My husband (Pete) and I have been bickering lately. Mostly about spending more time with his friend (Ross) than with me. He invites his friend to run errands or watch movies with us. Pete will often change plans to include Ross.
Ross has depression, lower IQ, but over-all a nice person. If Pete asks him to come over, he will. I don't have a problem with Ross directly.
I have a problem with Pete constantly inviting him during all of his free time and not telling me until Ross shows up. Pete won't spend time with me unless we are doing something, but he will sit with Ross and just talk for hours.
Pete has been doing better about balancing his time and compromising. But many times he changes the plans around, which affects me and my time with him. We are working on compromising & communicating more effectively.
I had talked to my in-laws trying to find a way to deal with this situation. My mother in law told me to talk Ross.
I explained that my problem is with Pete, not Ross. Also I told her that I married Pete and not Ross. She still thinks I should tell Ross to go home or tell him not to come over every time my husband calls.
Do you think my response to my MIL was appropriate?
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