Are any of you "young" moms glad you went with your gut and had the baby?

Question

Im young and want a baby. I have been married for over 2 years, and Im not even pregnant yet. I am a dreamer, and have lots of hopes and dreams for my future, but I know I would be even happier with a baby. My mother is a doctor of eductation and very successful as a teacher. She did not even have her BA degree when she had me. She was always my idea of a "perfect" mom. She had me when she was 24.

Well, Im 21 and my husband is 23. We got married when I was only 18, so we knew we needed some time. We are ready now(we think), and I just feel like if I wait until I feel like I have done everything little thing I have wanted to do..I wont have kids until Im 50 or something! Every time I acheive one of my goals, I get another one, and then another one.....it just keeps on going. I am taking classes at Kaplan which is all online. So, if I had a baby I would only have around 1 year left, but its all online, and only two classes at a time..very achieveable. My friend goes there, and has two kids....so, I know I can do it. Im a pretty motivated person.

Anyway, I just really want to have a baby, but sometimes I hear horror stories about how people wished they would have waited.

Well, are there any of you younger moms out there who went ahead and had their baby, and is completely satisfied with her decision?

Answer 1

I'm 24 now so i don't know if that is classified as a young mom, but I was 21 when I had my first live birth, (at 18 I had a miscarriage at four months in pregnancy) I have two children now and thank God for them, I cant imagine life without them. That's not to say every now and again I wish I had more personal time, but I don't regret them at all.  

Congrats on marriage and I hope you two have a long happy life together with or without children.

Answer 2

I had my first baby when I was 22. I do not regret having her at all at the age that I did. But I do have to say....if you are saying that you "think" you might be ready...your not. Put some serious thought into it. Not everyone is ready at the same time.  

Answer 3

I am 22 and I have a 5 yr old daughter... now, that might have held me back from doing quite a bit of things, but it hasn't stopped my world. I returned to HS after I had her and I am in college now and I am STILL accomplishing my goals, so for me, it didn't take away from my dreams but added to them. I wouldn't change a thing when it comes to my child. I say if you want a child now I'd go for it. I'm sure you could still do your classes online, it just might take a little bit of scheduling for somebody to help care for your child while you study or whatever... Whatever you decide I wish you the best of luck! ♥

Answer 4

You are probably no idiot and already know that once you have a kid, you are basically a slave to that kid for the next 18 years lol.

Parenthood is wonderful.Tough, of course, it's like that for ANY parent of ANY age.

Nobody here could suggest waiting or not because that is a personal choice.

The only thing would be to make sure you are financially stable in case ,God forbid anything does happen you have money to fall back on.

Also, a good relationship with the father is also wise.

Make sure the partying is out of your system.

21 is really not that young..people have been having kids this young since the beginning of time.

Just think of every possible outcome and the pro's and con's of it.

Good luck!

And Petra, not everyone wants to wait until they are as old as 30 to have a kid.Some would like to actually experience their kids without worrying about not being able to play due to old age.

Answer 5

even though im extremely sick with a 3 week old that needs to eat every 2-3 hours and im single doing it all by myself...i AM STILL completely satisfied with keeping my baby.  

Answer 6

Kaplan? Are you studying Medicine or something alike? You're too young, please study first and wait until your 30's. A baby gets things very difficult because he/she will demand a lot of attention from you, a friend of mine had a baby and had to stop studying Medicine. My sister waited until her 30's to become pregnant and she was the one who gave me that advice.

PS: I'm your age and study Medicine.

Answer 7

i can't speak for myself because im 22 and am a LONG way from where u are, but my mom had me when she was ur age and my dad your husband's age and they both had careers as well.

I think it's great to have children young. If u feel u are ready, go for it. But obviously u are compromising your goals...but maybe having kids is the biggest goal of them all?  

Answer 8

I believe that if you know you are ready financially and mentally ready, then go ahead and have a baby. People are too young to have kids when they aren't married or.. well yeah, when they are really, really young. My mo had me when she was 21 years of age while she was married it went great for her because of the fact she had a partner with her. Go ahead and make a beautiful family  

Answer 9

That's great that you're motivated with your education, but once you have a child, you schedule is around your child.  Maybe you'll have an easy going child that will let you work on school work for a couple hours a day, but you might have a challenging child that would jeopardize your success.  Why not wait to conceive when you only have about 8 months of school left?