Are all 'old friends' like this?

Question

after i finished high school and even a bit before that, one of my closest friends and i stopped talking to each other...

a year or more went by without us talking and then we started to talk again...

but now she only calls once in a while, nothing like before...

she calls maybe like once every 2 weeks...sometimes even a month goes by before she even calls...i know she hangs out with another girl that we both were friends with in high school, it's funny how she can make time for her but not for her childhood friend ...

it seems like she just want to hang out when she has no one else to hang out with... maybe it's just me...

do all friends drift away like this or is she just no good in my life anymore? how has it been for you? you have any stories to share?

Answer 1

I've been having the same problems with my 'old friends' and it is really upsetting. I know how you feel, and it must be really frustrating. In my primary school, I hung around with a boy called Jack and a girl called Clare who were my best friends. We used to be really close, and in recent years we have met up a few times, but Jack (who I used to be really close to) seems to be closer to Clare and I felt left out in the times we did meet up. Since then, I've heard that Jack and Clare have met up a few times but never have bothered to contact me which I find sad. Also when I did invite them to my birthday last year, and I was really pleased to see them both. Clare was friendly, but Jack didn't really seem that thrilled, which was a shame because it had been a while since we had last met, and I wished they would (Jack especially) have had the same enthusiasm that I had at meeting up again. But I ended up felt ignored because he ended up chatting to the other guests more in the end.

However, I am still very friendly with 2 people from primary school who I wasn't best friends with at the time, and also 2 people from outside of school, so it does depend on the person. I hope you have more luck with your old friend. It's a shame that some people don't seem to appreciate their old friends like we do, but in a situation like this, it's best to move on and hang around with your true friends. Maybe, you could say you're busy or something when she next calls, and hopefully she'll realise what she's missing.  

Answer 2

yes i knew someone since they where like 5 or 6 and now i am 24 she is 18 and she never talks to me and it hurts i havent seen her for awhile  

Answer 3

Yeah, when I was like 10 we moved and i was heartbroken, my friends and i all cried and promised to write, call, email and everything all the time.

We did for a while, but now after 9 years i hardly ever hear from them or drop them a line. Truth is we have nothing in common. I am pretty sure its like that for all old friends, especially when youre apart- you change. nothing wrong with that.