Are my expectations too high?

Question

I'm 14 years old and I've only had one boyfriend (yes I know I'm young and I shouldn't have had lots of boyfriends at this age anyway) but after the first guy i dated, and after i start getting to know a guy pretty well, I don't really feel interested in them. At this age most of the guys just seem so blah and immature. I'm not trying to sound stuck up or super sophisticated i'm just saying that none of the guys I meet seem like my type. I want a boyfriend who is

1. free spirited and open minded

2. kind of artsy

3. mature

4. intelligent and witty

5. intimant and in touch with his emotions

5. A great conversationalist who is outgoing and has alot to say, but also knows how to listen and give great advice

6. I don't really care about looks, but I would like him to be taller than me and hey, the hotter the better

Is this too much to ask for a teen boy?

And if so, should I date around with some nice guys even if i think they're really not my type, just to meet new people and get experience?

Also...as I get older do you think i will find a guy who meets my expectations and matures?

thanks

Answer 1

Don't date guys for experience, thats what dating guys you actually like is for.

And yes, you will be able to find a guy as you get older, because as you get older, they all will too, and they'll mature and change

Answer 2

Are you any of these things?

Or is it a double standard.

Stop worrying about it.

Answer 3

the one thing you will learn

when you get older is no

one will ever meet your expectations perfectly.

Right now you shouldn't even be thinking about finding Mr.Right

you should just be having fun with mr.right now.

give guys a chance because what you think you want will

change into what you NEED in a guy.

take your time right now and dont worry about that special guy

he'll come, but first you just have to deal with a unch of mr.wrong's

to appreciate mr.right.

Answer 4

Well, guys typically mature slower than girls do. So, if you want them to be more mature, you're going to have to talk to an older guy (and even then, you're going to be lucky if they are up to your maturity level). As for the rest of your expectations, good luck! I'm lucky and have a boyfriend who is most of those things, and we've been dating for over a year, but believe me, I have my moments when I get fed up with everything. The thing is, you have to be what you want. Be yourself, and don't look for a boyfriend. If there is one out there for you, you'll meet each other and things will take off. That's how it happened with that boy of mine, and my cousin and friend both did the same thing.. and are now both in happy relationships (although they waited different periods of time).

You're not asking too much. You're just being selective and choosy, which is good in a way, because you won't end up getting involved with someone you shouldn't. For now, don't worry about guys to much. You have the rest of your life for that.

Answer 5

Hi. I'm 14 too. I had "dated" a guy when I was 12. (Very embarrassing). We never went out on a date or anything, but lots of people made a big deal about it. I had never dated anyone before, and this guy seemed way too experienced for me. I am not looking to date anyone, even if they are my kind of guy. I would rather focus on my schoolwork, because I am a Freshman in High School this year. I would wait to date around your Senior year, or college. The guys there are much more mature and up to your type. Hope I helped!

Good luck!

Answer 6

Just hang in there.  You don't need a boyfriend to be complete.  There's LOTS of guys you seek in college and many of them are still teens.  Focus on your schoolwork now and get yourself into a good college and you'll have multiple men of your dreams.

And if I guy comes along in highschool who does interest you, by all means, check em out, but remember too, the person you are today, will be considerably different than the person you are when you're 18.  Consequently, the person you are when you're 22, won't be the same as the one when you were 18.

Get whay I'm sayin?

Answer 7

yea thats a little to high expectations for a teenager

Answer 8

There's nothing wrong with having things you like in a guy, but if you don't keep an open mind to guys who aren't your exact 'dream guy' then you might miss out on getting to know someone really great!

Answer 9

yeah i think your expectations for a teen are a little too high. maybe find someone who has some of those qualities because i doubt your gonna find a teen with all those.

Answer 10

At your age boys are not at your expectations. They need time to mature and get things in order.... don't worry around 16-17 they start to get better.. but 1st things 1st you need to grow up a bit also don't get a  head of your self. every thing takes time:)

Answer 11

For fourteen? Pretty much.

Answer 12

The whole point of dating as a teenager is to discover what you are looking for in an another person... You will find what you want to today will change tomorrow...The person who you fall in love with at 14 is not the person you will be in love with at 20...People  change so don't expect to find your soulmate today....he's probably a work in progress...just like all of us....find someone you have fun with and enjoy today...And if he is perfect today ....people change they get jaded...and will probably change..so enjoy today and focus on the things that make you happy and when you least expect you will find the "one"..