Are all 17 year old boys this immature?

Question

I have a younger brother who is 17 years old going on 18 and he is impossible to live with. I stilll live at home to help my mother support my younger siblings. He has no realization that he lives with other people. He does whatever he wants and couldnt care less who he affects. He refuses to lower the tv if other people are sleeping. No matter how many times I tell him not to, he drinks from the milk container and I end up eating cereal with extra pieces in it. He needs me or my mother to wake up every morning to give him his medicine because we dont trust that he will remember to take it. If there is no food at home during the day, he just wont eat. My moms bf and some of my friends think its ridiculous that when my mom is on vacation, I have to watch him and make sure im home at the time he has to take his medicine and make sure there is food in the house. Once my brother missed his pill and I got in trouble for it. My moms bf said, so whats his plan is his sister going to support him his whole life? Are all 17 year old boys this immature? How can I change this situation? I know my mother needs help with money and thats why Im still here, but its not fair that I have to be the one to change my life because he was always babied.

Answer 1

No, your mom needs to tell him to grow up!

Answer 2

U need to move out!

Answer 3

Why is he on medication?  There must be more to it than just his age.  If he's mentally ill, then maybe his behaviour is related to that.  Your mother shouldn't be expecting you to take care of him either.  It's her job to take care of her minor children.

Answer 4

No. Don't be silly. How can you want to class ALL 17 year old boys based on the one you know?

Answer 5

To some degree, everyone is immature at 17 years old. It honestly depends on how fast you're made to grow up. If you're taught responsibility and manners at an early age mature behavior is easier to learn. On the other hand, growing up to fast in other areas can make you immature. All young people need to grow up in one way or another. I don't know what you should do with your brother. He's almost eighteen, and that's a tough age. Spank him? Send him to the military? Kick him out? You're family needs counseling, honey, but you aren't the only ones and you're not alone.

Answer 6

no ! not at all ! i cant tell any solution.........it's really impossible for me!

Answer 7

Your brother needs to get booted out of the house and be made to be responsible for his own life.  Love must be tough!

Answer 8

people are different...not all boys are like this....

Answer 9

No.

there are ways you can get around that though

1. is kick him out

2. talk to him about it RESPECTFULLY and CALM no little cheap shots

3. Tough Love don't buy milk, hide the tv, don't give him his pills, Don't leave food in the fridge, he will have to suffer in order to understand the point you are trying make which is that he needs some responsibility and should take care of himself and others.

You can do that you should do that and tell your mom that it is HIS responsibility to take his pills and you shouldn't even care if he doesn't  because if he can't do it then he shouldn't do it. i recommend that you do 2 before and after 3 (he probably won't listen the first time).

Peace

Answer 10

Nope, that's not normal.  He needs a major wake up call.  Hopefully your mom will toss him out on his butt when he hits 18.

Answer 11

no... you can fix the problems yourself.

When he wont turn down the TV go turn off the circuit breaker that powers the TV.

When you have to wake him up, do it by dumping a glass of ice water on him.

If you have to make him take a pill, force him to take it without water.

In other words make sure that when you have to assist him it is h**l and he will learn quickly to do it himself.

Answer 12

Medication...for?

If it is a serious illness or disorder, I would see professional counseling regaurding his health and future care.

You can not attend his care any longer.  Your mother can't do the same as well if she has to have someone else help support etc.

You sound like a sweet sister and an amazing daughter to put up with all that at your age; however, you got your own wings to fly, you know? You would not be in the wrong to let your mom take the care while you go on with your adult life.

She raised him. She has to deal with the consequences if she continues to allow him to be this way. You on the other hand, you are responsible for your own actions as well. You won't have much of a life if you continue to enable his behavior. Yes, you are enabling him as well.

Not all boys at 17 are this immature. I know many mature boys when i was 17 at that age. None the less, I started to hang around the "good crowd" who had to work for what they got, not handed to them.

"my mother needs help with money"

That is when she gives him some health counseling to know to keep him healthy as can be; however, she either says "Get a job or get a new place to be lazy in".         Then, if he doesn't get a job to support his own weight around the house, she can kick him out (it is not mean. It is called tough love. The only way he can learn to be an adult) and she find a roomate (rent/help pay for morgage etc). or she move into something smaller and an area more affordable. In the mean time, you can send some, but less money for a small amount of time til she gets settled.

All in all, your mom also needs to learn how to support her own self, but her own means and individual circumstances.

Answer 13

he sounds more disrespectful then immature.

each 17 year old is immature.  to what degree is the question.  your brother sounds like he is still being coddled by mommy.  a bit spoiled.  

not all 17 year olds act like that.  

Answer 14

Sounds alot like my stupid brother! he's 2 lazy 2 wrk, make himself something to eat or anything!!! all he does is play video games and go 2 his stupid little GF's house, he cant even drive yet!!! he wont even learn how 2 do that! but i was in a similar situation and i figured there was nothing i could do about it,I could either stay @ home and let him hold me back or move out and get my life on track! and that's exactly what I did he needs 2 grow up and be responsible because once ur gone, ur mom wont always b there 2 help him and h**l hav 2 deal with everything himself eventually!  

Answer 15

Sounds like you have too much responsibility.  Your mum shouldn't get upset with you for your 17, almost 18 year old brother forgetting to take his meds.  I can only imagine what life must be like for you in that house.

I don't know how old you are, but you are obviously older than your brother who is almost an adult, and perhaps it's time to get your own place and start living your own life.

Other than that, things probably will not change in your household.

I think it's time to move on, hun.  Good luck.

Answer 16

If you are there to help out, then it needs to be a partnership of give and take between you and your Mother. Sit down calmly and explain how you are feeling. If she needs your help and truly appreciates it, together you will work out all the kinks. If she doesn't truly need or want your help, you're free to go. Stay strong. You have a life to live and you'll need your health, both physically and mentally, along the way. You are something special! Just so you know.  

Answer 17

SOUNDS LIKE A COMPLETE SPASTI!

Answer 18

no

Answer 19

no, some bros are and some can get real bad