Anyone married for 5 years or more?

Question

If so, what are the two biggest things that has made your marriage last so far? Would you say you are happy in your marriage?

Lasting relationships seems hard to come by these days.

Answer 1

We are best friends, and the relationships with both families has played a huge part. We all get along, and yes I am very happy.

Answer 2

I've been married over 6 years and I would say that trust and compromise are two of the biggest reasons that our marriage has lasted.  You can't have a relationship with someone you don't trust.  And as far as compromise, this is what saves us from fighting and arguing.  Yes, I would say I am happy in my marriage.  I love my husband and want to stay happily married forever.  I couldn't think of anyone else I would rather be with.  And he feels the same way (I just asked him!).  

Answer 3

BE WILLING TO ADJUST IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP. JUST BECAUSE YOU THINK THINGS SHOULD GO ONE WAY, DOESENT MEAN SHE DOES. ALWAYS REMEMBER THE FEELINGS THAT STARTED YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND ALWAYS PUT GOD FIRST IN YOUR MARRIAGE.

Answer 4

7 years. Communication is the key. Also keep romance alive and spend as much time together as you can. Be friends first, then lovers.  

Answer 5

Communication, and sharing responsibilities.  31 years and going strong.

Answer 6

Yes, we have been married 12 years. Our two biggest things are a passion for fun, and support in sickness. Which we both have experienced to a certain extent. Yes, I would say that I am happy in my marriage, of course there are always ups and down, so I would give it an 85%.

Answer 7

I was married for 13 years and the last eight I admit were awful you get tired of her ,her cooking, her s*x, her family it just sucked . I am single now for the last seven years have girlfriends ,drinking buddies its way better now but to each his own.  

Answer 8

I agree 100%,  single is the option most people

favor now, with the freedom if offers

Answer 9

My husband and I have been married for 29 years in October.  I think you need to have a lot of give and take and talking about things that bother you and not botteling them up.  This has to do with money as well.

Listen to each other and appreciate each other for your self.

Answer 10

Married for 10 years here and the biggest thing for us was to truly be comfortable with ourselves as people. I married her for who she was and never had any intention of trying to change her, other than for the better, of course. Never being jelous of what she does really helps us. She is my best friend, lover and my wife.  

Answer 11

There are not two biggest things - just a lot of little things.

The ability of both people to put each other first.

The willingness to listen and respect each others opinion.

Honesty and trust. To be able to tell them anything and know that it will never be repeated.

You are best friends and are important to each other. Look forward to getting old together.

Last but not least - the ability to laugh - at yourself and with each other.

Married 20 years this year.

Answer 12

yep.....almost 11 years. the biggest reason we've stayed together is because we've both put Jesus Christ first in our lives. Also, we have always been willing to take marriage and parenting classes through our church to understand each other better....there's always room for improvement, and it's ok to get help when you need it!

and yes....I am SO happy in my marriage...much more so than at the beginning. Being able to go through the ups and downs of life bonds a couple....when people choose not to stick it out through the hard times, they are short changing themselves because that is when the most growth and deeper bond occurs.  

Answer 13

Humor and a true partnership...not necessarily 50/50, but a relationship where both feel valued and appreciated.

Answer 14

15 years.  Complaiment the other one.  Both need to do more than thier share.  Let the small stuff go cause it does not matter.  and talk about everything from both of your family to what each of you done each day.  If she is buying something out of the ordinary at the store she calls if i am going to work an extra day i call her to see if we have plans.  It is all a give and take.  She tells me the good and bad of my family and i do to her too.  work things out and bargin a bit.  do things to make the other feel special.

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Answer 15

I've been married 14yrs since I was just 18. My husband is 8yrs older than me.

I think our first 5yrs were hard. I was still a kid, selfish and well just plain young! I didn't know to cook, do laundry or even drive when I got married! Plus I had tons of problems that came along with me. lol

But, I loved my husband dearly and I still wonder today why he loves me.

I think LOVE is the main thing that kept it going and keeps it going. We truely love each other. He still gives me goosebumps when he touches me! My kids get a kick out of this and so does my husband. He'll sometimes touch me to watch them pop up. lol

I never raise my voice to him, I honor him and respect him as the man of the house. People may call it old fashion as the Bible says AFTER OBEYING GOD, I OBEY MY HUSBAND. Even though I don't like it sometimes. lol

One reason I never raise my voice to him is due family history. My mom is verbally abusive and puts down my dad all the time. She was like this to me too. I hate it how she speaks to him and vowed never to do that. Even if I am upset at my husband I speak in a calm, clear and kind voice.

I never go to bed angry at him. Yes, I do get mad at him and very upset sometimes. He can is human and has said things that hurt my feeling, but I always forgive him.

He isn't the type to admit he is wrong & say he is sorry FIRST. (I think most men are like this) So even though I do hate it at times I'll give in after a disagreement (which is rare thankfully) & hug him or kiss him first.

I call him every morning at work to say I love you. Plus in the afternoon I call him too just to say hi & ask how it day is going.

We are far from the perfect couple though. Due to my past it is hard to tell him when he makes me mad & stuff like that. I have many chronic health issues and know that is hard on him too.

I often wonder why he doesn't just walk out the door and get a wife who isn't sick a lot & has a rough past. I often wish he could have a better wife with good health, be a better mom to the kids and stuff like that.

But, I'm thankful he loves me and I do my best to return it.

Some people say love isn't enough, but I guess our love each other has carried us through the tough times. I look forward to growing old with him & can't wait till we are both gray, wrinkled and still holding hands.

For my sister's wedding she asked for marriage advice. My main one was : Always hold hands!

After 14yrs my husband & I still hold hands walking side by side, sitting in the car sometimes or even sitting next to each other in bed. Even while we sleep. lol  

Answer 16

Married 16 years and every day of it sucked!  

Answer 17

My husband and i have been happily married 17+yrs and the 2 biggest things that have made our marriage last is our deep love for each other and our friendship.

Answer 18

I am 27 yo & have been with the same man for the last 11 years. What has made it last so long.... well, we made a life-long commitment when we wed. Things are not always good or happy, in fact there were years where I did not even like him.  But we chose to be together forever, and we will be. Things got better and we are, and have always been, very much in love.

Answer 19

a long lasting and happy marriage comes from being able to share and repair our differences.being really sensitive to our partners feelings and opinions.being aware of it too.communication,financial support,exc.....all is good,but being receptive and sensative to your partner goes far.most importantly,remeber this if any.a marriage is how much you are willing to give, with none in return.unconditionally... 14yrs no problem.....

Answer 20

this november will be our 10th year of marriage (both 28 yrs old). i would have to say that our love for each other and our kids that has kept us strong. yea we bicker and argue from time to time (sometimes more than often), but that's normal. lots of people give up on marriage to easily. a marriage takes work and is not always easy. i think the more obstacles you can overcome, the stronger you get. i don't however encourage someone to stay if the other is abusive or is cheating. Oh and another major part of a successful marriage is COMMUNICATION, RESPECT and TRUST, without it, you pretty much don't have anything!!

oh and by the way, yes we are very happy in our marriage.

many said that we wouldn't last when we got married at 18, but i think we are doing pretty dam good considering the divorce rate nowadays.