations, the better I got. I would literally make my parents take me to the mall or to get ice cream or something. And my best friend would take me to parties or to the movies. And at school, I basically just took a deep breath and realized that being there wasn't the end of the world and if something truly awful happened, I could always call my mom.

So my advice to you is to put yourself in as many social situations as you can handle. I know it's really trite but "facing your fear" is the one thing that usually helps.

Good luck. :)