Are female led marriages more succsessful then male led ones?

Question

or if you have no point of reference do you think they would be? Please don't answer a equal one is..it's not one of the choices. (someone still will I know)

Answer 1

Honestly a female led marriage that the female lets the male think he is leading is the most successful. :)

Answer 2

Is there a reason one person has to "lead" a marriage? I guess if that is mandatory, than it depends on the person doing the leading and the person being lead. Hopefully, the responsible, mature one is doing the leading and the less responsible one is doing the following

Answer 3

I'm not sure.

In my relationship, there is no leader and no follower. We make decisions together and neither of us trumps the other all the time. If we have children, they will be named after me (last names people, don't get confused) to acknowledge the fact that as a female, I will be the one to sacrifice and suffer more to birth and nurture children.

We have agreed to a mutually open relationship in which we are both free to love and share sexual intimacy with others, as long as we are honest about it upfront, keep our relationship primary, and all parties agree to testing/protection/communication.

We will never not be family once we are married. In the way of my ancestors, there is no such thing as "divorce." We only have ceremonies for making family, never for unmaking family. Should we decide to part legally (since a spiritual divorce is impossible) then we will both keep what we brought into the marriage and split 50%-50% what we both accumulate and create together. If we cannot agree to an amicable separation vis a vis the children, then we agree to relinquish our rights as parents to the state. If we can't be mature enough to do what's right for them, we have no business being parents. That's in our prenup. This means that in the unlikely event of a legal divorce, it is in our best interests to be mature and dignified. The parent who manages more maturity and dignity will be the one the judge is ordered to give custody to. If we are both so dignified as to decide that it is in our family's best interest that we live close and share time/resources 50%-50%, then that is what would happen.

I say that divorce is unlikely because we have been friends for 17+ years and we have been faithful, even though we both have options not to, for the entire duration of our relationship of almost four years. In that time, we had one fight, which we resolved without much ado. The deal is that we are simply compatible. We share the same interests/ beliefs/ goals and complimentary strengths. We respect each other. We love each other. We are companions. It would be completely inappropriate for either of us to "lead" and it is completely unnecessary.

It is my deeply held conviction that egalitarian relationships are the most gratifying, healthy, creative and lasting.

Now, to your question. I think most marriages are female-led, even when they are ostensibly male-led. For this reason, I do not think that female-led marriages are inherently more stable than male-led ones. Of course it depends on the individuals. It would appear, if one were to generalize, that women are more likely to think first about the relationship, the feelings of their partners, and then about their own interests, but this is a gross generalization. Since I find no evidence either way, I cannot in honesty say.

Answer 4

Probably.  Men have an easier time just letting things go, therefore I think they could "go along" easier.  A woman, even if she is kept down with the decisions of the "man of the house" for awhile, it will bother her, she will have inner turmoil, etc.  Just from personal experience.  All that matters is that if they cannot decide things together that they both agree who is the final decision-maker.

Answer 5

If the female has stronger personality and initiative then yes it would be.  

Answer 6

Whoever is best at dealing with the bills and handling the money.Either way,if it isn`t a joint thing,it`ll never work out. It has to be a shared thing.  

Answer 7

If women are such great leaders, why are most CEO's men?

Yeah.......that's what I thought.