Are most relationships with Air Signs one-sided?

Question

Or is it my imagination? I will give you examples of what I mean:

Aquarius: Great folks, love them! They're stubborn as h**l, refuse to compromise most of the time, and they want to partake in their relationships when it suits them. They can take it or leave it on any given day, but when they need something they expect the other person to be there. In other words, they want what they don't give in return. Fair?

Gemini: Flighty, fickle, unreliable. Fun and charming, witty and blast to be with at times....if you can get them to commit to an actual time and date to play and if they don't blow you off.

Libra: Great folks, always searching for truth and what is fair. They're in their own heads a lot though, and if they're going through some turmoil on a personal level, their phone is off the hook when you need them until their crisis is resolved and they feel they can be there for you again.

Is it all selfish, or is this just my own experience? I'm a Cancer with the moon in Scorpio and Aquarius rising, and I do expect some give and take and believe that a relationship of any kind is a two way street. Don't demand what you can't give, etc. What are your thoughts?

Answer 1

You know I have to answer this one. I agree with most of it. I'll give some examples. You know about my Aquarius... sweet, good hearted, will be there for a person when it's needed, but it seems like it's never without a comment or grudge of some sort. He won't do something for me just because he was thinking of me, he'll do it because he feels like he is obligated. I haven't seen him in 6 days nor has he called me back, and I get a text from him today to find out he's on vacation in Montauk! (About an hour away.) He's now frustrated with me because I have to work every day this week and can't come out for a night. Because it was so big of him to invite me in the first place, what am I thinking not rescheduling my life to accomodate him!? Oh, and he couldn't even call? Had to text me! Anyhoo, needless to say... Aquarians, great people. But don't expect anything and you'll never be disappointed.

Libra? My brother is a Libra... let's see. In his own head? Yes. He dated a Cancer who became a really good friend of mine for about 3 years. She was under the impression they were a lot more serious than he led her on. They discussed marriage and all that jazz, he was open to the idea, but went through a "I need to experience more before I commit" crisis. And so, he broke it off with her and got his experience. Unfortunately, she is far gone, talking about engagement with her wonderful Leo boyfriend, ;D, and he's still heartbroken after over a year. Would do anything to get her back but it's just too late. I love my brother to bits and pieces and he has the purest heart of anyone I know, definitely fits the stereotype of fair, but just gets caught up in his own world sometimes and wonders why the rest of the world didn't wait for him. =[

Gemini's... lets see. I only know Gemini females. I live with two of them. And their relationships are incredibly one sided. The one I know best is dating a Pisces who would give her the world if she would just take it. She pulled the same thing this summer though. After 3 years together, she needed to experience other things. I understand this, she's young, but now that they are back together she wants him to forgive and forget everything she did during their break. What she did she does not consider cheating because they were "on a break" but he considers it a violation of their love purely for the fact that she could be with another man while he is still around. I understand both their sides. But Geminis are definitely flighty. She expects a lot from him and doesn't really give the emotional comfort back to him that he needs.

So I guess, overall, relationships with air signs tend to be one sided. I think they're just afraid to jeapordize the independence they hold so dear, and despite how they feel for a person, whether it be love or not, they find it overwhelming to let go of their freedom and trust another soul wholly and completely. I think with time they learn to accept it, but never as fully as other signs do. For me, a passionate and fiery Leo, I find it kind of sad. But everyone is different. They probably find it sad that I can give up so much of myself for one other person who has the potential to take it all away from me and break it, you know? I don't know... I'm gonna stop rambling lol.

Edit: That's maddening! Not to condone the actions of his Leo wife, but that's how I feel sometimes with my guy. Only I'm not in a marriage and not stuck like she is! If she didn't take control, they probably wouldn't get anywhere. I'm done taking control of things though, it's annoying really! And this is coming from a Leo. I'de rather relax and have fun with my partner and not have to rekindle the ashes every day! I'm glad you're happy with your husband, and I'm glad the Aqua gets to see how happy you are! I'm sure your Aquarian wasn't a bad guy, they never are, but hopefully he's learned a thing or two from you and can hopefully find happiness himself, whether it be with his darling Leo or not ;D.

Answer 2

you have listed examples of how air signs are detached. their is a good distance between their hearts and their minds. they don't really mix the two very well and have advantages and disadvantages from it. you are a cancer. so why are you bugging out over some air signs? you are compatible with the water and earth signs, so why worry about some uncomitted air signs? love them or leave them thats the way to go. acceptance is key obviously, but why mess with air signs if you know you are not compatible with them?

anyways, yes, it is agreed, but it is their nature. the other air signs and the fire signs understand this detached nature very well and actually prefer it to the water and earth signs serious and clinging natures. what water and earth see as detached, flaky, uncommitted, and annoying, the fire and air signs see it as freedom and independence in a relationship.

Answer 3

Well, as you know, the whole birth chart comes into play. Someone with too much air in the chart, and not enough water or earth to balance them out, may be fun, talkative, intellectual, and sociable, but they'll also be extremely detached. They will understand the theories about being in a relationship and how one should act, but they won't actually feel the full emotional weight...So they may appear to be selfish, shallow, and lack depth. Being that you have a water Sun and Moon, you will form strong connections on a deeper emotional level, and it can be hard to put up with the aloofness of air signs. That is why it can be easier to understand those with similar elements in the chart. Of course, we are all capable of learning and evolving, so being involved with those that are different than we are can teach us to get in touch with a different side of ourselves. Air signs can teach water signs to verbalize things, and water signs can teach air to get out of their heads and learn to feel what's in their heart.

However, not all air or water signs will be the same...It all depends on the chart. I am a Libra Sun and Asc., but my Moon is in Cancer, a strong Moon placement, and I feel it's effects very strongly. I am also a firm believer in give and take, which is also very important to Libra, and I will go out of my way for someone close to me, if I know they'll do the same. However, I will not do that for just anyone. I may have a lot of friends and acquaintances, but there are only a few people that are truly important to me. With my Cancer Moon, I am sensitive, and sometimes clingy, but with my air signs, I also can remain very detached. I am very careful about who I let close, because if I allow someone in my heart, it's not easy for me to let them go. If someone is at that level with me, I will go out of my way for them, and I will make sure I'm always there to support them. I will give them my loyalty, my emotional support, and my patience and forgiveness...As long as I know that they would do the same for me.

I dislike selfishness in any relationship...friendship and love alike. Yes, you are right, it's a two way street, and regardless of the sign, if the other person cannot give you what you need, and are unwilling to try, then that is not a good person to be with.  

Answer 4

It's a 50/50.

Answer 5

hahahahaha... a Cancer complaining about other signs being selfish? Stop... you're killing me... hee hee hee... Cancer accusing Aquarius of being stubborn? Oh please...

Seriously, Air and Water (generally speaking) simply do not understand each other... and I can understand why a water sign in need might find some Air Signs less than consoling... Air signs are much lighter, even when they are upset... most Water signs dive to the bottom and stay there when they get upset... Because Air is much more thought oriented, they can shelve their problems and get back to them later... most Water signs can't even imagine putting any emotions on the back burner, even for 5 minutes...

But I think to classify one-quarter of the human race to all be one way is not exactly the finest use of astrology... perhaps it might be more enlightening for you to look at your own chart and see what keeps you from receiving the emotional support you need when you need it...

Answer 6

Using "selfish" to describe all three air signs is too much in my opinion. It is like the same thing as saying all water signs are unintelligent or annoying. They don't all have one-sided relationships, but instead, it's just their nature that gives a tendency to act certain ways. Seems like you've just had experiences with the wrong people or lack understanding of an air sign's nature.