Are black guys to aggressive?

Question

Okay ladies, this has been a topic me and my roommates have discussed over and over. The way black guys approach us is totally different from our other experiences. For one, my friend pointed out not all are like that. This is true, some are def gentleman. However, we've been to parties where they don't even approach us, but grab us up. I've been approached on the street by guys rubbing their hands and l*****g their lips. My friends, have also had guys make comments about their ***. They've felt uncomfortable with a bunch a guys standing around and staring them down sexually and talking about their asses. It seems sometimes, again not with all black guys, but with a significant number, they are sexual in their approach with you instead of gentlemanlike. Has any one else had this experience? I know thousands of girls who have....and why are some of them like this. In my experience, I haven't gone through this with white hispanic, or asian men. This is a similar experience a lot of my friends have. ARe they just more pursuing, which women like, or are they just perpetuating a stereotype of black guys as sexual, or is it even a stereotype, is it just a truth?

Answer 1

Yes, that is true. Black men on the street in general tend to act like this. I don't understand why when you point something out it called "stereotypical" If we were saying ALL black men are like this, then it would be stereotypical. But we're not. We're just talking about experiences that may happen when your walking down the street. And to say well, it depends on what you're wearing....that straight up bullshit. My friends and I are educated women on a college campus, that dress like every day students and we still get disrespectful comments/looks from guys. WE'll be dancing in a club by ourselvs (just two-stepping) then they'll come up behind us way to close....even when walking down the street in full clothes of course, we get comments about our asses

"oh look at shortys ***, d**n she got a fat ***" When a white or asian guy will see me in the same outfit and will not act like that. The funny thing is the jeans are not even skintight. I think black guys are sometimes just out to look at every girls *** that walks by.

I went to six flags once, and most of the teenage boys i saw looking at *** and trying to act like grown men were black teenage boys. It seems it starts young, no offense, but stating the truth again is not a steretoype unless you are saying it for all. I was in nyc once and saw a girl walking in a dress in front of these guys. they nudged each other and started looking at nothing but her *** and started making hand gestures as if they were grabbing it. The girl had on a very appropriate outfit. So don't tell me, it's a mere stereotype. It's the truth. I have yet to see a white or asian guy act like this.

Answer 2

Take a look at yourself. How are you dressing? How are you presenting yourselves? Men will respond to themessages you send off. If you are advertising your body like "Look at my ***" That is exactly what you are going to get.

You apparently are attending functions that attract these types of people. Why don't you put yourself in an environment that the men will respect you?

Just a thought.  

Answer 3

Men will not treat be disrespectful to you (at least a majority of them) if you have "class" and demand respect from them. Men respond to what they see and the vibes you give them.  

Answer 4

Yeah i agree with what Latrell said....=]

But some blk bois esp london bois r so waste!!

Went out wiv a few....and guess what none lasted.....they were just little bois and im wiv a white guy now....ya ya u mite call me a race trader but race dont matter he suits me.....whatevz ....thumb me down haters....and to those who get wot am sayn onelovex

Answer 5

yes (not all of them, but most of them), and when a woman says no, she means no and will not change her mind later

Answer 6

I once went over a very handsome african americans house. We were hanging out and he keep trying to have s*x with me i literally told him no 10x i even lied and said i was on my period to scare him off he said thats ok (GROSS) i was like i have to go it was actually getting scary i thought he was going to rape me finally he said fine go he called some girl on his cell phone and told her to come over and have s*x with him and he walked me to the door and pushed out of the front door onto the concrete!!!!!!!!!!!! I was like what the h**l!!! I went over there to hang out we we hadnt been dating or anything and he was that pissed cause i didnt want to have s*x with him! thats not my only bad experience with black guys so i think they might be more aggressive

Answer 7

i don't know about all that but bm are more forward in their approach (in general). 90% of men who approach me in the street are black. i've never had an aggressive experience though (apart from a few occasions when they turn nasty when you turn them down). maybe you need a no nonsense face on you. if i'm around a group of black guys and i'm not in the mood then i avoid looking their way or put on a hard face lol. seems to work most of the time. they are not more sexual, they just have more balls when it comes to what they want. ain't a bad thing :)

Answer 8

Are you nuts? I think so. It might be the same for every race, you don't have to be black to be "too aggressive". And yes, you are stereotyping.

Answer 9

Homegurl hold your horses, those guys you speak off are scum men who just happen to be black. Don't shoot us decent black men along with them, I've never approached a girl in that fashion and don't plan on it. Women get huge respect from me. I don't l**k my lips (well in the avatar I am) but thats beside the point. I don't act aggressive and macho in every situation. I'm actually quite peaceful in nature and only aggressive when the situation calls for it.

Them black guys you speaking off are really not men at all. Then again there are scum and stupid men like that in all races dear.

Answer 10

Yea I dont follow that stereotype.

I see a lot of black guys doing that and to me its sooo stupid.

I mean if shes does except that then thats her but thats not how I approach a girl and thats not the kind of personality Im looking for a girl to be attracted too.

If I treat her like a lady and she doesnt like that then we arent compatible.

Answer 11

Yes, I have also noticed this. People can call you a bigot and try to deny it, but those people are just overly politically correct and in denial about the truth. Yes, the Black men I have encountered are GENERALLY much more aggressive than White or Asian men. I've had Black guys walk right up to me and tell me "How good I looked in my short shorts" and ask me for my digits...However, most White men simply just admire me from afar, and if they do say anything, it's usually one of those feeble conversation starters like,"Do you have the time?"

Answer 12

Tell me about it, but I have had this experience with other guys too, depends on the area, and the guy in my experience.

Answer 13

what your descrbing is excessive. sometimes i am more forward with girls, but only with girls i know, and if they get uncomfortable i stop. i have, however, been unfairly accused of sexual harrassment by girls that i have never seen and/or met, let alone touched. i almost got suspended and expelled for no reason. i know many black men who have been in situations like that. many women want attention and are able to get away with lying about things that guys to do them and we are left defenseless.

Answer 14

All the black people I work with are not like that. They are polite, say hello, introduce themselves to new people. I haven't seen any of them "l*****g their lips" while staring at someone.  

I think this is a stereotype.  Maybe they do this for the "thug appeal" but i highly doubt it.

I have met many respectable blacks in my life.  

Answer 15

Yes.

Answer 16

Latrell,Silly f**t,politcal incorrect,and matthew are all right. Black people are very expressive, so it's no suprise that expressive-ness may show whenever a black guy may do that. But, let's keep in mind most Black guys don't approach that way; they are gentlemen :)