Are most Vietnamese people racist against hispanic people?

Question

I'm hispanic and my boyfriend is vietnamese.. he told me from the beginning his parents don't approve of hispanics or african americans.. I'm just not sure what I should do since our relationship is going so well, yet family is so important to the both of us.

Answer 1

I would say some of them do. :)

It depends on what family you were born to though. I'm myself dating someone who is diferent from my race (I'm Vietnamese, he is White). Our parents, specifically my mom, don't mind our relationship, but that doesn't help people from staring at us when we're together. What can I say, we're living in such a small town.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, you both need to sit down with both of yours and his parents, and have a good talk about how and why you're meant to each other and ask them why they don;t like you. (I know this is probably really hard, but try it) I think they're probably just stereotyping you as an Hispanic woman without even realizing how great of a person you are.

Sit down with them, try to make them understand that this is hard ffor him and you as well because of culture differences. Does his mom or any of his sibblings like you? If any of them do, try to spend more time with them and try to find out more things about their culture. Most Vietnamese love it when you're opened and want to try new things.

Lats but not least, I hope this helps and good luck to you! :)

Answer 2

I'm vietnamese and I totaly know what your boyfriend is talking bout. Our parents just think that we are all still in Vietnam. But I say stick with him. They'll warm up to you eventually. They gotta realize that race has nothing to do with it.

Answer 3

I cannot even read this question without shaking my head.

    Of course the vietnamese are not racist to hispanics.

  I am sure there are some pepople in vietnam or anywhere in the world that dislikes one group or another, but to say a whole country is racist is ridiculous.

   The people there are wonderful.  My wifes family are so special and kind.

   you are lucky to have a vietnamese girl.  Trust me, you will never want to be with any other.

Answer 4

I totally agree with pikapika408, especially about showing your respect for the elders.  They value that most and will get impressed by good manners.  Don't talk back.  Don't raise your voice.  Try to use chopsticks.  If the girl's family is Buddhist, don't talk about your christian faith.  If asked what religion your children will practice, say "It's something you and your wife will discuss".  Good luck!  Buena suerte.

Answer 5

Most older asians in general dislike hispanics and african americans. I think its because they are judgmental and closed-minded. There is still hope even though they don't approve. Right now, they don't really know "who" you are but only "what" you are. Vietnamese elders really value respect! And they love it when you display their culture. You can really win them over by doing little things. When you see his parents or aunts/uncles.. bow your head down and say "chao". This is what we do to our elders when we say hi or bye. THEY WILL LOVE IT! Especially because they wouldn't expect it from you!! Try to learn to say  certain things like "thank you". Eat their foods and comment how good it is. Tell his mom she looks so young and beautiful. When you eat there, wash the dishes and clean. I will promise you that after the first week of doing this, they will like you

Answer 6

Not most but possibly many, especially people of the older generation, and also not just against hispanic people.   My brother used to date a Phillipine girl; she was a very nice girl, and yet my parents didn't seem to warm up to her - possibly for the same reason.  To the older generation, it is almost a taboo to date and marry people of a different race.

That said, for most folks living in the foreign land, including older folks, it has been less and less of a problem now with interracial relationship/marriage.  One of the answers here has a very good advice.  And that is to improve the relationship between you and the family, if you could, please try to learn about Vietnamese custom/tradition/culture.  There are many little things once can do to impress the older folks.  For example, the other day my niece brought her Caucasian date home, and he impressed my parents a lot by just taking his shoes off at the door :-).  It is just like this Vietnamese saying "Nhap Gia Tuy Tuc", meaning "when you join someone's home, it is best to follow that someone's rule."

Hang on and best wish!