Anyone want to help with my guy problem? XD?

Question

I like this guy. he's about a year older than me. He lives a few states away but he might be coming to my state for college. I met him a few years ago, and then saw him again this summer and we hung out. This guy flirts with every girl and he really likes women. We were on the beach alone one night and we really seemed to click...

the problem is I am really shy and I flirt with him, but I'm unsure if he wants to actually try a relationship or if he just wants to have fun. I'm not even sure if he is interested in me or just thinks I'm hot. I know I should be more bold and just ask him, but honestly I am afraid of rejection. I'm sorta pessimistic like that. hehe XD

Sorry this was so long. I've been thinking about it for more than a week. Thanks anyone who helps :)

Answer 1

You could try to ask him if he would be interested in going out with you on a date, something like "hey, would you like to go to dinner sometime?" as you are saying goodbye. No pressure and they often say yes out of reflex. Then give him a call a couple of days later to set a date and time.

As for a relationship give it a few dates (say three or four) and see how you click when you have seen each other a few times. If things are going good then ask him if he would like to try dating exclusively. Something along the lines of "you know I think things are going well, what do you think of seeing each other a little more exclusively for a while?" Again no pressure.

The key is not to pressure the guy, if he feels like you are rushing to a commitment or want more out of him then he is willing to give her will be gone faster then the words come out of your mouth.

It sounds like this guy may want to play the field a little  from your description of him, though, so if he decides to not go the exclusive route don't take this as a rejection of you (it isn't) nor as a deal breaker. There is nothing wrong with seeing someone casually while you both date other people.

Best of luck!

Answer 2

You Know, I maybe thirteen, but in my years of traveling I find meeting people you met even only once in another state awesome! So let's see..You like the guy a whole bunch, You clicked on the beach. You flirt with him and he flirts with you. What s the risk? I say go for it and follow what your gut says. My gut reactions always come out positive.

The worst thing is he says no. If he says no maybe fate is telling you not to ask yet. Chances are he might say yes. And it is always a 50/50 but anyway. Follow your gut. You won't regret it. Good Luck! I hope I helped!