Anyone know how I can find my brother who was put up for adoption?

Question

My mother had a son a few years before me (1982) She will not tell me much about him but I really need to find him. He was born at the Newark, NY Hospital in 1982 please help!!!

Answer 1

You can try the International Soundex Adoption Reunion and register there.  It is a mutual concent registration, but has helped thousands.  You may also want to let a Search Angel help you.  These are volunteers who have skills to search on a deeper level than the rest of us.   Go to About.AdoptionAngel or About.AdoptionSearch for some help.  Here are their listing for Newark and New York area angels, but you can click on them on that sight for a link.

New Jersey -- CAAngel, Barbara Selletti

New York -- Dawn Young - 5 boroughs of NYC & Richmond NY only -- Susan Messina, Peggy Thomas

Good luck to you!

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HEY   -----   GERSHOM, LAURIE, SUNNY, PHIL, ETC.  Where are you when a fellow adoptee needs your help?  Too busy bashing happy adoptees and hopeful adoptive parents to notice?  Or do you just not care?  I see your agenda does not include helping anyone who isn't your latest battle or  conquest, or someone you can shame, like an innocent adoptee or adoptive parent who just happened to stop by Yahoo to ask a simple adoption question.

Answer 2

You also might want to go to

http://www.adoptioncrossroads.com

They have nightly chats, and support meetings in the city--I don't know where you live.

Good luck!

Answer 3

New York is difficult because of the sealed records law in that state.  The law allows records to be opened only by court order.

But, there are still ways to achieve reunion without seeing the records.  One thing you've most likely got (besides a birth year) is the child's last name at birth, as it was probably listed on the original birth certificate as your mother's last name.  

I think someone already mentioned this site, but if not here it is again.

http://adopteerights.net/nulliusfilius/?...

It will help you link up with New York's reunion registry.  It will also tell you how you can go about getting non-identifying information about your brother, as siblings are entitled to this in New York.  Although it won't give you your brother's name or who adopted him, it can give you other information to help provide clues in your search.  I know that the non-identifying information  I received gave me clues that ultimately helped lead me to reunion.

Oh, and don't forget about http://isrr.net !

I wish you the best in your search!

Answer 4

I recently found my brother through ussearch.com - but I knew his name and birthdate . . . . . Good luck. My brother & I are now making up for lost time. We are all happy - my brother, our mom and me. Don't give up - sometimes it takes years to happen and always keep copies of all your searches - someday it will make a nice scrapbook for your brother.

Answer 5

First - add your details to the registries here

http://www.isrr.net/

http://registry.adoption.com/

Check for information on your state records here -

http://adopteerights.net/

(click on the page marked 'Searchers' down the left hand side)

Check here for search help - and links to search angels -

http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org/

And check here for any support - it's the best online forum for adoptees I've found -

http://www.adultadoptees.org/

All the very best with your search.

ETA: 'Still Me' rarely EVER answers these type of questions - but when she finally does - like now - she has to slam those adoptees that are usually the first to help out other adoptees in need.

I've seen those adoptees mentioned - personally help out many many adoptees.

Sad that you have to slam them - just because you have a personal agenda against them.

Answer 6

wow.  tough one.  ny state has closed records.  they told me yesterday, none have been overturned.  usually, the only way is medical emergency, and even then it's a long shot.

have you tried search angels or online search sites?  try issr-

http://www.plumsite.com/isrr/

Answer 7

You may need to travel to Newark and access the public records there.  It may take some digging, but you need to find the record of his birth.  Just look for you mom's last name (or whatever it was in 1982).  Best of luck!

Answer 8

Definitely follow the advice Possum gives.  

The information you give here isn't a lot to go on.  Date and time matter.  

Sign up on registries, definitely.

You may want to check out Jean Strauss' book "Birthright."  She gives a number of helpful suggestions for searching.  She also gives a number of references for finding more resources.

Please come to the forum Possum suggests.  A number of people there may have ideas to help you.

Answer 9

I have to reiterate Phil's suggestion of the book Birth Right: The Guide to Search and Reunion.

And I have to say for the record that I am appalled that Joslin/Still Me's bitter, untrue and hateful accusation has not been deleted.

Answer 10

Well you could find the adoption center your mom put him in then get records from them. With any luck you get his name and maybe a current adress or the family he was adopted by. Then you go to there adress and ask if they no where he is if you can get there adress. I hope you find him

Answer 11

Here is a good list of free people finder tips, searches and help to work with:

People Search Tips --

http://www.skipease.com/search_tips/free...

