Appropriate or not, wedding registry information in the invites?

Question

Is it appropriate or not to put cards in your wedding invites saying where you are registered? I have read that it is not appropriate, but most of the invites I get have them in the invite envelope.

Answer 1

i was confused about this too because the last couple invites i have gotten had them.  it is considered tacky to put any information about registries or gifts in the wedding invitation.  this is information that should be shared by word of mouth.

Answer 2

Not appropriate.  It's showing guests that you expect them to bring a gift.  What is appropriate is to have the address of your wedding website on the bottom of the invite.  You can list where you're registered on the website.  It's a sneaky little way to get around the etiquette rules.

Answer 3

ok. if your big on the whole traditional rules thing then it not. but modern weddings are making their own rules not everyone comes from familys where all society rules must be followed.  If you come from a more down to earth group of people like me then they will most likely not be upset at all.  I would find it very convient to get that information with the invitations. Your going to be to busy to bother with five thousand people calling you to find out things they can already know.  How is it any different that putting it in the paper? Or haveing the MOH "put the word out"  Lets be honest no matter what any of these people say, gifts are expected.They shouldnt be but they are.  Or there wouldnt be Showers (aka girls come hang out and have food and fun but bring me stuff)  And anyone who says other wise know that they would pe pissed if no one got them anything for their wedding. So dont worry do what you want. If you think this will work better than word of mouth then do it.

Answer 4

It's only acceptable to put them in your bridal shower invitations.

It's never okay to put them in your wedding invitations, regardless of what your friends or whoever did. It's incredibly tacky and rude!

Answer 5

Frankly, it's up to you. My suggestion is to include your wedding website on the 'information page' that contains directions.  List where you are registered at on your website.

If people want to kvetch about needless c**p, it's not your worry. Some folks here must think people are morons.  Of course they know they don't need to bring any gift. Many will just give money because they don't want to be bothered or that is what they prefer to give. But for those who want a gift that is wanted, at least they have a place to start. I don't know about you guys, but I don't need a whole bunch of phone calls just before the wedding.

For my wedding, I haven't decided whether to just make a list of things we would like or to do registries at several places and be done with it.  Either way, it will be on a website.

Answer 6

its your wedding. do what you want.

I know lots of people who have included it on the invite.  It is not as inappropriate as it used to be.  There are no longer this list of what you MUST and MUSTN'T do at your own wedding.

however, if you are having a VERY formal wedding and the invitations are to match including it would not match the style of wedding.

Do what makes you happy!!! there is nothing wrong with including it.

Answer 7

I don't know if it is appropriate or not... but I did it... how else are people that don't get the local paper (or able to come to a wedding shower) to know where you are registered... you can only tell so many people...  just as long as it's in a tactful way i don't see anything wrong with it...

add: yes gifts are optional... and i didn't expect gifts from everyone... but i would have rather been helpful and telling people where to look than getting the same kitchen utensils over and over and over and over and over again... oh wait... that still happened (not that i am ungrateful for that because now there are extras for when my husband melts them using them in a chemistry experiment like i know he will)

oh and since most weren't able to come to a shower (beings as most were family from out of state) they didn't get that info in a shower invite...

Answer 8

Most invites I've gotten have a small little card from the retailer they registered with. I'm not sure of the "etiquette" but I don't think it's a bad thing.

This way the registry card will be tucked with the invite and we know where to go for them instead of running around like headless chickens trying to find a gift.

Edit: What's with the thumbs down? Not everyone is invited to the shower, there's no wedding police to come and knock on your door and arrest you if you put the registry card in the invites. Do what you like. It's your wedding.

Answer 9

NOT

This is only to be put in shower invitations!

Answer 10

not appropriate.  Plus where you are registered goes out with the wedding shower invitations since most people would prefer and most couples getting married prefer cash as a present instead of an item you will never use...

Answer 11

Very very inappropriate and tacky.  There should be no mention of gifts in the wedding invitation, with the possible exception of saying, "No gifts, please."

Answer 12

Not.  This is a definite wedding don't!

Only in the shower invite...nothing in the wedding invite.

Answer 13

I think it is.  Otherwise people will ask or just think you don't have one at all.   How else are you supposed to let them know?  Most people expect it now days.. I'm not offended when I get it in an invite at all...

Answer 14

Completely not.  Gifts are optional.  Gifts are not required as a token of admission and the bride and groom should not be EXPECTING them to begin with.  As such it is absolutely rude, tacky, crass, etc etc to mention gifts on your invite.  You are inviting them to share your special day--not inviting them to purchase something at their convenience.

I am sooo glad I have never gotten an invite from a bride like that.  As to how they would find out--the same way they used to find out.  They call the family or a bridesmaid.  Or when they are invited to a shower, the person throwing the shower can include that information.  You can also have a wedding website where you put that type of information.  It is perfectly ok to put a card with your wedding website address in the invite as long as the website has other info.  Date/time, directions, hotels in the area, perhaps even a blog about wedding planning/showers.

Answer 15

You could include cards in the invites of close family and friends (parents, siblings etc) who will definitely want to get you something. I'd probably let other guests (distant cousins, colleagues etc) ask if you are registered anywhere, that way they can decide whether or not they want to get you anything and are not pushed into buying something for someone they aren't very close to.

Answer 16

i say if you are not having a bridal shower then go for it cause how else are the guest are going to know

Answer 17

Not appropriate- I know most people do it anyway, but it is technically considered in poor taste.  Guests are supposed to inquire about the couple's registry by contacting the parents of the bride or groom, the MOH, best man, or anyone else in the bridal party.  Also, it is considered OK for the hosts of the bridal shower to include registry info in the invitation to the shower, just not to the actual wedding itself.

Answer 18

not appropriate.

Answer 19

It is not appropriate. Putting them in the envelope is basically telling your guests that you expect them to bring a gift (gift grabbing).

Answer 20

Tacky. Just because lots of people do it doesn't make it classy. If your guests want to know where you're registered, they'll call and ask you.

Answer 21

Nope not appropriate. Don't worry, everyone at the shower will ask your mom where you are registered.

Answer 22

That's up to you, but traditionally its the job of The Matron & Maid of honor as wells and the bride's & grooms mothers to spread the word. The actual gifts from the registry are supposed to be given at the Bridal Shower and for the wedding money is supposed to be given.

Answer 23

Very inappropriate.

The registry is for your bridal shower.

Answer 24

Not appropriate. I have found that if people want to know, they will ask you where you are registered. You also might let your parents and friends know where in case someone should ask them.

Answer 25

Not they will already know from your shower.