Aparents what, if anything, do you look to gain?

Question

from adult adoptees experiences that are shared here?

Answer 1

Secrets and lies = everyone loses

Answer 2

Different perspectives.

Answer 3

Joy, you may have to get out your crayons and draw big purple pictures.

Answer 4

I would hope to gain more insight to different problems, questions and issues that adult adoptees had to go through. That way I can prepare as well as possible for troubles I may have to help my child through.

Answer 5

insight.....try to understand the anger an adoptive child may have.  Find out what experiences are important to the majority and some how help my child keep that memory.

Answer 6

I hope to learn how to be a better AP by understanding more of what my son is going through or will go through as he gets older.   I appreciate the insight that Amy, Gershom, Spanky, Phil, and a few others have shared with me both thru Y!A and thru email.  We may not always agree on things, but it is helpful to hear all sides.

Answer 7

information

Answer 8

The things that an adoptee believed were postive as well as the things that were negative about growing up...

Answer 9

So my husband and I can be better foster adopt parents, answering someday our child's questions honestly and be there for them when/as they need it.

Answer 10

Adoptee parents...

... hmmm ...

Ooh, me, me!

We/they look to gain a child to save, a soul to love... A person to raise, so they/we can be pround, specially if we're/their GUYS with no wifes or lives.

Anyways-

cut short version:

Plan to gain a child to carefor a soul to love and a child to talk to last adoptingparents plan to also/lastly gain someone they can teach and be pround of and someone they can cope to live life and someone they can make grow into a man/women.

Answer 11

Why are you always picking on parents here?  Why do you ask so many questions.  You need to take some prozak.

Answer 12

Surfnerd, it's ok.  She challenges me.  Most of the a'parents who hang around here can take whatever she dishes out.  We're tough cookies...which is a good thing, because it's a tough crowd!  LOL

So, what I hope to gain...I don't know that this is an adequate answer, but I'm sticking with it:  "anything and everything".  Even if one adoptee's experience doesn't resonate with me or my child, I still want to hear it.