Are all guys players then???????????????

Question

Cause I have yet to find one worth dating that isn't....I think I've lost all hope. I fall for the trap every time...and it's not that I don't learn from my mistakes, but that they all have their own game. I am so tired of being messed with and used...I am really considering on giving up- sad part is that I am 21.

Answer 1

i totally understand how u feel i dated two jerks they seemed cute and all but both said i was just a pace holder for the right one it crushed me but not all guys are like that sometimes they may seem like players but they can turn out to be the greatest guys u meet.... if u like him try it out take it slow and see what happens.... does he like u or is he using u but never give up

Answer 2

There is a lot of peer pressure on men to sleep around to be considered successful. We are led to believe that a lot of women actually really want casual s*x once they get over their worries about being thought of as S****y.  (see the book called "The Game")

Clearly you don't fall into that category.

Women's dating guides will all say don't sleep with him for the first few weeks, so as to gain his respect and be sure he's genuinely interested in you as a person.

Maybe you need to re define what you are looking for, when you say "worth dating", maybe you're only attracted to the "bad boys".

Go to your local university library and start talking to some quiet guy who is reading.  he'll be delighted

And stop wearing s**y clothes as it gives us the wrong message.  Just wear modest, elegant clothes.

Answer 3

I don't think they are all players, but a lot are in that age group.  They are not interested in a relationship.

You need to keep your guard up and take control of the situation.  It may be several years before you find a mature man who wants to settle down with you.  The good thing is being 21, you have a good 'several' years before you need to worry about it.

Enjoy being young and single while you have the opportunity...before you know it, you'll be married, 40 with kids!

Answer 4

The overly confident ones are the players. Im a guy and thats just the way it is. guys can tell. and the guys who act and dress a bit girly are players also. the ones who get fake tans and wear tight clothes.

Answer 5

yes

Answer 6

ull find one they are out there dont give up hope

Answer 7

not all guys r players just the stupid ones are

dont worry you'll find the perfect one

Answer 8

Perhaps it's just the case that all the guys that you tend to date are players, not that all guys are players.

Try finding one outside of your normal type.

Answer 9

yes they are and they are total jerks and they lead u on just to walk out on u when u need them

Answer 10

its all good baby not all playa have in this ****** u learn it from mistaken don't worry about it girl soon u find a real person to love u and care about u also make real love relationship to have with they will come it to u when the time is come and u will know anyway that all I know cuz u nothing but like a consider 6.5 is the best to make a top 10 rotation lllaaattteee.................

Answer 11

not all guys are players. You just haven't found the right one for you

Answer 12

yeah they are, but we can either live with them or live without them.

Answer 13

Alright as I read most of the answers before I noticed many of the girls think like you do and that the guys say nope. Well to answer your question in the nicest way possible... Yes and no. A lot of guys seem to like having many girls around them. Why? Unexplained reason I guess. Now... sometimes you just have the bad luck of meeting and dating the jerks out there that are players. I promise you'll meet the right guy one day. I'm hoping I do! :) But yeah, don't lose hope... it's sometimes the only thing we have left. You're barely 21 life isn't over... so give it time... let the old wounds heal and then head into the world of the unexplored.

Answer 14

Hey i'm right there with you, and yes they all seem to be scum. I hate it :(

Answer 15

No we are not all players. It is pro-bally that you just pick the wrong guys maybe actually look around!

Answer 16

Not all guys are players. Stop looking for guys. Let them come to you. Ironically, if you make them do the work, they will be more responsive to you. Make it too easy and they will use you and then disappear.