Anyone know a spell to remove negativity in a relationship?

Question

Were arguing alot about trivial things. Money shouldnt be an isuue but believe it or not were arguing about that.

Pushing blame and resenting each other. Im trying to move forward but he throws things he has done for 'me', when really it was for 'us' in my face.

Answer 1

I'm not blaming you, but this is actually a solution to reduce negativity:

Stop being negative.

Negativity is created by our perceptions. Human beings are powerful in this regard.

Answer 2

I have to agree with everyone else. Honey, it does not sound like you are under a spell of negativity.. thus needing to remove it. It sounds like you are going through the trials and tribulations of a relationship. You make no mention of how long you have been with him.. so I have to assume a while. In which case, the honeymoon, per say, is likely over and you are both back into the reality world of a relationship. And, if you are aware of the problems.. then it is up to you to fix it. People have jealousy issues and if they are trying to stir the pot - then don't let them. The way to get rid of the negativity is to get rid of the negative people around you who influence you.

As for the arguments about money, etc. That is something you will have to work out with good communication. It's a hard economy right now, and I think most people are having money issues and concerns. But, as long as you speak to one another with respect.. you should be able to get through this.

Good luck!

Amber  

Answer 3

This may not be the answer you're looking for, but if you're counting on magic spells to resolve the problems in your relationship, it is doomed for failure.

My advice is to do something much harder than saying a spell -- work on your communication, together. You will need his buy-in, too. You may even need a relationship counselor to help get on the right track. But there is no easy solution here. Good relationships take effort to build. If he is not interested in working with you on this, that may be a sign that the best course of action is to take a "breather" and back off from the relationship at least for a while.

Answer 4

just try to be more peaceful and stuff when it comes to him, try not to get angry. spells dont work, you know why?? YOU CANT MESS WITH FREE WILL!!! dont try either, if u do ull be messing with magic that you dont want to touch.

Answer 5

give each other a chance to state how you feel about things, or things that have gone in the past. When someone keeps harping on something it means that thing still hurts them and they want you to know it. What you two need to do is to sit down and very calmly and rationally tell each other how you feel. Use statements like "I feel" or "when you did this it made me feel like this". Do NOT use, "You always" or "you never". Don't use statements that blame, use statements that merely state how YOU feel. My husband and I were on the verge of divorce and I found this to be a marriage saver. The key is not to be underhanded, and come at it with the mind-frame that you want to resolve things, that you have things you want to get off your chest, not simply to blame. You also want to make sure you tell them the GOOD things about them. Tell him what you love about him. Show him that you understand HIS side. For example, one thing my husband and I used to fight about was the way he chose to spend his time. So I told him, that I understood he worked hard, told him he did a great job of taking care of the family, told him yes, I thought he desserved to have a little fun. BUT... the things he chose to spend his time left me feeling not included.

And Jonquill is right--do something nice for them even if you don't think they deserve it. It adds positivity to the relationship, and as Jonquil said, you get what you give. When I'm mad at my husband, the last thing I want to do is something nice for the man. But I find if I just suck it up and do something nice for him (my husband and I take care of each other) he turns around and does it for me. Do it with an open heart, with no thoughts of the returns, simply because you love him. You'd be surprised how that can turn things around.

Peace and love to you both!

  

Answer 6

Sounds as if you're just not right for each other.  If you have to resort to "magic" to change someone, you aren't accepting them for who they are and you shouldn't be together.

Answer 7

Easy... Punch Him... then it removes all negativiy

Answer 8

Money must be the number one thing that most couples argue about.

Why not try asking in Polls and Surveys and see, I bet the majority of couples that live together find money a source of conflict.

Edit

Oh, and to remove negativity try and do something positive for your partners's pleasure even if you don't think he deserves it - you know it is more blessed to give than to receive :-)

Answer 9

Hi Natasha,

There are a few things you can do magickally to help the situation.

If you feel that people are sending negative vibes your way a few solutions are:

Reflective things in your windows. These can be crystals, a chime that has crystals on it, little mirrors...anything that catches the light will ward off negativity.

I don't know if you have ever seen them but there are these big mirror globes that people put in their gardens. Before they were just for decoration, they were the called "The Witches Ball" and it was purposely used for reflecting negativity away from the home.

Four good sized chunks of quartz, placed in the corners of your home will also provide protection, it is called gridding.

I wouldn't suggest smudging, not for your situation.

I think that the stone citrine would be very helpful:

http://healing.about.com/cs/crystalthera...

You could also try "return to sender". You basically sit in a comfy spot and try to get yourself nice and calm and say: I return to sender, all negativity purposely sent towards me and my husband.

You can elaborate on it if you want. Chant it a few times, with a white candle lit. I really like 'return to sender' because you are only giving back what is sent to you, so there is no karmic backlash.

You can also get a love plant. It's basically a plant that you get to represent your relationship with your husband. You care for it, like you would care for your relationship and the better care you show your plant, the better your relationship will be.

You can also call on the assistance of the Angels. Archangel Chamuel is the head Angel for romance and relationships. You can ask that he help you both to better communicate with eachother.

And since you sound pretty certain that outside negativity is causing your arguing (which I believe is very possible) I would focus on protection and ridding yourself of negativity directed towards you both.

Lastly, you could call on Archangel Michael to remove all negativity from you, your husband and your home and to protect it.

I feel like you are getting most of the negativity directed at the home or apartment you are in.

Definitely get your hands on some citrine, you should see immediate results.