Are 12 y/o generally forgetful-I'm loosing my mind?

Question

I have to constantly tell my 12 y/o to do his chores around the house, every single time, every single day I feel like I'm going to loose my minds. I think he does not care about the things he is suppose to do. I'm loosing my mind.

I'm I alone in dealing with this type of forgetful, effortsless behavior from my son?

Answer 1

Make a consequence for not doing his chores. Don't nag him about it but enforce the consequences.  By constantly reminding him you are actually teaching him that he doesn't have to remember, you will remember for him.

Answer 2

It is normal for a boy of that age to forget to do chores.  Don't resort to abuse, that may solve the short term problem, but will just create long term problems.  Try to make consequences if he doesn't do his chores, like no TV or video games for the rest of the week.  Or you could buy a dry erase board and write a list of his chores on it and have him check it and check it, if not there will be consequences.

Answer 3

I had a horrible time remebering chorse when i was that age. Its not that I didnt listen or that I didnt care, I just got busy doing other stuff, and simply forgot. Im not saying he should be allowed to get away with it, I diffently did not. Either make him do it the second you tell him to, or give him a time frame and if he forgets, he is grounded. Your diffently not alone, I know my dad wasnt the only who had to deal with it. I grew out of it with time. Just try to stay sane!

Answer 4

Unfortunately no. My son is almost 12 and we are dealing with the exact same thing from him. He has great excuses. "I didn't know." "I didn't hear you." "I was just about to." When we remind him. You're not alone...

Answer 5

Children forget b/c they don't put the kind of importance on the same things adults do. In addition, they have a selective listening system that turns off as soon as we start nagging!  I would suggest choosing your battles carefully and not letting up on the ones you choose.  I would reward him for doing all his chores instead of taking something away that would be replaced with something else anyway.  Like if he does all his chores by 8pm, without being asked, he gets 30 minutes extra to play video games.

Answer 6

Lee that is abusive....

Yes that is normal and he isn't forgetting he just doesn't want to do them...make sure you punish him for not doing his chores by sending him to his room or grounding him but don't hit him like Lee said. Pretty soon he will start to "remember" his chores.  : )

Answer 7

Punish the 12 y/o by giving more chores to do you stay and you just watch.

When the 12 y/o gets done with the chores make the12/yo sit at the table and write every chore that was done - than if it happens again increase the writing to 2 times and etc.

When the 12 y/o gets done wrting them give a timeout and make him stand in the corner for 15 minutes.

Be firm you decide what needs to be done.

Answer 8

Of course not. When my son doesn't listen I give him the belt on his *** and he gets right to it. I would reccommend the same.