Are any people on here adopted?

Question

Hi. I was adopted when I was four months from an orphanage in china. I was just wondering if anyone else on here is the same. Please tell me! For some reason i find myself wanting to go there! I want to find my real parents! I have been thinking about this for awhile already and I want to know if there is anyone else out there who is going through the same thing as me! Do you ever wonder how your real parents are? I never thought about this until recently. Are you adopted too? Is there a place where you can go and try to find your parents? Also, is there anyone on here who has given up a child in china? If so, why? What went wrong?

Answer 1

there are  probaly people tht  have been adopted    from the millions on here but im not one sorry

Answer 2

I am not but there are seveal people on here who are and have been reuintied with first parents and many who have not.   It is alot harder to do that aboard. Many kids are dropped of at the orphanage or found. I would suggest going back though and connecting with your roots

Answer 3

Honey this board is mainly adoptees

I am but not from china ...

Its normal to want to find your biological parents and your roots

I'll leave it the USA girls on here to give you the names of places to go

All the Best with your search x

Answer 4

Hi Dancegirl,

Please listen to Julie and Laurie and go to the adoptee website they suggested.  You will find support there.  Here is not a safe place for you to share your emotions.  I'm sorry to say that, but some people here are just rude.  Not alot of people but it will hurt just the same.  Listen to the experienced adoptees and go to the other website suggested.  Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 5

I'm am adopted . but in the UK

Answer 6

Hi Dancegirl,

I'm adopted, but not from China.  I searched and have reunited with my first parents.  It's not at all uncommon to do so.  I've been reunited for almost 7 years now.  As a child, I did have a lot of questions about my WHOLE history.  That included my pre-adoption history.

There's a great forum for adopted people who totally get this:

http://www.adultadoptees.org/forum/index...

Come on by!

Answer 7

Hi I read your question and yes I'm also adopted.So I can relate to you I know how you feel by wanting to know who your birth parents are cause I would also want to know who mine are.It crosses my mine everyday it's just normal to wonder how your parents look,or what there like,there's just alot of questions your curious to know of them.I was taken from my parents when I was 3months old and now I'm 26yrs old.on top of that I have two brothers that I know of and I would also like to reunite with them get to know them and how they are.It would make me happy to find my biological parents.So don't feel bad cause I'm just like you,I wonder too-everyday.So if I ever find a way to find my parents i promise to keep you in mind and let you know how.I know it's not easy being  adopted.

Answer 8

Hi Dancegirly,

Welcome.  Yes, there are lots of adoptees here as well as parents.  Most adoptees do wonder about where they came from & they wonder about their natural families and their own personal stories.  It's completely normal to do so.  If I were from China, I would want to go back too, to connect and get a "feel" of where I'm from, to see the people and the country, to experience the tastes, smells, and sounds of your native land.  By doing this, it helps complete your own identity, you fill in missing spaces of who you are.  Adoptees who reunite with their natural family members often find an inner peace or sense of greater understanding of themselves & their relationship to others & to the world.

I'm not sure the extent of information you have pertaining to your Chinese family.  Unfortunately, complete records are often not available from orphanages, especially for girls.  First you could find out if your adoptive parents have any of your information.  If not, I believe that someday a central DNA center will need to be established to reconnect  all the families separated through international adoption or in some cases, fraud.

If you do not have a support group, I would recommend one so you can talk to other adoptees who are experiencing the same things you are.  Perhaps Marsha from Informed Adoption Advocates would know if there's one specifically for China.  I know all adoptees are welcome on this one: http://www.adultadoptees.org  If you are still a teen, there is a special section just for you there.  Check out my links below.  Hope this helps and good luck to you.

julie j

reunited adoptee

Answer 9

well im not adopted but my friend got in a big fight with his parents and they were saying stuff bout his girl and friends and he told them to shut the F word up. An they already made an adoption apointment. but a lot of more stuff has been adding up to p**s those psycho parents of his off

Answer 10

hi dancergirl!

i am adopted too.  not from china, but i am an adoptee who went through and is still going through the same things as you!  i really do understand.

think about coming over to adultadoptees.org.  there's a place for teens there too.  everyone there is very understanding and have all gone through what you are talking about.

i hope you visit us!!!!!!!

Answer 11

Hi!  Speaking as an adoptive parent through international adoption, many families have (or plan to ) done return trips to their children's country of origin.  Wanting to experience your roots is very natural and normal!  We adoptive parents generally expect this to happen.  

Most of the girls adopted from China were abandoned due to China's one-child policy and the cultural preference for boys.  As it is illegal in China to abandon children, there is often little or no information on the birth family.  There still may be resources out there to help you, however.

There are also "Birth country tours" that go frequently to China.  I've not looked into them (as my children aren't from China) but I have seen them advertised.  It's generally considered wise and safe to tour China with a group instead of as a single family.  Guides are familiar with the area and the laws, but also with bringing Chinese born children to visit the land of their roots.  It might be worth researching.

Good luck!

Answer 12

I was adopted when I was young by my mothers husband and I have tried to look for my real father but my mother want give me much information I too would like to know if I look like him since I look nothing like my mom or her family and I have these questions I would like to ask....Plus I am nothing like my mom and I want to know who I am like.......I love my father but ever since him and mom had a child I got pushed aside like I was nothing I guess because my mom hated my BIO father and my dad had a blood child...I will never know because he doesn't speak to me anymore since he remarried and she has 3 sons and we only see each other ever 2/3 years maybe.......good luck