Are Jack and Jill parties tacky?

Question

My friends and I were invited to a Jack and Jill party that costs $15 to get into the door. We are not invited to the wedding but have heard all about it and we know their parents are paying for the whole thing. They are also having a bachelor and bachelorette party and have already had a shower. Furthermore, the groomsmen were told they have to pay for any unsold tickets. They are not just keeping the profits, but asking their wedding party to pay for the party and keeping all the money. No meal will be served and there will be a cash bar. Am I right that this is really tacky?

Answer 1

Jack and Jill parties aren't tacky.  Making your guests pay $15 to get into something where they are not fed and have to pay for their own drinks is.  You and your friends should tell the bride and groom exactly how you feel about this profit-making scheme.  At that point, I would even reconsider going to the wedding and getting them a gift.

Answer 2

TRES TACKY on so many levels.  All I can say is OMG.

1. Having a cover charge is tacky as h**l.

2. Making your guests pay for their drinks at your party is tacky.

3. Making your guests pay for their drinks after they pay a cover charge is even MORE tacky.  What is this, a dance club on Beale Street?

3. Making their groomsmen have to pay for their unsold tickets is horribly rude.

4. Inviting people to these parties who aren't invited to the wedding is tacky.

5. Letting such private information about the financial aspects of your wedding and parties get out is tacky.

Wow.

Answer 3

Heck no, you don't go!  Your not going to the wedding no reason to go to this function either. They seem to having too many parties unless that is the type of people they are.. bleh!

If I was the groomsmen I would say no too or just bow out of the wedding entirely.. how rude!

Answer 4

Wow, so many people think jack and jills are tacky- what is wrong with these people? Jack and Jills generally aren't tacky, however, you did say something about how you know that their parents are paying for the wedding, I guess that is just a bit greedy (though I'm not sure why they would let anyone know that in the first place). I am getting married in October and I myself am having a Jack and Jill. We are charging $20 a ticket, and that covers your meal, not drinks. My parents are NOT paying for the wedding, and we are expecting a baby in March, so money is really really tight right now. I am a teacher and my summer job fell through, which sadly put us more in the hole. So, in my case it was either a Jack and Jill... or... put the wedding on credit cards. I live in western Massachusetts and they are really quite common out in this area. The general rule is that you are to choose between a shower and a Jack and Jill. So what it comes down to is-  do you want to raise money for the wedding, or have gifts? I know of course you can still get gifts, but this is the only sure fire way to raise money for the wedding BEFORE hand so that you can be more comfortable. It really just depends on the situation I suppose.

Answer 5

Yes,  it  sounds  tacky  to  me  and  I  probably  would  not  attend  it.