Live People Finder Help --

http://www.peoplefinderchat.com

White Pages --

http://www.whitepages.com

Free People Searches --

http://www.skipease.com

Answer 12

The following persons may receive information:

The adopted person who is age 18 or older

The natural parents

A natural sibling who is age 18 or older

The adoptive parents of an adopted person who is under age 18

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Access to Nonidentifying Information

Citation: Pub. Health Law §§ 4138-c; 4138-d

The department shall operate an adoption information registry for the exchange of nonidentifying information between the persons listed above. Nonidentifying information shall only include the following information, if known, about the adopted person, natural parents, and natural siblings:

The age of the parents in years at the time of the child’s birth

The heritage of the parents, including nationality, ethnic background, race, and religion

Education completed by the parents at the time of the child’s birth

General physical appearance of the parents at the time of the child’s birth, including height, weight, color of

hair, eyes, skin, and other information of similar nature

The occupation of the parents

The health history of the parents

The talents, hobbies, and special interests of the parents

The facts and circumstances relating to the adoption

The existence of any known birth siblings

Upon acceptance of a registration, the department shall search registry records to determine whether the adopted person’s adoption occurred within the State. If the adoption did occur within the State, the department shall request nonidentifying information from court records. If the department determines that the adoption did not occur within the State, it shall notify the registrant that no record exists of the adoption occurring within the State.

If an agency was involved in the adoption, nonidentifying information may be accessed by registering the mutual consent voluntary adoption registry maintained by the agency.

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Mutual Access to Identifying Information

Citation: Pub. Health Law §§ 4138-c; 4138-d

The department shall operate an adoption information registry for the exchange of information between the persons

listed above. Any person whose registration was accepted may withdraw the registration prior to the release of any

identifying information.

Upon acceptance of a registration, the department shall search the registry files to determine whether the person

sought is registered. If there is a match, the department shall notify the court to request the person’s final consent to

the release of identifying information.

Upon receipt of a final consent by the adopted person, birth parent, and/or birth sibling, the department shall,

unless the adopted person or birth sibling has elected otherwise, release identifying information to all the registrants.

Such identifying information shall be limited to the names and addresses of the registrants and shall not include any other information contained in the adoption or birth records.

A mutual consent voluntary adoption registry may be maintained by each agency involved in an adoption. Persons eligible to receive identifying information may work through the agency involved in the adoption. The agency shall accept and maintain the registrations of an adopted person, the natural parents, or a natural sibling. If the agency determines that the agency was involved in the adoption, it shall transmit the registration to the adoption information registry operated by the department and release nonidentifying information.

An adoption medical information subregistry shall be part of the registry. Access to all identifying records and information in the subregistry shall be subject to the same restrictions as the adoption information registry. The department shall establish procedures by which a birth parent may provide medical information to the subregistry, and by which an adopted person age 18 or older, or the adoptive parents of an adopted person who is under age 18, may access the medical information.



Access to Original Birth Certificate

Citation: Pub. Health Law § 4138

The original birth certificate is available only upon order of the court.

Where the Information Can Be Located

New York State Department of Health, Adoption Registry

And here is the link to the NY state registry per UGB  : The New York State Adoption Information Registry is located here:

http://www.health.state.ny.us/vital_reco...

thank you www.childwelfare.gov for that!

Search & Support

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/nyadoptees...

Adoption Crossroads has bbq’s and healing weekends for family separated by adoption also :)

Don’t forget ISRR <<< a MUST!

WTF are you yapping about over there joslin? My agenda? I help every single adoptee I can on here. I constantly post the state laws and any links I can to help.

You're a real piece of work. Go through and look at my past questions and SEE HOW MANY SEARCHERS I'VE OFFERED ASSISTANCE TO.

Don't sit on here and call me out because I wasn't online to "get the message" as soon as possible. I'm working on something fabulous that I'm 100% positive will put you out of business, or give you and your associates a child protection services of your own, meaning someone to watch and regulate the scandal going on in your shady neck of the woods.  Better start looking for a new job, you won't have yours for much longer, 10 years at the most. Social wrecker is a title that fits you better.

Answer 13

nope wish i could help

Answer 14

Do you know what month he was born in?

Definitely follow the above advice and sign up at ISRR. Even if you don't have a lot of information to put on the registration form, you can always update it later.

I'd also suggest joining the NY Adoptee Search group at:

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/nyadoptees...

Answer 15

List your information with International Soundex Reunion Registry. It is free. http://www.isrr.net/

Also go to www.forums.adoption.com and register there which is also free and has a ton of ideas of how to go about searching and how to track down paperwork.

You can also try posting your date of birth and place on ancestry.com

Here is another link you can look over to give you more ideas.

http://www.adopting.org/adoptions/adopti...