Apartment and a old cat woman..?

Question

This dream was a little odd.

I had moved into a new place.

I could see everything in detail.

Though when I entered there was stuff all over the walls. I thought some of it was "cool" but another part of me was frustrated because I didn't have much space to put up any of my posters & pictures of my own. I also didn't want to look my roommate in his face, and I had no clue who he was. Though his first name was "Dan" and a guy who I was a lover with and who I want to get back with has the same first name. His last name also began with a H, and my ex lover also had a last name that started with an H. When I looked around the room I saw a mini-bar. In the back of the room I saw 3 blue suitcases of 3 different sizes, small to large. When I looked out the window my roommate warned me about a crazy old woman who had many cats. I looked out the window and saw nothing. I sat down on a very comfortable couch. A cat then appeared next to me and it was a orange/cream colored cat. I was petting it and enjoying the moment. Then I looked up and there was a old woman wearing a short-haired black wig who standing in the kitchen next to the mini bar. "Dan" was speaking to her but I did not. Though I did make eye contact and waved to her. It was as if I knew her and I knew she was a nice woman. The mini bar disgusted me a little, and I'm not sure why. It was there, taking up space and wasn't being used. There was also a cheaply cut up piece of paper that was taped to the wall which I looked at for a good amount of time. It looked like a child had made it. I wanted to tear down some of what was all over the walls but I didn't want to come off rude and so I dealt with it and instead curiously started looking at all of it.

I'm not 100% sure what it all means, but I have this feeling it might be about my relationship with the guy who I still like.

Dan is 12 years older then me, is allergic to cats, and thinks he is old when I do not. We both also aren't into drinking except sometimes socially.

Answer 1

Mike,

This represents your need to be your own person, not live in continual submission to another person.  In your relationship with Dan, he is the dominator and you have to just fit yourself in around what he wants and likes.  You never get to be first.  You submit all your desires, instincts and identity to him.  He rules.

Though you feel attached to Dan, you really want the freedom that can be yours by not being in relationship with him.    Being with Dan is comfortable (like the couch) but there is no room for your own self expression.  It's easy to just sit there, comfortably, doing whatever Dan wants, and if you do otherwise, suddenly things are not so comfortable anymore.  Dan is not so much a lover to you as he is a father.  Just because you have a physical relationship does not change this fact.

Perhaps the 3 suitcases represent your growth as a person.  When you came into relationship with Dan, you had little of your own demands or need to express yourself.  Dan provided the security and comfort and even the identity you needed at that time.  When you "moved in" you didn't have a very large suitcase because you brought little with you into the relationship.  However, over time, you have grown into more of an individual with ideas, feelings and needs all your own that do not necessarily fit into the small confines of the emotional space Dan allows for you.  You fill as if you are having to shrink yourself up, as if you were putting all that you are into a small suitcase, and whatever cannot fit into that "Dan approved" box has to be sacrifices.  Perhaps you've gone through 3 major stages of growth, and now that you can fill a much larger "bag" with things that are primarily YOU and not "Dan approved" it really IS time to pack that bag (emotionally) and moved into a more independent lifestyle.

However, you need to be careful that you do not rush into another relationship where someone else wants to dominate you.  Also, I hope you avoid the temptation to woo a younger lover and do what Dan has done to you.  It's just not fair.  You rob someone of SO much when you do that.  If you are more of a parent to someone, it is not fair to attach sexual demands and emotional blackmail to that.  A person HAD to be able to move on beyond any "parent/child" relationship and achieve emotional maturity, which is sure to destroy any romantic relationship that is based on a "parent/child" construct.  

The crazy old woman with the cats could very well be me, answering your post and warning you about Dan.  I'm sure he would not approve of what I have said to you.  People who have interacted with me awhile tend to label me "the cat lady".  One of my friends called me just a couple of days ago and laughingly asked, "Is this the cat woman?"

The first time someone called me "the cat lady" it kind of surprised me, but if you meet an eccentric woman who interprets dreams and has many cats, I guess you might be inclined to call her that, would you not?  Last month, I had 13 cats, but 8 of them were kittens, who left home without my permission.  I think they got "catnapped."  Now, I'm down to 3 cats in the house, and 2 or 3 that currently visit my "Backyard Buffet".

The wig represents my disguise.  People who know me in person have not yet learned to call me "Fairelight."  

Perhaps the mini bar has something to do with Dan's religious beliefs.  He doesn't approve of you seeking spiritual counsel or looking for perspective except what he approves of.  He most likely would not ever believe God might send someone to speak to you in the dream interpretation section of Yahoo Answers.

So, do you think I might possibly be the cat woman?  I think so.  I saw my name in your title, so I just HAD to answer!

Pray for wisdom.  God is waiting to hear from you.

God bless you,

Fairelight

Answer 2

very often in dreams, a house or abode of some sort represents our life.  see if any of the descriptive words fit any part of your life;

some cool, part frustrated, a little disgusted, taking up space,

wanted to tear down some, dealt with it.

sometimes the other stuff is filler, and the emotions and descriptions

are the significant parts.

hope it helps.

Answer 3

I'm confused.

Answer 4

Here is some symbolism:

Walls: Usually a barrier that needs to be dealt with, or a supportive aspect that holds up or hold back something.

Posters: A message, personal interest or attraction.

Pictures: a message.

Paper: Communication, or fear of reading (finding out) something you don't want to know.

Window: perception.

Mini Bar: opportunity to soften stress, or a need to relax.

Old Women: experience, wisdom, reserve

Wig: Deceptive thoughts, or an attempt to hide them, or to fix them.

Black: mystery, negativity, or death.

Suitcases: unnecessary attitudes,beliefs, etc.

Blue: Spirituality, and depending on the type of blue, it could be strict religious beliefs (navy blue), or a care free spirit (mauve), etc.

Carry-on Luggage: beliefs and attitudes that one feels are important.

Couch: restful nature.

Apartment: A need to be around others in one's life.

So, from these symbols, and not knowing anything about the relationship you had with this person, I would say that you want to be around him (apartment) , but when you try to make yourself a part of his life, or when you consider tyring, it seems that he has other interests or attractions (stuff on the wall), and that there is no room for you among them.

You feel he has some baggage, or you have some baggage (suitcases), some of which is important (smaller suitcases - carry-on luggage), and some of which seems unimportant, and it may be spiritual in nature.

You look around to get some perspective (window), but he pushes you away (warning you about the woman). The woman is either some sort of deception, or perhaps represents that you are growing apart in wisdom and experience, and you wish to pretend this isn't so (wig & that you like the woman ). The fact that he feels she is a negative aspect may show that he does not want to pretend.

The mini-bar upsets you, perhaps because it is not being used. It suggests you want to relax and unwind with this person, which includes pretending you have grown apart (the old woman is connected by proximity). However, you are bothered that the option, though it seems so close, is not happening.

Perhaps you are not willing to acknowledge all of this, or that it can't happen, as represented by the torn paper. You don't want to push this person, so you leave the stuff on the wall and try pretend you are ok.

That is just one interpretation, though. Feel free to make your own based on the symbols I have offered.

Answer 5

Maybe you wish "Dan" was a woman, and you want to own cats w/ him!!