Are More Men NOT MArrying Women?

Question

I have a couple of friends that are NOT married, but do have children by men who have high paying jobs. The women claimed their boyfriends don't want to get married at all because the women will take 1/2 the money in a divorce, because the men got a lot to lose?

Is this what is coming today? Is this the NEW trend?

Answer 1

It is part of the new trend today but it is partly because many young women don't want to get married either whether or not they have a child or several.

Answer 2

This is a new trend.

I'm 29 and the majority of my friends are my age, not married, and not planning on it anytime soon...many for the reasons you just described.

1. She can take your kids, your money, your home, and your future without contesting (no-fault divorces).

2. You're expected to be a "good" husband. This includes listening to her complain all the time, fighting constantly, and less s*x than you were single.

3. Girls today are not expected to be "good" wives. They're expected to achieve, be promoted, smash glass ceilings, and be taken seriously.

Ever ask a woman why dinner isn't ready? Hope you've got Tupperware, because it hurts less when she throws it at you.

And today we have a much better alternative: Girlfriends!

1. Girl friends provide lots of s*x and few hang ups. They also live on their own and can't sue your *** for your property.

2. They're more attentive, forgiving, and generous. Most women (like men, admittedly) treat their boyfriends far better than they treat a husband.

3. If your girlfriend becomes too needy, too greedy, or too frigid, there is nothing stopping you from finding another one. And if she doesn't want to cook, you've got the budget to go eat out all the time.

And, sadly, we have plenty of abortion centers to kill off any unwanted offspring.

Now I believe in marriage. I believe that it is the proper union for a man and a woman and it is sanctified by God.

However, I'm not a fool. Given the present set of circumstances, I'm just making my way through life as well as I can. I've got my eyes open for a traditional girl who wants to be taken care of...and who is willing to take care of me.

But they're few and far between these days.

Until I find one however, I keep a couch for all my buddies who need another address to sleep at while the wife is on the rampage. I keep a mini fridge with some mircobrews, in case one of them wants to come over and hash out the latest domestic problem.

But my bed has 1 pillow. My toilette seat stays up. And I don't have to ask anyone about keeping my rifles on display. Nobody tries to throw out my easy chair.

It's not a family...but for now....it's enough.

Answer 3

LOL Don't be so eager to pin it all on men. I've talked to so many women who aren't married because *they don't want to marry the men they're with. Mostly it's because they feel like they're "so committed as it is" and don't need "a piece of paper" in order to prove it (needless to say, I think that's a total load of c**p - marriage is commitment, shacking up is not). In short, men aren't marrying their women because their women don't expect them to, and will allow themselves to be treated like wives without actually being made wives first.

That said....men who worry about that have a valid reason to worry. Women have a huge advantage over men when it comes to things like divorce and child custody. Men very often get shafted.

Answer 4

intill family court laws change, it's not in a man's best intrest to marry or have children.

Answer 5

Perhaps, it seems to be an excuse for men who want to play as if they are married but do not actually want to get married.  =P

Answer 6

* Opetke *

Why not marry a foreign woman and move to a foreign country ? Roughly 25 % of foreign women are corrupted or similiar to those in Western countries , 65 % are somewhat decent/traditional and 10 % are a dream

Is this the new trend ? Worldwide no ... the great majority of those whom practice these trends are Westerners ( as you know the USA has one of the highest divorce rates so there you go ) ... also not to sound brash or conceited but can you ask your male friends to go to a foreign country and date a foreign woman ? Tell them what do they have to lose ? Also tell them to skip over the 25 % whom want money and green cards ... ask them to see my answer and the links in source if possible

Answer 7

More people are choosing to cohabit, but these partnerships are much more likely to self-destruct than marriage.

YES, here is the "NEW trend", and its not much to brag about:

"Once the preserve of whacked-out teens and college slackers, this testosterone-filled landscape is the new normal for American males until what used to be considered creeping middle age, according to the sociologist Michael Kimmel. In his new book, "Guyland," the State University of New York at Stony Brook professor notes that the traditional markers of manhood—leaving home, getting an education, finding a partner, starting work and becoming a father—have moved downfield as the passage from adolescence to adulthood has evolved from "a transitional moment to a whole new stage of life." In 1960, almost 70 percent of men had reached these milestones by the age of 30. Today, less than a third of males that age can say the same.

"What used to be regressive weekends are now whole years in the lives of some guys."

In almost 400 interviews with mainly white, college-educated twentysomethings, he found that the lockstep march to manhood is often interrupted by a debauched and decadelong odyssey, in which youths buddy together in search of new ways to feel like men. Actually, it's more like all the old ways—drinking, smoking, kidding, carousing—turned up a notch in a world where adolescent demonstrations of manhood have replaced the real thing: responsibility. Kimmel's testosterone tract adds to a forest of recent research into protracted adolescents (or "thresholders" and "kidults," as they've also been dubbed) and the reluctance of today's guys to don their fathers' robes—and commitments. They "see grown-up life as such a loss," says Kimmel, explaining why so many guys are content to sit out their 20s in duct-taped beanbag chairs. The trouble is that the very thing they're running from may be the thing they need."

Not much to be proud of, eh?

How does the bean-bag chair get split up anyway?

Answer 8

Well, I can't blame these men. If their wife has no job and they get a divorce, she is likely to claim more than she has ever earned, which is greedy and spiteful.

Plus, marriage isn't right for everyone. Humans aren't naturally monogamous animals. You can't force a binding marital contract on someone.

Answer 9

I think they are afraid of intimacy not afraid of losing money.   Just wait till their kid asks  "why didn't you marry mommy?"  Then the kid will say "you mean money was more important than I was'?  

Answer 10

I absolutely agree with KSnake

Answer 11

I do think this is what's coming, but women don't seem to have a problem with it. If anything, I think they like it.

Answer 12

People need to grow up and realise what life is all about.  Marriage suits some people and not others but taking responsibility for our own lives should be a new trend.

Answer 13

I think that many men are being honest with themselves about their long-term incompatibility with women. These same men still want to have children even though they know that they cannot successfully live with a woman for a long period of time.  

Answer 14

i find this ridiculous men think all women are gold diggers.

they go out and hump every thing that moves(some men)

and get women pregnant but don't want to take the responsibility for there actions. its mainly the younger guys as well.

Answer 15

Those women had a choice to get pregnant by idiots like that.   They should have more respect for themselves and their children.

Answer 16

No, I think it is an excuse the women are using for covering up their own insecurities and blaming their "baby's daddies" for being undesirable to them as life partners.

Answer 17

Perhaps they need to figure out if they can deal with life together before they make babies. Marriage is a commitment to each other and any children that come from your union together. The children need both parents. If it is about money instead of having a fulfilling life then that is a mistake. Marriage should not even be considered with divorce as an option. My theory is that if you play together, you stay together!

Answer 18

Can't disagree with anything that opetke said.  He's right and I am exactly like him.  When it comes to marriage, there's just nothing in it for men anymore.  You can bring all the insults you want to the table.  I've heard them all.  "Afraid to commit"   "Afraid of intimacy"  "immature"   All of it boils down to women realizing that they need that piece of paper to control men.  If they don't have it, their precious biased court system can't help them.  Like I said, hurl all the insults you want ladies.  I'd rather be smart than "responsible" anyday.  And if the girlfriend of the month can't handle it, I'll replace her with someone who can...for a while.