Are men @$holes or just mine???

Question

My guy is so selfish. I do everything for him. I have his child. I've taken him back a million times. I take care of everything. He does nothing. Not even capable of making phone calls. Every time he thing he's about to lose me he is the sweetest person. Then when he thinks he has me again he is irritated, aggressive, annoyed at everything I say and do, he yells at me, curses at me, hangs up on me. PlayStation, PlayStation, PlayStation. Even though we are an ocean apart right now. Wonder how "nice" it'll be when we live together. He is so sweet when someone else wants me. How can I get him to stay that way, though??? I guess all men have to be trained somehow.

Answer 1

Its u which makes him not change for good as u take in with all the mistakes he does ...

act tough and see if it has some effect on him ...

If u dont want to leave him then better learn living with it rather than complaining here ...

and yup not all men are like yours ... u got some odd one

Answer 2

"And please don't tell me to leave him cuz I never will"

Then sorry - but you're stupid and putting yourself into a situation that isn't going to change.

Answer 3

Well since you will never leave him, he probably knows that, and he will treat you like a doormat. Sorry to say he is immature, does he work, he plays playstation, sounds like a teenager that should be living with mom. I feel for you, you probably won't leave him for ten years, but by then, when you are older and fed up, you really will eventually after years of abuse. The little girl is going to be the one who pays. As for making him nicer, won't happen permanently. He knows how to be sweet when you talk about leaving, and since you never do eventually he will stop doing even that. No woman should stay with a man who swears at her, there are so many that won't do that! You will have to learn on your own if you refuse to leave, sorry.

Answer 4

Sorry to say, but you cant "help him be a friendlier person"...thats something he has to do on his own, and obviously he has a controlling problem, i know because i have been in the same situation...you said it, when he feels he is loosing you, he's sweet, then he becomes an a** when everything is "better". thats just because he wants to make sure he has the control. you really dont need that in your life, you say you will never leave him but you might end up doing that because he will just keep making you more and more miserable.

and as for your daughter, this is  NOT healthy for her, how could yousay you will never leave him, if your daughter is suffering so much...think about HER.

Answer 5

You cannot change anyone.  

He will not change unless he wants to.  But why should he when you prove to him over and over and over that he can treat you like a piece of c**p and you'll take him back every time?  

You say you will never leave him, then you will suffer the heartache forever and you are setting a poor example for your daughter about how she should and will let men treat her when she is older.

YOU have the power to walk away and make something of yourself and not to allow him to treat you this way. If you stay then you have only yourself to blame.  

Good luck.