Appalled by behavior of MEN?

Question

SOME MEN, not ALL

For example, I have had experiences where guys have been rude to me if they didn't like my hairstyle, but later when I tried something else...they were nice or expected me to forget how they were before and acknowledge them.

Or they expect that I will respond when with sexual comments.

Now, what I'm wondering is, it should I be more appalled at this behavior, or the fact that this treatment must work on some women or else they would not act this way??

Which one is sadder?

Answer 1

LOL!  I blame The Patriarchy. Its a conspiracy.

Answer 2

They're both sad, and I can promise you that as long as other women are bending and breaking beneath boyfriend pressure, your boyfriends will expect you to do the same.

Answer 3

I know some guys do act like this. I think it is very rude to make fun of people. The weird thing is the deal that they just be nice to you the time they think you get a better style. I think inner beauty counts, and I'm not just saying this. No one should be judged by looks.

Answer 4

In the end it's their problem because they wont get a decent relationship and people just see them as sad pathetic inferioir shites.

Answer 5

They are both sad. I think men are human beings as are women, but they tend to be very shallow when it comes to appearance. They seem to have very set ideas about what is attractive and what is not. My ex-husband's affection depended on how thin I was. When I divorced him and lost a lot of weight, he oh so wanted to get back with me. My current boyfriend loves it when dress really s**y, but hates it if I dress like someone who has taste. They just seem to be all over the place with their little whims and desires. To be fair though, women can play also. Like not dating someone without a good job or money. People all have certain desires and limits, but I do think men very strange about appearance.

Answer 6

I really cant imagine that working on many women, then again the nice guy approach doesn't seem to work too well either.  Id assume the guys you are referring to are just rude and they may not view women as equals.

Answer 7

I am going to give you an answer that you might not like:

1.  If this is happening to you more often than once every several years, change your associations.  Thes people are tossers, and you should walk away, head held high rather than try and rail against the idiocy of fools.  This type of behaviour is not limited to men, and women use this technique to manipulate men all the time too.  It is a basic power-play where provocation is used to embarass you into granting a certain response, but any response you give that indulges the tosser is a waste of your time.  They might call you thin-skinned and humourless for not indulging them, but hey, you maintained your dignity.

2.  You cannot control the actions of responses of others.  If their taunts work on some women, then they need to learn that lying with dogs begets fleas.

Answer 8

Maybe they think if they do that to a hundred women, one or two might respond.  One of my buds was like this-the whistling and cat calling to women who basically just wanted to get away from him.

Answer 9

Oh yes, sure!  Anyone who uses the term of abuse MEN is a horrendous bigot and is best avoided by anyone sensitive and male.

The questioner therefore only gets to have proper encounters with those who do not give a d**n.

If I don't like a woman's hairstyle (and that applies to nearly all women who go regularly to hairdressers), I try to say nothing, but nor do I consider them as particularly feminine.  By marking them down mentally as neuter, I can offer due respect the right of all humans, male or female.  It is just boorish to make rude comments, including the use of the term 'MEN'.

Answer 10

stop acting innocent,women act the same way,you women are rude to men that are wearing ugly shirts or if you don't like their hairstyle you are nice to their faces but talk trash behind their backs,at least men that you met told you face to face but you women say one thing to their faces but another behind their backs.

Answer 11

I don't think it works on any woman.  Why would you even change your hair for a man and what kind of man really cares that much about hair?  Are you 12?

What is sad is you actually bought into their hatred and tried to be validated through your hair...and still give a d**n about these "men".

Answer 12

What's sad is that you give a c**p either way.

Answer 13

Miss, you just concentrate on being good to others. When you're perfect then you can whine about how men treat you.

Answer 14

Guys act like that because some girls allow that behavior to carry on around them. If you let someone talk to you like a tramp and don't say anything to them. They will only continue to display this type of behavior.

Answer 15

The nice guy approach takes too long for some guys so they work on statistics. A strong come-on will probably fail 19 out of 20 times. If a guy keeps it up, he can get something out of a girl in a couple of days of d!cking out. A nice guy on the other hand usually waits for months before his polite and honest approach lands him anything. Its simply a strategy that some men employ. All you need is guts and a thick skin to take all the abuse a strong come-on will bring you from the ladies. Nice guys are usually too sensitive for that.