Are men affectionate/sentimental when saying bye on the phone to a woman they like romantically?

Question

I spoke to a guy that likes me on the phone today for the first time. It was a bit awkward, as many first time phone convos are, but it was nice after a while and I felt it went relatively well. He had to let me go to get back to work, and when he was saying goodbye there was nothing to it. He nearly let me go a few minutes earlier, and said it was nice talking to me, but then we kept talking for a few more minutes before he said, "Ok, now I really have to go." And I understand that he had to get back to work, but then it went like this:

Me: Ok, well, hopefully I'll talk to you soon...

Him: Ok, bye.

Then I felt stupid for saying the "hopefully we'll talk soon" thing because he didn't say anything about it. I know that I might be reading into this small detail a lot, but THAT'S WHAT WOMEN DO. When a man likes a woman, doesn't he say a more sentimental goodbye when hanging up the phone? You know how girls are about it.... "Ok...*breathy voice* bye." (ok, I'm generalizing a bit, but usually it's like that.)

So is it a bad sign if he didn't linger over the telephone goodbye more, or do men not even think of this as significant thing to do?

Would appreciate the male input, as well as females... Want to know if I'm going crazy or not or whether this is a valid concern.

Answer 1

Oh boy, women really are loopy. Bye just means bye. There is no code or anything. It just means he had to go. Don't drive yourself nuts over what he really meant. Men just say what they mean unlike women who want the men to read their minds by some miracle. It's like walking on eggshells trying to undertand women.

Answer 2

Ok..first of all...if he was at Work, it is possible the atmosphere (have to be professional, a little more direct/official) made him that way. My own tone kinda changes when I talk personally from work. When am home, or away from work, I am more relaxed and "myself". Plus, u don't know who was around him. Maybe he did not have privacy. Or maybe even if he did, his mind was on work. Work is imp. for guys.

So that could be one reason.

Another is, it was just ur first phone convo. Maybe he is yet to warm up to u. And u know what, I will rather trust the guy who takes his time, than a guy who is mushy the first time itself. Being so fast and quick isn't always a good sign. Maybe he wasn't feeling it yet.

Otherwise, it all depends on the guy. Some are not romantic. Others are.

Give it some time. Talk some more. Get to know him and let him get to know u. And then u can reach a more accurate conclusion bout him.

I can understand why u felt that way. U r as sensitive as I am. Especially if u investing in a guy. My advise? Back of a little and go slow. U don't wanna go fast and have him back-off. That's something I learned from my mistakes. Keep things casual - no expectations/needs kinds. Remain happy n laid-back. Then he can relax more and will come to u.

Hope I helped some..

Answer 3

When I say goodbye to the Mrs. and want to say I love you or something else romantic I just say it. I don't care who hears me or where I am when I give her some sugar :)

Answer 4

I'll bet he was as nervous and as questioning as you. There is not much you can judge from a simple phone conversation. You should give it another chance. A nice 'next talk' convo would be to talk about how you felt letting him go, thinking you were being too sentimental. He'll appreciate the hindsight because it seems like you care about the way he percieves you. Make sure you laugh at yourself because that will make it easier. Have another chat before coming to a conclusion or letting Yahoo Answers come to the conclusion for you.

Answer 5

No one answer fits all men.

but here is one perspective.

Both males and females have their plans for protecting themselves from making fools of themselves.

Being nervous can make things worse, and un natural.

Confidence means that he wouldn't be needy, for approval.

Maybe having other options would mean less need to try.

If you give off a vibe, he'll pick up on it as long as it is clear.

Everyone is trying to come off as not trying too hard but at the same time trying to transmit interest in the other person.

give clear signals and respond clearly to cues  or else it will get mix up and he will act wierd or off cue.

Answer 6

I wouldn't read too much into his lack of effusiveness in reply to your "talk soon" comment.    

He may just be a little clumsy in a phone conversation (or in conversation of any type, for that matter).   Or maybe when he said "I really have to go" maybe he really had to go, that is, to the men's room.  

Also, if you didn't give him some unmistakeable, obvious encouragement, he might not feel confident in calling you again.    

At least now, if he doesn't call again, you'll know it wasn't for lack of a positive send off from you, but rather perhaps something in the conversation that tipped him off that you and he would mix like oil and water.   You probably wouldn't want that any more than he would, now would you?

Answer 7

Don't worry about it.  Maybe he was nervous ... ?  Who knows.  You're just like me, I always over examine the little details.  I can remember not too long ago I was obsessing over exactly the same thing, I would say all this extra stuff and he would just say bye ... and I would chew my nails over it.  It seems like a big deal when it happens because you're so concerned about what he thinks.  But it's not a big deal at all.  Really, don't worry about it.

Answer 8

I think he had some work-related matter he had to deal with.  It is possible he was starting to get a little annoyed at being delayed or he may have just been distracted.

I wouldn't worry about the "hopefully we'll talk soon" thing.  It lets him know that you are pursuable, a fact he may want to file for future reference.

Answer 9

They usually end the conversation by giving out their credit card number.